To find getting older so incredibly sad

[GrillPanEddy]

All of a sudden I feel old. I'm 35 which I know is by no means ancient but physically I'm starting to feel it - little aches and niggles, grey hairs, wrinkles, sagging. Nothing that major but it just keeps dawning on me that I'm getting older.

I bump into people I used to know in my teens and think "fuck they look old".

Looking at my parents getting older breaks my heart. My dad in particular - late 60s and getting grumpy, a bit lazy, a bit slow, a bit out of touch with what's going on. He used to be so lively and in the know about everything.

I feel like my time, my family's time is a all so bloody short. Life is running away from us and making us old in the process. Time goes sooooo quickly these days, the years are merging into each other.

I don't want to get old and don't want others around me to get old. I don't want to see my lovely DH get old.

I don't want to deteriorate mentally or physically but kind of think I've hit my peak without even realizing and it's just age age age from here on in.

Makes me so sad. Feels like a ridiculously unfair part of life. Though I also get how ridiculous that sounds too.

They are rare at 80+ but not at 60+.
I took up running at retirement and managed the half marathon.
Don't let age put you off things.

My present experience is that people are generally fine these days until about 83+ when problems of old age start to kick in.

I actually don't feel like a grown up woman inside my head - I rarely wear make up or heels, have never dyed my hair or been on a diet. Maybe I will grow up one day ?

me too. Thank fuck none of this crap is compulsory!!

the reading glasses are a bore though!

Generally fine until their 80's! What tosh.

I am sure this has been said already but better to grow old, than die young

my friend died last year, and that put so much into perspective

It was certainly true of my grandparents and my dh's grandparents. My mum is in her early 70s and has friends in the early 80s who definitely still enjoying life despite some physical issues. Playing bridge, chess, book clubs, walking groups, charity work, bowling etc, grand children and great grandchildren. Just because that sounds dull to a young person doesn't mean you aren't enjoying many aspects of your life. My neighbour who is in his late 70s isn't in good health ( a life long bon viveur) but still does guest lectures in his medical speciality and is regarded as an expert in his field. He seems to get a great des of satisfaction about being needed and respected.

Not tosh at all! My mother redesigned her garden and did all the work at 80, she got elderly at 85 yrs. My friend's parents ( those still alive were fine until about 83yrs) . I ran a half marathon at 62 yrs and would do more if the training didn't take so long. I still do short runs in the morning. My friends are all similar ages and are very active e.g one is out on her horse everyday aged 72 yrs and shows no signs of stopping.
I was skiing last year and may well go this year.
Use it or lose it.
I do 1000+ steps a day.

I do think exercise is key. Nothing's foolproof but it will certainly help you be more limber in old age.

Men aged 65-74 have an annual risk of death of 1 in 42. All those who died did not find they were okay until they were in their 80s.

Apparently 83 is the life expectancy for women ATM FreshHorizons - or so I heard I think on the news today

I will rephrase it . In my personal experience I have found that people are generally OK until they are 83 yrs and then health problems set in. That personal experience is of people who are still alive at that age. My mother is now 10 yrs beyond it and she is elderly ( but only in body).

My FIL was over 100 when he died and still playing 18 holes of golf until his late 80s.

Two of my friends have died in their early 50's, several work colleagues as well. And I know a number of people who have developed chronic illnesses such as MS or Lupus in their 40s and 50s.
Yes there are people who are healthy until their 80s, and others who die or get serious illnesses before then. Look at the stats.

Of course problems will set in if you think you are too old to do things and don't exercise. I realise that I am lucky to be healthy, but there are a lot of people aged 60+ ( or even 40+) who wouldn't dream of getting off the sofa and running around the block despite the fact they could if they wanted.
Another friend - aged 68yrs has just set herself the challenge of taking up horse riding for the first time and is much fitter.

Of course there are cleaty I know plenty of people who have died young but I can't see the point of dwelling on it and stopping you getting on an living life to the full! If I go to the 'Early Bird' swim at 7am it will be mainly those aged 60+ because they have the time.

Yes you are lucky to be healthy. My mother is 70 and does not exercise significantly. She was very sporty when younger and now struggles to walk with severe arthritis. Easy to be judgemental when you have no idea of the impact of chronic illnesses.

You seem determined to be depressive.

Who is saying you should not live life to the full? I am always saying that. But I acknowledge that many people do not make it to their 80s, or do so but with chronic health problems.

You seem determined to ignore reality.

IT means that if you are lucky enough to be healthy and don't have a chronic illness you should be out there exercising and keeping fit. I don't know if I will have to stop next week or in 20 years so I make the most of it.
I will quickly go downhill if I read statistics and dwell on them!
We age and we die eventually - fact. Worrying about the inevitable just spoils the present.

I am not sure what you wish me to do cleaty , just give up and act my age or tell my friend that she is silly to get on a horse for the first time at 68yrs? Am I supposed to tell all the over 60s at my dance class that they are abnormal, statistics say they shouldn't do it?
Lots of people get chronic illnesses but lots of people don't.

My reality is that all my friends of around my age are very active and still doing the things they did 20 or 30 years ago. I am sure that the friends who have died early will be pleased that we are and would be doing the same thrmselves if luckier.

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Apparently 83 is the life expectancy for women ATMFreshHorizons- or so I heard I think on the news today"
Is that at birth though? I suspect it is. At 65 it will be higher.

Lol at someone saying they do 1000+ steps a day, assume that meant 10000. I'm a lazy bones and even on my laziest days I still manage 3k

Whoops - that was me! I missed a 0.
I do 10,000 + steps a day.

I'm all for living life to the full for as long as you can but I get what Cleaty's saying and don't see it as depressive.

I too know several 60+ marathon runners. I also know a number with heart conditions, cancer, pulmonary conditions, diabetes (now getting the backlash from a lifetime on insulin), multiple sclerosis, motor neurone disease. The latter has run all her life.

None of this is to downplay the beneficial effects of exercise and taking care of yourself but my personal experience is that your odds in the health lottery begin to shorten at 60.

I don't see that as a negative view, in fact I use it to give my 59 year-old arse a good kick every morning. My new year resolution is not to waste any more time.