AIBU to judge people on their teeth?

[MercedesDR]

Met a guy on Saturday night who just called me. I refused a date because he has a couple of missing teeth. Okay so maybe I'm shallow but it matters to me.

Why do people kid themselvesi that if teeth are gone at the back it doesn't notice? It does and it makes me cringe. So do rotting, or neglected teeth.

If you want to date, sort it out. Take out a loan if you have to!

Yabu for being so judgemental.
I do however focus on people smiles/teeth when I'm looking for potentail partners as it is what I find attractive but I don't judge anyone for not having perfect teeth either and have dated people with non perfect teeth..

I have a nice smile so I've been told alot but no one would know to look at me that I have permanent gum disease and my teeth are far from straight.
So although my mouth is "attractive" my oral health is tragic.

Exconstance NHS dentists won't do bridges for back teeth, the NHS website can say what it likes but they won't do it, or at least around here they won't.

Yes, they will. I have bridges for back teeth on the NHS.

I realise the OP is winding everyone up but AFAIC teeth and eyes are the most important things above anything else I would spend my money on. Not everyone feels like this and there is nothing wrong with saying you don't particularly fancy someone who has teeth missing, perhaps because it isn't a priority for them and they'd rather spend their money on something else and don't care much. Don't get it personally but there you go. However, missing in the back isn't so noticeable and as long as the rest are clean and well looked after, not a great problem.

But in the front, well, its a persons prerogative to not fancy someone with teeth missing at the front or someone who doesn't care a job about their dental hygiene.

*care a jot (not job!)

I can't find one that will! But then again finding any NHS dentist around here is hard enough

YANBU to not be attracted to someone.

YABU in every other way though.

One of DH's front teeth fell out on our first date! Good job it didn't bother me at all, otherwise I'd have missed out on a great man!

His Mum's teeth aren't good either. It's genetics, childhood diet, diet/illnesses during pregnancy and finally poor dental hygiene. Some things are out of our control. Don't judge!

Poor dental hygiene is in our control though. My teeth aren't good for all the other reasons though but I spend a long time on my dental hygiene - everyone should really. Once they're gone, they're gone (as I know to my cost!)

I've been quoted over 10k for what I need, and treatment can only be done on Nhs... So that's 10k of treatment I couldn't even get privately if I could afford it! The Nhs refuse to even consider me, despite me being in pain most of the time. I've thought about appealing but I've been told outright the treatment is too expensive so I have to deal with the pain.
And yes my teeth look shit.
Please be more sensitive OP.

very judgementle there are many reasons people teeth are not in good conditon. it can be an illness they have had. could be their teeth decay easy. could have a real bad fear of the dentist. or maybe had an accident.

I see my dentist twice a year and hygienist every four months. I look on the money spent as an investment in my health.

I too have heard of people being rejected for jobs because of bad teeth, also for biting fingernails and having a lisp.

I think you're being VVU.

I had the misfortune of Ribena as a child in the 80s (parents didn't know the damage it would cause to my baby teeth) and a series of bad NHS school dentists who would give us kids (remote area of Scotland tugs education poor in oral health) constant fillings so they could claim back off the NHS. So basically, I didn't get the best of starts.

Fast forward many years and my adult teeth are not perfect by any means, but they're me. I have one tooth that simply never grew in, upper right 4. You barely notice as the dentist cleverly added extra to both teeth on either side of the AWOL tooth.

I am a well educated professional (not that that's anything to do with the price of cheese) , would you really look differently at me in a meeting had you noticed my missing tooth?! Some people can't help it.

yanbu we all refuse to date because we don't fancy them for whatever reason that maybe. I wouldn't date someone shorter than 6ft. That's my choice.

It's unreasonable to think badly of him or judge him but not unreasnablr to not find him attractive and therefore not date him. Come on, we all do that, we just don't come on mumsnet and ask for permission!

BTW you shouldn't have led him on/shown interest/given your number if there was no chance.

Either goady fucker or just a cunt

YABU in my opinion but each to their own. As long as the personal hygiene is ok....

Before I was married I would pass on a man if he couldn't laugh me into bed. That would probably be U to you. Different folk and different strokes.

Haha WaitrosePenguin

I'm guessing you are not that old, OP. I had perfect looking teeth until I was about 40-50 before the gum disease took hold. I have had a lot of treatment, root planing etc to try to hold it back and it has gradually got worse, I have now lost several teeth and have a partial lower denture, I can't have implants because of bone loss. I also have several loose teeth because of the gum disease, even though my teeth are fine, what is left of them.

I have got a job though and a DH, people even speak to me at work and out and about, even though my teeth are lacking and it must be really awful for them to see this when speaking to me, I didn't realise they were peering at the gaps at the back of my mouth, I will be more conscious of this now and keep my mouth tightly shut in future.

Just out of interest OP, are you the same person who writes under the name of Mercedes Del Ray? Thinking you are from another thread I saw you had been on.

MNetters search heron Amazon! Words fail me!!!!!

No YANBU you are free to judge people for anything you like especially when it comes to dating. Short, fat, skinny, bald! Doesn't matter really

Can't get the link to copy over but search Bottoms Up, A Kinky Compendium

What the hell?....

You lot are mad. I've been told my grammar is shit, now I'm being accused of writing dirty books.