To feel annoyed with friend who feeds her dc nothing but crap

[itwasmuchbetter]

I know it's none of my business but I am getting more and more concerned about dc of my friend who basically live on crap. She doesn't work so time isn't an issue, they have plenty of money to buy decent food but their diet is just awful. Examples of evening meals are Pot Noodles, Plain pasta with mayonnaise, cheap white bread/ tortilla with tomato ketchup. That is after packed lunch of chocolate brioche, chocolate bar, crisps. They frequently get constipation. This has been going on for years so I don't know why it is annoying me so much recently. Oh and they are constantly supplied with Haribos at every opportunity.

Tbf I reckon my dc would happily eat cottage pie at 8am. All this breakfast foods stuff is society really.

For all of you criticising spacey for 'losing her rag'. Have you never done this?

Hand on heart - no never!

I am a step-Mum (from DSD being 7yrs old) and an Aunt who provided weekend and holiday care for DN when his Daddy died - from aged 7yrs- 13yrs. I could write the book about fussy eaters I think. But never, ever did I 'lose my rag'. I was strict about no treats before meals and my expectation of eating a 'proper meal'. That worked most times. And nobody got up from the table until the last person had finished eating [how I remember the 2 hour meals ...... and the family chat chat chatting we did]

For all of you criticising spacey for 'losing her rag'. Have you never done this?

Hand on heart - no never!

I am a step-Mum (from DSD being 7yrs old) and an Aunt who provided weekend and holiday care for DN when his Daddy died - from aged 7yrs- 13yrs. I could write the book about fussy eaters I think. But never, ever did I 'lose my rag'. I was strict about no treats before meals and my expectation of eating a 'proper meal'. That worked most times. And nobody got up from the table until the last person had finished eating [how I remember the 2 hour meals ...... and the family chat chat chatting we did]

Then you're a better person than I am because I have shouted at my children on occasion. I would still imagine most people have.

I can't tell what supposed to be abusive about food anymore. Is it not making them eat properly or making them eat properly?

I made my 4 year old eat vegetarian Hungarian Goulash last night. He wasn't happy about it but he ate it, just asked that I never make it again

Shopping for food
Planning meals
Cooking food from scratch

The OP is not talking about fussy eaters but rather someone who seems to have opted out of all of the above. It would be easier not to bother, especially when a fussy eater is involved, but even parents of fussy eaters persevere because that's our job. DD2 is not keen of vegetables but I find ways of sneaking them into things like pasta sauces and make sure she continues to try things in the hope her tastes will change. I explain the benefits of eating well and good foods versus bad foods and she is slowly getting it. No broccoli = no pudding not No broccoli = pot noodle End of

Totally agree she bird. This thread has been derailed somewhat by righteous indignation of parents of fussy eaters. That's a different issue entirely. Sounds as if this parent has always for whatever reason fed her dc junk / inadequate food from the outset - not child led food issues.

I was a very fussy eater as a child, and barely ate any protein. I would vomit if made to try new foods, and lived on 5 or 6 foods alone for years. There was absolutely nothing anyone could have done about it, and believe me my Mother tried. But the woman in question could at least withhold absolute junk like haribos. That's not going to help give them a healthy appetite!

Still a lot of unanswered questions, because the diet described is so exceptionally bad - it's the sort of thing skint students eat at the end of term.

So, if the OP comes back: -
Are you sure this is the everyday diet?
What do the parents eat?
And most importantly, why is the father doing nothing about this?

Yanbu but it does sound like she doesn't have a clue how to cook etc or create a balanced meal because this is probably what she ate growing up.

I have no idea how you would go about helping her without upsetting her.