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Original poster

To not move on the train?

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TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 12:30

I was on a very busy packed train with my friend and DS. DS was in a sling, we had the buggy and I was feeding him. We were standing by the doors (no one offered us seats!) trying to feed a screaming baby, penned in by others standing. There was no where we could go.

People tried to push past us to get out the doors and nearly sent DS flying. I firmly asked if they could use one of the other doors and I literally couldn't go anywhere. Cue mutterings and dirty looks!

We couldn't collapse the pram there wasn't room to do and as no one had offered a seat we couldn't move anywhere! WIBU to ask them to use another door?

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TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 17:13

I do think but I'm not a planner if that's what you mean

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Luckygirlcharlie · 12/01/2016 17:13

Like calling many thousands of lovely people 'twats' you mean

kali110 · 12/01/2016 17:13

OP, so are you saying it's OK for people to not be able to get off the train and end up somewhere totally different to where they wanted to like I did so people like you can put your pushchair in front of the doors? hmm

This

Notso · 12/01/2016 17:13

Even if the op and her baby had been offered a seat, her clumsy friend and buggy would still have been blocking the doors.
If the train was a packed as OP suggests it's likely every door was blocked by standing passengers, which is probably OP why people who needed to get off the train just went to the nearest door.

Only1scoop · 12/01/2016 17:13

Yabu
Blocking an exit and directing pax through another carriage!!

Thurlow · 12/01/2016 17:14

I thought other parents would be supportive

They would be. If you weren't clearly in the wrong.

kali110 · 12/01/2016 17:14

No you asked if you were right and you've been told that 99.99% think you were wrong and rude.
People on here are very supportive but you were wrong.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/01/2016 17:15

Well perhaps people's extreme replies should be an indication of how ridiculous you are.

donadumaurier · 12/01/2016 17:15

You CANNOT ask people to use another door as they're trying to get off a train given there's a limited amount of time in which to get off before the train leaves again. If the train is crowded, you are going to get squashed by people trying to get past you, because they aren't going to accept staying on until you get off just because you've got a baby. If you have an issue with that, don't use public transport. It really is that simple.

ishallconquerthat · 12/01/2016 17:16

Next time, you tap on someone on the shoulder and ask them to give you their seat. Problem solved.

lorelei9 · 12/01/2016 17:16

OP "I thought other parents would be supportive."

I am willing to bet about 80% of savings that most of the people on your train were parents as well - the ones who wanted you to do them the basic courtesy of letting them through the door.

you say you're not a planner - I think rule 1 of using public transport, without getting yourself stressed, is planning, esp when you have a baby in a sling and a buggy and shopping.

HackerFucker22 · 12/01/2016 17:16

Surely no pram is big enough to block a whole door? Unless you parked it across a whole door which is stupid, selfish and VU.

DickDewy · 12/01/2016 17:16

MNers are very supportive when the need arises.

MrsWhirling · 12/01/2016 17:18

What the F does YABU mean??

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 12/01/2016 17:19

YABU = You are being unreasonable.

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TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 17:20

No I wasn't wrong. This is a MN thing, like ERF car seats that no one uses in real life and toilet brushes.

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TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 17:21

you say you're not a planner - I think rule 1 of using public transport, without getting yourself stressed, is planning, esp when you have a baby in a sling and a buggy and shopping.

I have never had a problem before though.

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MrsWhirling · 12/01/2016 17:22

Haha! Thanks for explaining YABU.

Bubblesinthesummer · 12/01/2016 17:22

No I wasn't wrong

So what is the point then?

P.S Maybe take a less clumsy friend with you next time. I take people with me that can actually help.

Original poster
TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 17:23

I don't choose my friends based on whether they can fold prams

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manamanah · 12/01/2016 17:23

OP: was I being unreasonable in expecting other people to realise the world revolves around me now that I am a mother?
MN: 21 pages of a resounding YABU
OP: I wasn't being unreasonable. I only came on because I expected my inflated sense of my own self importance to be validated. Now I'm being told I was unreasonable I'm going to complain that my feelings are hurt Hmm Biscuit

DeAtHnOtE · 12/01/2016 17:24

AIBU?
Yes
500+ messages

NO I'M NOT!

Gold.

YoungGirlGrowingOld · 12/01/2016 17:24

OP you need better friends Grin

And a car!

donadumaurier · 12/01/2016 17:24

It absolutely is not a MN thing OP, it's a basic human decency thing. The whole world does not revolve around you just because you have a baby. I bet you you'd be on here complaining if you hadn't been able to get off the train because of someone blocking the door Hmm

sparechange · 12/01/2016 17:25

I have never had a problem before though

Are you this head-thumpingly frustrating in real life as well?

I've never had a problem with contraception fails, but that doesn't mean it is right or sensible to wing it, or to whinge when winging it doesn't work out how I hoped

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