AIBU to be thinking about calling off the wedding over a "wedding watch?"

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,e and DH are getting married this summer. we set a budget of £20000 and are so far below that budget. we agreed at the start that anything left over would be used as spending money on our honeymoon.

DH came home the other day looking very proud of himself and said that he got himself a wedding watch. Ive never heard of such a thing, and he said that because were well under our budget that he could afford to buy himself a watch for the big day. he likes his designer watched and has a case with at elast 10 on his dresser (all rolex, omega etc).

the watch he bought cost £4000! His reasoning was that my dress, ring, shoes, hair, makeup and bridesmaids dresses/shoes/gifts cost more than his watch did and were still under budget. wed still leave us with 1000 to take on our honeymoon. I am absolutely fuming that he'd spend so much money just on himself. we had a big row and he went to sleep round his mums place (didnt even take the watch wtih him). im seriously considering calling off the wedding. how can he not see this from my point of viwe?

Seems a very cheap wedding, maybe you should get a job and then you can afford something decent and the watch won't matter.

I would go mad at this. £4000 watch when he already has 10 designer watches? madness
It doesnt compare to a dress which is clearly needed and traditional
The flouncing off is also a big issue for me

It would've been nice if he'd discussed it with you first but I can't really see the problem.
I bought DH a watch instead of a wedding ring, he wears it daily 25 years later.
Sounds like money isn't a problem so why not?

A 4k dress is not traditional.

But the housework isn't automatically your responsibility

It is in some cultures. The OP seems to be entirely comfortable with the role she is choosing.

OP - are you from the travelling community in Ireland? The amount you are both spending on outfits/jewelry sounds completely out of whack with the cost of your honeymoon/overall cost of the wedding.

I was more on the op's side untill she clarified that she doesn't work so she can enjoy going to lunch with her friends, and she spent nearly the £4k on a wedding dress.

I initially thought YANBU, but actually £4k on a watch that is likely to retain value (therefore is an asset) is better spent than more than £4k on clothes/makeup etc for one day. It is wholly fair IMHO for him to spend the same value on himself as your rings cost.

However OP I think you have bigger fish to fry. Husband to be running off to his Mummy's? I would need to rethink that.

Are trolls allowed to get married? There's no way this is real.

There is no way you will call off the wedding, you know it and so does he.

You have him where you want him, working, earning and supporting you so you can lunch and spend thousands on a dress.

He has you where he wants you, totally reliant on him.

When it all goes tits up it is going to be on a major scale.

Shoeaddict - I did (half-jokingly) suggest a thread #2 to the OP

What is the female version of 'cocklodger'?

Flangemate?

I think the OPs pils are going to know where their £20k went when they turn up to a wedding that cost £11k.

May be less that 11k if you paid for the honeymoon out of that.

My motto for relationships is; hope for the best, plan for the worst. you have the first bit down, OP. Try for a little of the second. Just in case.

Give the OP a break, she has said that she can see things from her fiancés side now...

Labial Layabout

Sounds just like my twat of an exH, and his wife to be!
What an amusing thread

Haha! That's my aim in my life, to be Leelu the Labial Layabout, thanks WH

Minge Sponger

Punani Parasite

Labial Layabout has just absolutely killed me.

What is the female version of 'cocklodger'?

Flangemate?

MN needs a "you owe me a new keyboard" icon.

This is a joke? You're filthy rich and don't work? Your partner is entitled to some of the money given to him..I dread to think how much your dress was and I'm assuming your didn't discuss the price with him? Entitled drama queen with no idea of the problems most people face.

Firstly 4k on a watch is insane. But that's because I'd be spending it on new windows. If I had the money for it though - why not?

I bought my husband a wedding watch (a £250 Rotary which is designer in our books) and he bought me a new Chamilia bangle with Swarovski beads to roughly the same value. It was extravagant but we very rarely buy such things and certainly wouldn't have done it for any other occasion so it was a good excuse.

I can see his point and to be fair, if the money is a way of doing inheritance then technically it is his. That being said he definitely should have discussed it with you first I'd never make such a decision without DH.

It's likely a spur of the moment splurge (that isn't such a big deal in his eyes as he already has a case full of watches) and I wouldn't call off the wedding for it.

I was really pleased with Labial Layabout. Glad to see other people like it!

" we have a very large house so wed need a maid if i worked"

LOLZ!

we have a separate account which we use fot all wedding expenses which started at 20000, now has about 1000. he has access to this online so i gueess that he did the maths from that.

He has access to this money. Do you?

If not, get your trainers on, you'll be running a long way, very fast.