To take it with Mumsnet about bullying on here?

[Monty27]

Well I've just done it anyway. And this will probably be deleted. I have just found a really old thread of mine from Christmas 2014 that one of HQ people deleted it on the grounds of that Monty is probably rocking around the Christmas tree. I was really distressed at the time and didn't come back to the thread because my laptop crashed. I now have a new one. (a year later) I have posted sporadically between then and now. Fuming.

Agreed sooty.

This is all very complicated

That's how I understand it to be usual.

Wow that's complicated usual.

OP I think you need to let it go now

In the words of Elsa......

Let it go

Yes Usual that's about right. And why shouldn't I? Yes I could let it go, but on the other hand why should I?

Anyway, Mumsnet couldn't find it and are supportive.

Yes I should let it go. However I believe there's a facility to hide threads from particular posters, so I hope that person knows who they are and if my posts piss them off they can after all, just hide me.

Thanks from supportive posts. I was just a bit over sensitive possibly.

How would that person know who they are?

There's a Hide Thread function but not a Hide Thread from Particular Poster function, or a Hide Poster function although we have asked repeatedly.

Letting it go is a good idea.

I think the poster does remember me as a poster on here. Not in real life obviously. However I just searched again for the 2014 offensive post and its well gone. So there's no argument. And yes life's too short I have no choice other than to let it go.

Thanks for positive messages and I willl just stop being ridiculously pissed off :)

@Monty27

Yes Usual that's about right. And why shouldn't I? Yes I could let it go, but on the other hand why should I?

Anyway, Mumsnet couldn't find it and are supportive.

Yes I should let it go. However I believe there's a facility to hide threads from particular posters, so I hope that person knows who they are and if my posts piss them off they can after all, just hide me.

Thanks from supportive posts. I was just a bit over sensitive possibly.

Erm. We have found it.
It's not a deletion message just a post in a thread.

We do all understand that we can have a bad day and feel oversensitive but please be assured that we at MNHQ work very hard to keep these boards a great place to hang out and a useful place to seek support and advice.

We try to have a SOH but at HQ are dealing daily with serious issues such as MH, DV and bereavement and sometimes the written word can come across as flippant.

To clarify:

• it was not DawnMumsnet though we are all equal at Mumsnet Towers. It was another member of HQ making a lighthearted and mildly amusing pun. (wasn't me either, )

• there were no intentions at all to cast any aspersions about the OP being a troll.

Trust this clears this up
Technically this is a TAAT, but we don't like to close down any discussion of HQ's policy.

Do please continue to report anything about which you are concerned. We read and reply to EVERY SINGLE ONE that comes in.

Peace and love
MNHQ

Dawn

Sorry its upset you OP. I don't think MNHQ meant to offend you but it was christmas time so the comment probably seemed appropriate to them in jokey fashion. It seems like its reminded you of an upsetting period in your life, when you weren't feeling good. If its playing on your mind hopefully once sorted with MNHQ its done and dusted, and you'll feel better

Just realised MNHQ responded, didnt show up on my phone screen before! All well that ends well..

How can anyone see that thread If it's deleted? I only found one from June 14 talking about the same thing

Anyway OP sometimes it's true things can get to us for years especially if we have other things going on which I suspect you do ... I really hope you have no health or otherwise issues now and now that you have a new laptop you can join MN properly again

Poor Dawn MN.

Can I just make a little complaint as well?

My thread the other day was deleted which I was fine with, and originally the deletion message said that the thread broke the talk guidelines which it did because of a couple of sad individuals.
Now the deletion message says it turned in to a bun fight. Er no, it was a bit more than that at the end.

I wonder if it was a post made by the OP that got deleted rather than a whole thread?

I've found your thread from June 2014. You wanted Christmas to have it's own topic. (A poster pointed out it already did.)

Another poster made a quip about you probably rocking in a corner. Due to Christmas bring discussed on MN in June! That's fair enough surely?

MNHQ counter quipped and played on words by saying you were probably rocking around a Christmas tree.

What part of that do you perceive as bullying?

Not sure about bullying but the responses she seemed a bit off to me too

CantWaitForWarmWeather

(I think you're the poster I'm thinking of, but I'm terrible with names)

I agree, it was more than a bunfight, it turned into bullying of the OP and, not so much troll hunting, but forcing the OP to admit they had previously posted under a different name (which is allowed anyway).

Exactly LeeLu. It was absolutely uncalled for and now it's been demoted to just being a bit of a bun fight.

Why is OP saying that thread was deleted when it's still there? I've just found it too. I agree with PP that there was no bullying whatsoever on that thread, it all seemed good-natured.