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Original poster

to be irritated by people being entitled (some would call it cheeky) when advertising for items wanted?

155 replies

M48294Y · 09/01/2016 21:44

Just seen one today on a local Wanted board. Someone wants a fairly expensive item and has said "I'm a teacher so would be grateful if I could get this for a low price".

Wtf?

Wtf has being a teacher got to do with it, unless she genuinely believes teachers are somehow more deserving than other folk?

Its been bugging me ALL day it has Grin

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80schild · 10/01/2016 09:16

People just expect to pay nothing for things nowadays and it really gets on my nerves. When I think about it, I think someone probably worked really hard to afford the things in their house and it devalues that effort when someone asks for items for free - it doesn't have to be a lot but just enough to acknowledge the value of the item. I never give things away unless it is to charity - if someone wants something of mine they can pay a reasonable price for it or buy it new.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 10/01/2016 09:23

I once offered someone a stokke pram system and high chair in lovely condition apparently they were desperate they replied with

I said for a girl.

It was green!

Hoppinggreen · 10/01/2016 09:37

The cheekiest one I ever saw was on the local board of a well known patenting website. There was a big sob story asking for lots of free baby stuff but then the next request was from the same person asking for a very specific and unnecessary item of clothing for herself that she was willing to pay up to £50 for.

MockTheWeek · 10/01/2016 09:48

There was a girl on one of my local selling pages recently asking for emergency baby things as she was a single mum and her baby had arrived early so she was unprepared. Plus she needed it to be delivered as she doesn't drive. People were really generous and gave her loads of stuff. Then a couple of weeks later she popped up selling half of it on a different page Hmm

When people ask "anyone selling xxxx?" I want to respond with "yes, Argos".

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M48294Y · 10/01/2016 10:42

Blue14 - as I have now said three times, I DO know that she wants it for home not school! Ffs!. Have you seen the advertisement? No! Have I? Yes! I do 100% know it is for herself not for school. You don't see many school teachers taking their class away in the half term holiday to a country cottage with their husband and child do you?? Hmm

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Pipbin · 10/01/2016 10:46

Now that you say it was for a holiday cottage I think her mentioning that she is a teacher is relevant.
It means that she is restricted to only school holidays so it needs to be available then and it means that she is stuck paying higher prices for holidays even if she doesn't have DC.

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M48294Y · 10/01/2016 10:56

So she is more deserving of a cheap deal above anyone else with school aged children? No, I disagree. Even in London teachers earn above the average salary. And holidays in the half term are a huge luxury - if you can't afford it you don't go!

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StrugglingFool · 10/01/2016 10:58

Being a teacher does make her stuck... it doesn't make her entitled to cheap holidays. He chose her career. It's not up to someone else to subsidise her holidays. She's still cheeky.

KwickNC · 10/01/2016 10:58

Pipbin everyone with a child has to pay half term prices for holidays regardless of being a teacher just because she's a teacher doesn't mean it should be discounted

SuburbanRhonda · 10/01/2016 11:06

Did she say she deserves it more than anyone else with school-age children?

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M48294Y · 10/01/2016 11:09

Yes, otherwise why mention it?

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Hamiltoes · 10/01/2016 11:24

I've been stung so many times with giving things away only to find them back on selling pages I completely gave up. Mostly baby related things, prams, snow suits, moses basket stand etc.

I also get really annoyed when I see things like "few marks but just needs a good clean" when they're asking for money. Clean it!!

And then theres the ones who will sell anything, trainers that have absolutely no life left in them which should really be binned and they want £10. Its funny mines is called the bargain page and yet I can't think of ever seeing anything that wasn't completely overpriced or in horrible condition.

OurBlanche · 10/01/2016 11:43

Crikey. Seems the reason for Freecycle has been forgotten.

Why would you need to know why someone needs/wants something?

The point of Freecycle was to reduce the amount of stuff that went into landfill. So it doesn't matter if the person wanting the whatever can afford to buy a new one, the point was that they were willing to take a second hand one and so reduce waste.

Next door recently took out their kitchen, oak doors etc. They found someone who was specifically looking for an oak kitchen to fit their period house, so off it went. Yes, they could have afforded to buy one, but there was one going free!

We also have a couple of different furniture recycling places. One takes knackered stuff, it trains people to fix them up. The other only takes good stuff, it helps people set up their homes (kids from care, flood relief etc). Most places have similar, you just email them and they collect.

