Friend has cancelled me for a holiday that's already booked and paid for.

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I don't know how to handle this situation.

9 friends 4 couples and 1 single have booked to go on a holiday. I have paid for the flights outright and the hotels get paid for on check in. Everyone has paid for the flights bar the single friend.

I have had to rearrange the booking once already as we have booked non refundable rooms and 4 in the party got invited to a family members wedding.

I have just received a message from single friend to say that she is embarrassed to say that she can no longer go due to the cost. She's owes me for the flight and I have been chasing her for a couple of weeks now. Plus the hotel needs to be paid for nearer the time.

Everybody knows this all non refundable but she hasn't mentioned reimbursing me.

How do I go about doing this?

I will not be doing this again despite this being a annual thing for 5 years now with no issues.

I am so pissed off with friend as the hotel was booked mainly as she was unhappy with a lot of hotels as they didn't do single rooms.

Please help me ask her for this money I am owed. It's £550.

When I was let down for a small amount the group immediately reimbursed me so wasn't out of pocket - they all covered ff share.

But I dislike being put in the position of having to chase the money I am owed - always makes me feel petty and penny pinching even though I am totally in the right.

How did your meeting go with FF, OP? What a terrible situation. You were doing a favour booking this trip and then she does this - it will definitely be the end of your friendship, £550 is an awful lot of money.

What happened op

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Update OP?

wow what a cheek! I'm so shocked at this. I actually booked a holiday a few weeks ago for the summer for several friends. it's really made me realise how much you should make it clear about it being non refundable. Although I honestly don't think my friends would do this. TBH even if my friend paid me eventually, I would not see them in the same way. I hope things get resolved op.

Personally, I always look for an online site for £ collections and then make the booking. Doesn't mean I'm going to get paid, but at least it feels sort of official and i can keep track. Sort of turning in to my mum!

Any update op?

This sounds horrific. I agree with a pp that perhaps flaky friend is not quite herself right now because they don't seem to be the actions of someone who has it together.

I was just thinking about this thread and wondered what had happened with flaky friend.

any update?

What happened?

We need an update

Any update op?

Any update OP, please come back and don't leave us hanging

Op please update!

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ok update:

My good friend spoke to FF and told her how out of order she was.

FF made contact and said how sorry she was and she has money issues ATM. She would be paying me back.

Long story short, she was at a party I was at and she came and spoke to me and said she had some massive issues with debt but her parents were going to bail her out and she would have my money and she wanted to know if she could still come on the holiday.

We kissed and made up but I did feel she was sincere.

She booked the holiday dates off work and sent a picture of the confirmation.

She was due to bring the money round Sunday (all of what she owed)

Yeah you guessed it, text arrived after she was due over to say due to money issues she couldn't come and she didn't have my money she was sorry.

Turns out she owes 2 sets of friends money also.

So at this time I don't have the money, don't think I will get it and have actually being looking into small claims court.

I am going to send a recorded letter to her home address giving her notice and if I don't get the money I will be going through small claims court.

My DH is dead against it and it has caused issues as he is a pushover tbh.

Thanks for the update and you are completely right. The friendship is ruined now anyway, why shouldn't you get your money back?

Small claims court is no guarantee that you'll get your money back so look at it carefully before you take that step and ensure you have a guaranteed method ie attachment of earnings for example before you spend any more money. Good luck I hope it's successful.

That's shit - it astounds me how people act that way.

Take her to small claims. And get rid of her as a friend.

It might affect her credit rating if there's a court claim. That might teach her not to freeload off folk in the future.

Sounds like she needs a life lesson.

OP, this might sound awful but do you know her parents? I wonder if they can refund you and then she can take years to pay them back.

I don't know if small claims is a major hassle.

Wow, that is shit. Go for the small claims court. She needs to learn that she cannot do this sort of thing and expect her ex friends to suck up the costs.

I would go via small claims, because she needs to learn that her actions have consequences. I wouldn't hold out much hope of getting your money back. This is why I don't lend or sub money - it just causes a problem from start to finish.