To not move on the train?

[TheCatsMeow]

I was on a very busy packed train with my friend and DS. DS was in a sling, we had the buggy and I was feeding him. We were standing by the doors (no one offered us seats!) trying to feed a screaming baby, penned in by others standing. There was no where we could go.

People tried to push past us to get out the doors and nearly sent DS flying. I firmly asked if they could use one of the other doors and I literally couldn't go anywhere. Cue mutterings and dirty looks!

We couldn't collapse the pram there wasn't room to do and as no one had offered a seat we couldn't move anywhere! WIBU to ask them to use another door?

[lorelei9]

OP, going home from...?

[TheCatsMeow]

*Op you do realise people with disabilities don't walk around with stamps on their heads don't you?
I have disabilities however you couldn't tell looking at me! *

Yes. I have hyper mobility myself and my joints are in agony a lot of the time. I should have said I wasn't asking anyone in a wheelchair or Crutches to use another door.

[lunar1]

How the fuck do you know why is and isn't an able bodied adult?

[goodnightdarthvader1]

So you'd spent a day shopping, and people who have been at work all day should miss their stop to avoid inconveniencing you.

Get outta here.

[lorelei9]

sorry, I should add, all the bags made me wonder if you were going home from shopping at rush hour. If you were at work, picking up baby from creche, then collecting some shopping, I see that means you didn't have a choice, but the friend and abundance of bags just made me wonder.

I hate rush hour transport with a passion so I'd do a lot to avoid it.

[CultureSucksDownWords]

Can I ask why you didn't fold the buggy before getting on the train? Between you and your friend you could have managed that on the platform, I would have thought?

[ShesGotLionsInHerHeart]

OP, clearly you could have got off the train at a stop to fold the buggy. If it was your stop presumably you would have found a way to get off, instead of just staying on the train to the end of the line...

[TheCatsMeow]

of course its your fault - and you must wrestle the baby and buggy and bags combo when the uncumbered commuters can't display empathy.

Commuters are always rude with no time for anyone IME. Fucks me off.

[lorelei9]

OP "Yes. I have hyper mobility myself and my joints are in agony a lot of the time. I should have said I wasn't asking anyone in a wheelchair or Crutches to use another door."

so what about anyone with hyper mobility not using crutches!!!

[TheCatsMeow]

It doesn't matter where we were coming for we are allowed to use the train like anyone else. As it happened we'd taken my DS out for the day. Is that a problem?

[Walkingintheraindrops]

Ah loreli I missed the OP saying the buggy folds. Apologises.
I take my non folding buggy on trains all the time, never a problem. They're not all packed nose to nose with the buggy blocking the entire doorway

[kali110]

You said abled bodied? How do you know they were? I am not! I may end up in a wheelchair but right now i am not in a chair or on crutches.
I look very young and healthy so i get people assuming ( on public transport a lot!) that there is nothing wrong with me!
You can not know if there was anything wrong with the people you were telling to use the other door!
If that had have been me i would have missed my stop!

[TheCatsMeow]

Lorelai then you can walk to the other door. I always go out of my way to help other people if I can, why is it unreasonable to occasionally expect the same back?

[insancerre]

Why did you need the buggy if you had the sling?
And why didn't you fold the buggy before getting on the train?

[miaowmix]

"Commuters are always rude with no time for anyone IME. Fucks me off."

Yes, bloody commuters, doing shit like trying to get to work on time or get home to pick up our children from childcare. Bastards. Some of us are mums too, OP

YABU, so unbelievably entitled. And rude. And yes it is also true that cyclists are not allowed to bring their bikes on the trains during rush hour (in London at any rate).

[BIWI]

Commuters are not always rude. But you are being rude and very entitled.

[TheCatsMeow]

I doubt every commuter was disabled and in a rush and that's why they had to push past me?

[kali110]

Ahh yes becAuse they couldn't possibly be going to work could they?

[firesidechat]

Of course you can collapse a buggy. In the olden days when I had small children you had to put the pushchair down when you got on the bus. People managed somehow, without any drama.

[TheCatsMeow]

I'm not in London. Cyclists use the train all the time.

It's not entitled to expect a bit of empathy when using a train, Jesus.

[kali110]

I worked for over a decade with severe disabilities.