But unless you can be bothered to take serious steps to sell your unwanted stuff why get mithered about what happens to it next? It is out of your house, surely that was the point? If someone else gets off their arse to sell it, good on them! If it is precious to you either keep it or sell it yourself!

StrugglingFool · 10/01/2016 12:00

No one has said that free cycle is a bad thing (the OP wasn't even about frrecycle but I think I derailed this post by mentioning it... oops... sorry!) It's the tone of the 'wanted' ads that people (me included) object to.

There are many examples her of " have a new baby / flat ..." etc with desperate pleas for free stuff but only if it's exactly what they want. It doesn't tally to be picky when literally begging. There's a cliché about that I believe.

Also to post wanted ads for stuff that is hugely expensive and then want them delivered having not wanted to pay for them in the first place is just .... well... cheeky! Cheeky seems to be my favourite word on this post but it seems to fit.

Free cycle et al are fab. People have too much stuff and other benefitting from our excess is great. However, some people just take the piss.

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M48294Y · 10/01/2016 12:01

No, indeed, my op wasn't about Freecycle Grin

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SerenityReynolds · 10/01/2016 12:04

I have just seen one selling In The Nightgarden toys - most of them are the cheap plastic ones that come free with the magazine! Confused

Some people are cheeky feckers.

OurBlanche · 10/01/2016 12:11

But even the fb Wanted pages are a way of getting shot of crap you don't want. If you don't like what someone might do with your cast of stuff then just don't get rid of it.

It's the same principle, isn't it?

The perpetual car booters are usually really obvious. I have dumped all sorts of crap on them. Saves me going Smile

As for the wants for expensive stuff - so what? If you have it and don't want it how else would you get rid of it? If the answer is "I could have sold it" then sell it! Stop moaning about the cheeky feckers. They won't get your precious goods anyway!

I say that as someone who has asked for and received a very expensive serger (sewing machine) for free, and yes, the lady delivered and has since dropped off other bits and bobs she found later.

DizzyDancer · 10/01/2016 12:18

I have nothing against freecycle or free sites.

Why pay if you can get it for free?

It's the sob stories that irritate me.

It's like the one I posted. Because it was just Christmas and she has a 5 year old, she can't afford things such as clothes for her unborn child. Surely if you are having another baby, you find the money somewhere

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M48294Y · 10/01/2016 12:22

Yes, its the lying. Some people don't mind being lied to.

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Asskicker · 10/01/2016 12:23

It's not about wether people want to give stuff away or not.

It's about cheekiness of people who insist on things being in mint condition, free and delivered.

It is cheeky. That's what the tread is about. It's not about banning people asking for free stuff.

It's also about people asking for better deals on the basis of their job/circumstances.

As people say if you don't ask you don't get. Doesn't stop it being a bit cheeky though.

Some people take these threads so personally

Witchend · 10/01/2016 12:25

Wanted: Used £10 and £20 notes. I'm a collector and am interested in any of these that have a serial number I don't have. Please don't waste my time with lower notes.

Pm me if you can help.

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Pipbin · 10/01/2016 12:27

So she is more deserving of a cheap deal above anyone else with school aged children? No, I disagree.

No, I'm not saying she deserved it, I'm not saying that she is entitled to have it cheaper. What I am saying is that her being a teacher was relevant. There is no point in someone offering her a holiday cottage for a date that isn't in the holidays.

I still think it's a cheek.

OurBlanche · 10/01/2016 12:30

But that cheekiness just highlights the fact that they are in the business of flogging stuff on. Makes them really easy to ignore. If they stopped being so blatant then you'd never be able to avoid them.

As for asking for better deals based on circumstances... when we moved we gave all our garden stuff to a man who was a gardener. He said he had lost some stuff when his van was stolen. I have no ideae if that was true or not, but he was a gardener, he had long running adverts in the local magazines, and could make use of the stuff we wanted to get rid of.

My point is that I don't care if they are cheeky, it just makes them easy to ignore. I don't see the point in being pissed off by them!

Asskicker · 10/01/2016 12:33

My point is that I don't care if they are cheeky, it just makes them easy to ignore. I don't see the point in being pissed off by them!

Tbh I don't see the point in people being pissed off about the stuff on at least half the Aibu threads.

Isn't that what's it's for?

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M48294Y · 10/01/2016 12:45

I think what you wanted to say was Yabu, OurBlanche.

Pipbin - she said "looking for a holiday cottage for xx and xx and xx (family members) in the half term holiday. Am a teacher so would be grateful to have a reduced rate".

So she mentioned the teaching because she (somehow??) felt she should be entitled to a discount, not because she was specifying the dates.

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