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to not want my fil to stay over on new years eve

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chocoholic05 · 30/12/2015 20:12

My mil died earlier on in the year. My dh wants to invite my fil to stay tomorrow night and into new years day. In fact despite endless discussions with dh from a conversation with fil today it seems he has. I don't want him to. I would rather came for dinner on new years day and stay for tea as well. My reasons are we only have a small house so where would he sleep other than our living room? He never ever lies in no matter what time he goes to bed. He will bring his dog who is also an early riser. And he will expect us to get up. Alsothe dog smells really badly. I know that sounds horrible but it's absolutely true. Finally I like new year spent with my boys. Family games and dvds.He is only a ten minute drive away. But my dh said it's his first new year on his own.

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Supermanspants · 30/12/2015 22:33

Oh do get over self Janet
Seriously. . . What is wrong with you? We all 'need treatment'?

I can only hope you never have to face a situation where you are not in control of your situation. That said though, it may be what you need to become a nicer human being.

AwfulBeryl · 30/12/2015 22:33

Confused curiouser and curiouser

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/12/2015 22:33

Should. Not found.

Le fucking sigh.

shazzarooney99 · 30/12/2015 22:34

Not read the whole thread but poor father in law, what a shame, i think your being really mean and youll also be making your partner feel real bad too, this is a bad time of the year for people who are greiving.

janethegirl2 · 30/12/2015 22:34

My name is Jane, you are are so not interested in reading this thread but you all like attacking anything and everything!

Bunnyjo · 30/12/2015 22:36

Jane - you are not always in control of your situation. What a ridiculous assertion!

AwfulBeryl · 30/12/2015 22:36

Grin Jane / Janet, are you the op ?

Alisvolatpropiis · 30/12/2015 22:36

Is Jane a sock puppet?

Bunnyjo · 30/12/2015 22:37

You are, however, in control of your reaction to the situation you are faced with...

Supermanspants · 30/12/2015 22:37

Nope. . . Jane You are being called out on being really quite horrible. Hardly attacking is it. If it is such an issue stop posting and hide the thread

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/12/2015 22:38

seriously. Your name is Jane?

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/12/2015 22:39

my name is not Exit

AwfulBeryl · 30/12/2015 22:39

A sock puppet or on a wind up, I don't know anyone in rl who is as cuntish as her posts make her out to be.

*disclaimer, the above is not a personal attack, just an opinion on Jane/Janet's posting style and the way her posts come across.

janethegirl2 · 30/12/2015 22:40

No I am not a sock puppet( not sure what is one), and I'm not the OP.
But I am always in control of the situations in my life.

AwfulBeryl · 30/12/2015 22:40

Is it Exi ?

BifsWif · 30/12/2015 22:42

Of course you are love.

ADishBestEatenCold · 30/12/2015 22:42

Another one who thinks you are being completely and utterly unreasonable.

This (recently bereaved man) is your husband's Dad, for crying out loud! His DAD!

How does the idea rest with you, that your boys could grow up and marry women just like you, then find themselves being forced to reject their dad ... your DH ... at a time of need?

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 30/12/2015 22:42

People are not attacking anything and everything.

The OP has failed to convince anyone , apart from you, about why it is such a major upheaval to have one person and his dog stay overnight, sleeping possibly in the living room.

She has failed to convince anyone , apart from you, why it is impossible either to tell fil the family won't be rising early or only his son will.

Oh and there will of course never be another day ever when she can have a "family day " of games and videos.

bumblejee · 30/12/2015 22:42

So no surprises ever then Jane, one unusual person!

Supermanspants · 30/12/2015 22:42

Yes my boys are 9 and 7. They have been very upset especially my nine year old. My father in law is devastated. They were married for 48 years. They were utterly devoted to each other. His sister lives a couple of hundred miles away

OP this is what you posted after your MIL died.
I am even more Hmm now at your response to your FIL stating over NYE.

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/12/2015 22:42

Ex.

leopardgecko · 30/12/2015 22:43

I am always in control of my situation and always have back up plans for my kids.

I would be interested to know how that is possible, Janet. Would it be possible for you to share?

How can you control your own health and that of your children? How can you control unexpected ill health or accident, even bereavement? How can you control other road users that will affect your situation when you drive? How can you control the driver of any public transport so YOUR situation remains stable? How could you control the floods in the north this week? Or any other unexpected weather? How can you control other children at school that effect your children? Or teachers? How can you control strangers on the street and what they may do or say? Dare I say terrorism? As much as many of us would like to keep control of our lives, surely we are often at the mercy of others and the elements?

SixtyFootDoll · 30/12/2015 22:43

How mean! Can't he have one of the children's beds for a night, and put one of them on an air bed.
It's one night.
And you won't get a lie in? Boo hoo.
Be the better person.

Supermanspants · 30/12/2015 22:44

Oh bore off Jane
You are an idiot

AwfulBeryl · 30/12/2015 22:44

Grin at Ex.

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