Where do parents get off being rude to school staff?

[JackandDiane]

How do they think it's acceptable to ring up a receptionist to rant and swear and demand action. To threaten staff that they'll come down and find them if staff don't ring back by a certain time?
I simply can't imagine speaking to anyone like this. Particularly a stranger that you want to help them.
Do you shout at school staff? What do you think it will achieve ?

No never have and never would shout or swear at school staff ( or anyone really )

But I have told my son head teacher he was a lier and two faced who has no morals and doesn't live by the standards he preaches ( but not in those words)

Because he is. He has broken the law and ignored good practice repeatedly and he is in a position of respect. He should stop being a joke.

People should in these circumstance be reported to the police for restraining orders. It happens.

ipissed, I'm curious about what you intend to do if the fuckwit in the big chair isn't in school tomorrow or has back to back meetings. Are you going sit there all day?

Witnessed just this type of behaviour yesterday whilst accompanying my Mum to hospital. Man shouting the odds at receptionists and demanding instant service. Tried to get the lovely young man who was serving me to stop and help him. Informed him I was being dealt with and received my own barrage of abuse. Told off for my bloody English manners? He was told to behave by several people and led away by security.

Boils my piss as the reception staff there are lovely and uber helpful.

Shouting not good. But I routinely hear the staff shouting at children when I'm in school (and I don't just mean a raised voice to be heard over the din of 30 or more kids). So I don't think they really have the moral high ground over that particular action.

Oh my!

ipissedoff - why, out of thousands of threads and posts that detail parental rudeness, do you imagine this one is about you?

Do you believe you are the only rude assertive parent out there?

Hmm?

I would hope that if any parent makes a direct threat against a member of school staff they would be banned from either coming into the school or telephoning the staff.

oh yes i am SURE the NHS is way worse

i would say that shouting is largely phasing out of teaching. IME

I thoroughly enjoyed my stint as a school receptionist. Knowing that I was only on a temp contract meant that I had no qualms in telling the rude and abusive parents where to get off - which I did a number of times . The teachers enjoyed my time there too

Tali me too...

ipissed I would find your demands/comments etc threatening behaviour.

i have heard of some parents being banned from entering school premised

was a primary school IIRC

If you want some help with something shouting is not the way to go.

i wonder how a parent would take to being called a liar.

and you sent the kid BACK to this school?
that is odd

gruntledone that has been my experience - pupil's father threatened me over the phone. He was a known problem to the school so any conversations with him in person or phone were never taken alone so I had a member of SLT listening in, I was an NQT. As well as the physical threats he was apparently going to report me to the local paper and destroy my career Everything he said had been noted by SLT and he was not allowed on school grounds again with it all being reported to the police.

It was his son I felt most sorry for could completely see where the son's terrible violent behaviour towards other pupils and aggressive attitude towards me was learnt from. This was in a secondary school.

ipissed I suspect the first part of your user name is true....facing the teacher with a hangover in the morning then?

Our school has sent letters home to parents basically calling us all liars who can't be trusted. They didn't intend it to be rude, I'm sure. It was an ill thought out policy coupled with poor communication skills, but it was still really rude.

-naice- suit or otherwise, ipissed sounds completely unhinged.

Shouting and swearing is just so childish.

I deal with it frequently - from children I can understand. From adults, it's unforgivable.

ipissed surely the pupils involved in this were excluded or expelled?

Not dismissing your obvious concerns which if true are worrying but this thread is not about YOU and you are not the parent the OP is discussing...MN is a big place and if you were rude then you were not the only person in the country was that way today. It's a common problem for teachers....even as a frustrated parent dealing with the lack of SEN support I manage to keep a civil tongue in my head....the same cannot be said of the last headteacher I had the misfortune of dealing with who was an obnoxious prat.
Mostly though I find teachers are very good and do actually want to sort problems out,