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This mum is totally unreasonable isn't she? Help me word a reply!

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WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 10:32

My son went to his friends house for a play and tea yesterday. They are both 5. They went to a local soft play.

I went to pick my son up and the husband was there, all good. Had a great time.

I text the mum to say thank you etc and I had this reply...

'No problem! They had a great time at soft play and then they had some dinner there. It came to £10.00. You can give me the money at the gates tomorrow. Have a nice evening! X'

Erm what the fuck? Is that normal? What do I do?

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Whoknewitcouldbeso · 21/01/2016 10:46

I would pay and never agree to a play date again.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 21/01/2016 10:46

Waitrose sounds fine.

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WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 10:46

Fucking hell auto! Moment not movement!

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WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 10:47

Okay, I will send it now... Will let you know if I get a reply

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Alisvolatpropiis · 21/01/2016 10:47

It is rude of her!

Just pay her the money back and next time a play date comes up say nicely "can we discuss what you're planning to do with them as I was a bit surprised last time" or something similar.

QuietWhenReading · 21/01/2016 10:49

No Waitrose, your reply is still a bit confrontational. After all she did take him out, supervise him etc.

Just pay this time and find out the costs next time.

Of course one advantage is that you can charge her for her kids next time too.

LucilleBluth · 21/01/2016 10:49

Three kids.......never once asked a friends mum to pay for an outing! Rude cow bag.

AddToBasket · 21/01/2016 10:49

Yeah, pay it this time and just have a bit less to do with her and her DS. This would really irritate me but just bring it to a close quickly and not put yourself in that position with her again.

£10 would be quite steep for a soft play date round were I am (entrance £2, kids meal £4 max).

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/01/2016 10:50

Yes that message is fine, Waitrose.
Assertive without being aggressive, and straight to the point.

zzzzz · 21/01/2016 10:50

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CaptainWarbeck · 21/01/2016 10:50

Your reply was totally fair waitrose. I hope she feels a bit bad reading it.

Floggingmolly · 21/01/2016 10:51

Did you know she was taking them out?

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 21/01/2016 10:52

I would always offer to pay/reimburse, actually - even if I didn't know in advance. IME, it's rarely accepted though.

I would never text asking for money if I had taken someone elses child out though.

PurpleHairAndPearls · 21/01/2016 10:52

Did she offer to pay for her DC when you took them out before?

Leelu6 · 21/01/2016 10:53

Good text, OP. I would add a line to say:

'Hi X, I'm glad they had a great time. I'm future please could you let me know if there will be costs as I have to really plan our spending at the movement. I also factor in the cost of taking DS's friends out to a meal when I plan activities. Thanks X'

She has no qualms about letting you pay for her DC's meal, so you should have no qualms about mentioning this in your reply.

If she was a stickler for being fair, she would have asked you how much her DS's meal cost.

FairiesAreReal · 21/01/2016 10:53

Ooh what a cheeky bitch Shock
Did she ever offer any money when you took her child out?

Only1scoop · 21/01/2016 10:54

Just Shock

Blimey I'm cringing

Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 21/01/2016 10:54

That is so cheeky, youngest DS is 4 and has gone on a couple of play dates with a friend and had him here, they have both had treats and neither of us would dream of asking the other Mum for money!

Offer to take her DS to a theme park with yours, and then half an hour after you drop him off text and ask for £50 to cover costs.

Cheeky mare, I feel sorry for her DS, he won't get many friends over to play of she carries on like that.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/01/2016 10:55

Don't pay it. She's being a cheeky mare and she knows it. She knows you've taken her child out several times and she's not paid for it. Just say 'Apologies! I didn't realise we were doing it that way. How about we settle up tomorrow at the school gate tomorrow. Want me to text you how much you owe for previous outings?'

There's no way in hell she doesn't know she's being cheeky.

Sunnybitch · 21/01/2016 10:55

'Yea no problem, I'll have it for you then and im glad they enjoyed...thinking about it, do you want me to just take it off the bill you owe me for taking your dc out the last few times? It'll only be 50 you owe me then, don't worry I'll grab it off you at the gates tomorrow' Grin

thelouisee · 21/01/2016 10:56

Of course it's bloody cheeky. Your text was perfect.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/01/2016 10:56
MuttonDressedAsMutton · 21/01/2016 10:59

I think Waitrose and Sunnybitch have both given good examples. It's all very well not wanting to be confrontational or giving in to the good old British Reserve but that is EXACTLY how these ghastly people get away with this shit! If someone stands up to her just for once it might start her thinking.

briss · 21/01/2016 10:59

Cheeky! FWIW I would pay and just not ever do it again.

Branleuse · 21/01/2016 10:59

just pay the tenner and have nothing more to do with her. Cheeky swine

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