Friend has cancelled me for a holiday that's already booked and paid for.

[Snowyxmastree]

I don't know how to handle this situation.

9 friends 4 couples and 1 single have booked to go on a holiday. I have paid for the flights outright and the hotels get paid for on check in. Everyone has paid for the flights bar the single friend.

I have had to rearrange the booking once already as we have booked non refundable rooms and 4 in the party got invited to a family members wedding.

I have just received a message from single friend to say that she is embarrassed to say that she can no longer go due to the cost. She's owes me for the flight and I have been chasing her for a couple of weeks now. Plus the hotel needs to be paid for nearer the time.

Everybody knows this all non refundable but she hasn't mentioned reimbursing me.

How do I go about doing this?

I will not be doing this again despite this being a annual thing for 5 years now with no issues.

I am so pissed off with friend as the hotel was booked mainly as she was unhappy with a lot of hotels as they didn't do single rooms.

Please help me ask her for this money I am owed. It's £550.

[AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered]

Just wondering what happened here - does anyone know whether OP ever got her money back?

[BobbyV]

Whats the latest OP?

[Happyrouter]

Op did confirm that 500 as the total, can't be arsed to find the exact post to quote though sorry.

[choceclair123]

Wasn't it more than £500? I thought op said previously that there was also the hotel bill on top...

[MeetMyCat]

Excellent post, Clutterbugsmum.

[Clutterbugsmum]

I have told him until I'm blue in the face I don't want to do that as its waiting months to see if she pays up or not. Asked him if he wants to sub her and is end up paying the bill and he said of course not. Next time he mentions it tell hi, to take as he more concerned about her feelings then HIS wife being conned out of £500.

[EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard]

If the hotel's that full can't they resell the single room then?


Secondly, your ex friend may have money problems but she's now caused money problems for several other people. I'm really cross on your behalf and I tell you what, it's a lesson learned for a lot of people to collect money in before booking anything on behalf of other people.

[dustarr73]

I would send Keysers little ditty..

[OnlyLovers]

I agree, expat. I think she's had plenty of chances to make it right, or at least apologise properly, or ask for help, even, but no; she's just burying her head in the sand.

[expatinscotland]

She will plead with you on the second text, possibly. But she ignored the first. Says it all. I wouldn't want to go on holiday with this person. In fact, I'd never want to see her again.

[WestleyAndButtockUp]

When is the holiday, OP?

Do you think the other couples are all on the same page, or are some of them remaining friends with her?

[angelos02]

I wouldn't want to go on holiday as there will just be resentment if for example she buys perfume at the duty free you'd be thinking, 'oh, so you can afford that' etc etc.

[Purplepicnic]

This is so sad. Silly woman, to lose a good group of friends over this. She could just repay you bit by bit or ask her long-suffering parents for a loan.

[Throwingshade]

Your husband is being a wuss.

Who cares if she's got money troubles. Half the people on MN have money troubles. They don't act like bastards and stitch friends up to the tune of £500. She's also lied to you several times. She's not a friend and he needs to get on your bandwagon and support you getting the money back.

[MuttonDressedAsMutton]

@ Keyser - love that little verse!

[MuttonDressedAsMutton]

I can't help thinking your DH is being a little unrealistic. Even if there was a way for her to go on the holiday surely the friendship dynamic has changed/worsened to a place somewhere beyond repair? How could you all act normally and enjoy her company knowing that she's such a twat? I couldn't do that. Good luck getting your money OP.

[KeyserSophie]

"If you're having money troubles I feel bad for you, hun
But I got 99 problems and you, bitch, are one"

sorry. couldn't resist.

[OnlyLovers]

Asked him if he wants to sub her and is end up paying the bill and he said of course not.

So has he got the message now? Stop telling him the same thing over and over. If he harps on it, refer him to your last answer.

Good luck with small claims court.

[Snowyxmastree123]

The text was sent, and ignored.

It's causing problems with DH as he hates conflict and thinks we should cut her some slack and ask her to pay us for flights, come on the holiday and pay for the hotel when we check in.

I have told him until I'm blue in the face I don't want to do that as its waiting months to see if she pays up or not. Asked him if he wants to sub her and is end up paying the bill and he said of course not.

I'm sending one last message to tell her I am taking it further.

[BadLad]

I'm guessing you aren't holding out much hope of remaining friends with this woman.

[DakotaFanny]

Thanks for the update. Good luck with the next step.

[expatinscotland]

'I don't think she did have money troubles when we booked, no tax and mot but I don't think she was hard up as she bought a couple of largish for her items. '

Right there, she had money problems. She prioritised her own personal pleasure over tax and mot. People's safety and the law weren't as important to her as herself. And she has the same attitude towards you.

So yeah, 'I know you are in financial difficulty at present, but . . .' and then the rest of Jaded's text.

She's ripping you all off. What a bitch.

[SlightlyJaded]

Yes - "I know you are having money troubles" is much better than "I'm sorry you're having money troubles"

But otherwise, I stand by my text - go for it and good luck.

[Snowyxmastree123]

I don't think she did have money troubles when we booked, no tax and mot but I don't think she was hard up as she bought a couple of largish for her items.

When we go the trip would of been booked for a year.

I will text her later with what's suggested up thread. I will acknowledge her money issues maybe just "I know you are having some money issues at the moment"

[expatinscotland]

She knew she had money troubles when she committed to go on that holiday.