To not move on the train?

[TheCatsMeow]

I was on a very busy packed train with my friend and DS. DS was in a sling, we had the buggy and I was feeding him. We were standing by the doors (no one offered us seats!) trying to feed a screaming baby, penned in by others standing. There was no where we could go.

People tried to push past us to get out the doors and nearly sent DS flying. I firmly asked if they could use one of the other doors and I literally couldn't go anywhere. Cue mutterings and dirty looks!

We couldn't collapse the pram there wasn't room to do and as no one had offered a seat we couldn't move anywhere! WIBU to ask them to use another door?

If you're comfortable with asking people to use another door, why didn't you ask them earlier to move aside a bit and let you collapse the buggy?

I know it's a pain to travel with a young child. I do it all the time! But there are ways to make it easier, and blocking the doors with an unfolded, empty pram is not one of them.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow im hoping the thread is a windup, or you are right, op is just one rude very entitled parent.
This thread will be deleted.
Op will never see she was wrong

Ask yourself: "What would happen if everyone behaved this way?"

In this particular situation - you would not have been able to get on the train in the first place, because some other parent and buggy would have been blocking the door.

YABU.

I'm so sick of commuters thinking they own public transport.

That's almost the funniest thing I've read on MN all week. But only almost, because last night there was a picture of Postman Pat and the farmer in a rather intriguing position.

I just love the sheer dogged determination of posters like the OP who just will not ever concede they are unreasonable or in the wrong, takes a very special sort of arrogance to be so stubborn.

So you carried the baby on the sling all day. Maybe you could have just left the buggy at home. People pushing empty buggies into your shins are the worst as the buggy is serving no purpose other than shopping trolley, and shopping trolleys are much smaller.

When you've carried an 18lb baby all day in a sling despite having a disability yourself you're tired and just want to get home.

I have NO patience for people who don't help themselves, then except the world to revolve around them.

Why did you use the buggy all day if your baby is so damn heavy? And if they don't LIKE the buggy, why did you have it with you? Just to carry your shopping?

If you don't want to deal with busy trains, get on them during off-peak hours.

Also ask yourself: "What would happen if there was an emergency?" You'd have blocked an essential exit.

Commuters who just miss their train will either be late for work, or home. Some of them as I said are precious mums, like you OP, and have to get back for their children. Commuters don't do it for shits and giggles.
You actually had a choice about when to travel, and doing so in rush hour is foolish and probably counter productive.

However, if I see a mum with a baby/toddler on my commute I'd happily give up my seat for them. But I wouldn't miss my train because they were blocking the aisle with prams and shopping.

Your friend sounds a massive tool btw, how was he unable to help?

Ah I see, you're one of these precious 'only person to have ever had a child' people.

YABU.

This is hilarious

OP: AIBU?
Everybody: Yes
OP: Okay, what if I change my story a bit?
Everybody: Still yes
OP: NO I'M NOT, FFS. What if I change my story a bit more? Please agree with me.
Everybody: YABVVVVU now
OP: JUST FUCKING AGREE WITH ME

So much dumb. So, so much dumb.

Would you concede, Cat, that next time you ought to fold the buggy before boarding? Or, ask people to temporarily move down the aisles between stops so you can fold the buggy? And, ask to sit in a priority seat if these exist? Also, ask someone if you can sit to feed the baby rather than wait for someone to offer?

Of course, no one should be rude to you, but equally it's not on to block the exit when you didn't actually have to.

YABU.

You need to fold the buggy, if you don't want to do that don't travel at rush hour.

Why did you have the buggy if you had been carrying your baby all day anyway?

Blocking the doors is utterly stupid.

So you would have left your buggy in other people's way, making life harder for everyone else on a busy train? Yet it's others who are inconsiderate?

How the hell did you even get on the train with an upright buggy?
It wouldn't occur to me to even try there is very little room for manoeuvre even on an empty train.

At least you know for next time, fold the buggy on the platform or just take the sling and shop online

Yes, "I'll dripfeed that I have a disability so you all start to feel sorry for me." No.

Also, I like how "took my baby out for the day" is code for "went shopping".

Why didn't you grab one of the seats when people were getting off?

I'm afraid you're coming across as more and more unreasonable as this threas goes on OP.

Anyway, why didn't you move down into the aisle? Sounds to me like you were the one stopping all the commuters spreading out. Everybody who got on behind you had a right to be on the train too!

And more to the point - why didn't you just head home from your day out an hour earlier to avoid the hassle of travelling on a rush hour train with a baby, a sling, a buggy and several bags?! Honestly.

Commuters do think they own public transport, they always stand in doorways telling people which doors they can and can't use..... oh....wait.....

Idiots who pushed on behind me

Words fail me.

KakiFruit

How I love being able to take my car into work and not have to deal with selfish passengers on a daily basis any more.

To be fair to the OP, at least she didn't leave the unfolded empty buggy blocking the doors or in the wheelchair space and then bugger off elsewhere to sit down. Drives me insane when people do that.

I didn't fold it beforehand because while I was trying to the train came so I didn't have time.