To take it with Mumsnet about bullying on here?

[Monty27]

Well I've just done it anyway. And this will probably be deleted. I have just found a really old thread of mine from Christmas 2014 that one of HQ people deleted it on the grounds of that Monty is probably rocking around the Christmas tree. I was really distressed at the time and didn't come back to the thread because my laptop crashed. I now have a new one. (a year later) I have posted sporadically between then and now. Fuming.

Well done

I'll join you for a glass

Not really addressing your specific issue OP about a past thread (since plenty of posters already have) but generally on the theme of bullying, a very effective way to defuse it on Mn is to ignore and not engage. I've had threads (haven't we all?) where I have received personal criticism and a few posters have wilfully and deliberately misunderstood / misquoted me. Over the years I have discovered if you simply ignore those posts and do not respond / attempt to justify yourself or engage with their comments at all, then the goaders get bored and move on to vent their spleen elsewhere. Just reply to the constructive posts and blank the rest. Works a treat

Oh, and I'm pleased you feel better about it all now!

hmc, yes good advice which I will take on board. I have also given myself a very frank 'lighten up' lecture. even about Christmas.

Thanks all. I think even Maryz has forgiven me. [relief]

I cant believe you are still thinking about this thread a year on. Its not normal behaviour Seems like you have issues to address

Did you bother to read the rest of the thread Flat?

This thread has served as such great therapy. I have had the best lesson of my life. I took such a long hard look at myself and asking myself why I should vent at total strangers on a forum? I then eeked out of my head who it was I really need and should shout at.

They are my two stunning dcs that are 20 ds and 22 dd. They are swanning around having these great little lives to themselves, I sit back with delight and really all I've ever strived for is their happiness. And they are happy and gorgeous, but I don't know what to do with myself and get involved in an argument on Mumsnet? WTF? That's not me.

I'm still cringing

Sorry, but did you just say that it is your son and daughter who you really need to shout at?

Leave it out, Grunt, maybe OP means use them as a sounding board.

They're not a couple of toddlers, and we've no idea what's going on in OP's life at the moment.

Yes Grunt I did say that. I'm just sitting at the edge of my seat to sort myself out once they are. I so wish they'd hurry up. I love them to bits. :)

So yes Ronnie they have no clue I'm sitting here playing cool, but I just wish they'd hurry up so I can get an idea of what needs doing for the best for all of us. It's a life changing time. And I've been moaning at you lot. Ffs? I need to take charge.

I will reiterate that in some way. I'm glad I behaved ridiculously by 'shouting' on here. I appreciate the lesson and hope some of you do too, people's reactions have been interesting too.

This thread has reversed me feeling angry and frustrated to completely calming down and appreciate more of the good stuff.

WTF is this all about?

I'm just trying to understand. Don't tell me to "leave it out"! You don't know my own history in terms of mental health problems. FYI it's lifelong and my motivation is to understand and empathise and, if at all possible, to support and help. Nothing else.

Sorry, Monty I cross-posted. I don't like it when people presume others have the worst motives when replying.

I didn't presume anything Grunt.

It was written down though, in black & white, you hadn't misheard what Monty had said to you.

I thought you were being obtuse, my apologies.

Maryz you are a star, pmsl about the c word

Now come on peeps, take a hard look at why you are bickering. It's not worth it. I've had a right kick up the arse the last couple of days for bickering and you couldn't pay for it, the better I feel now and hope it lasts a lifetime.

Most of us have been there OP.

If you feel you're being bullied, just state you're leaving the thread, do just that and cut off their oxygen supply

Life's too short.

Be warned, I will be bickering with every fecker...not only bdry January but bloody Feb and march too, due to medication I am on....will be on a thread with just myself to talk to

Monty really glad you're feeling better! Only you know if something is worth bickering or not, and I'm happy you found out for yourself that it wasn't!
Nice to see some love in MN!