To quit my job and try for a baby

[otterlylovely]

Insane, or perfectly logical?

If you knew you wanted a baby and then your situation at work became untenable - what would you do?

Good luck OP and I agree a donor conception board would be a good idea. Hopefully it would stop people like Imperial coming out with uninformed and unhelpful comments.

fidel1ne - that other poster was a troll. I don't think the OP is and I don't think she sounds remotely paranoid. Some posters have been fucking vile to her.

I think half the posters on here should have had counselling before having children to be honest - at least the OP is planning on how she'll manage finances and she sounds like she has a lot more financial stability than most people.

You have to anyway. It isn't a bad thing at all, and I may well have more of it to help prepare me, but at the moment, it's expensive and my priorities are not there right now.

Lynda

OP, I really don't get the angst about thinking about and planning for a child as a single parent. There would be no issue against a woman who had no stability/didn't plan in kids and was pregnant from a One night stand having a baby.
I don't see why people who need help in the form of surrogacy/donor/adoption etc are always selfish. Or told "just adopt". Why should people just adopt, and why not say it to the newly married couple who want a baby.

Going against the grain to say that if having a child is important to you then I'd do it. You're not a teenager, you've had time to think about it. You've got a job (even if it's poorly paid).

I've known women who haven't had DC and bitterly regretted it later. I know others have already mentioned, but it may take longer than you expect as age is against you. I've got 2 DC and am in my mid 30s, we've been trying for DC for a while with no luck. Each baby has taken a bit longer to conceive, presumably due to our decreasing fertility.

Sorry for the work stress you've experienced.

I don't think those are the right reasons for having a child - but that's just my view and I can see not the opinion most other posters have.

I had a child so that they could find a cure for cancer so my motives are pure. Little bugger isn;t playing along as he's planning to be a minecraft game designer. This isn;t working out how I planned at all...

Oh Kewcumber! We had so much hope!

Well - for info, I've decided I won't be trying until I have a job I can comfortably pay childcare fees with, which I have at present but for reasons I have briefly outlined I don't feel I wish to continue in, so I need to find a new one.

Generally I come to the 'right' conclusion on my own - but no insults are necessary amongst the way!