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to not want my fil to stay over on new years eve

384 replies

chocoholic05 · 30/12/2015 20:12

My mil died earlier on in the year. My dh wants to invite my fil to stay tomorrow night and into new years day. In fact despite endless discussions with dh from a conversation with fil today it seems he has. I don't want him to. I would rather came for dinner on new years day and stay for tea as well. My reasons are we only have a small house so where would he sleep other than our living room? He never ever lies in no matter what time he goes to bed. He will bring his dog who is also an early riser. And he will expect us to get up. Alsothe dog smells really badly. I know that sounds horrible but it's absolutely true. Finally I like new year spent with my boys. Family games and dvds.He is only a ten minute drive away. But my dh said it's his first new year on his own.

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LassWiTheDelicateAir · 30/12/2015 23:27

I really don't get this part about his disturbing everyone else. Why does one person being awake mean every one else will be?

Is that what happens in anyone else's house? Doesn't in mine.

ladymariner · 30/12/2015 23:28

You're offended at some of the comments Jane ? Really? Well, be offended at this one too.....you're coming across as vile and unhinged, totally lacking in empathy, and a total cunt. You and the op make a lovely pair. Happy new year to you both.

(settles back to await first ever deletion, whilst contemplating Christmas where I had both my widowed mother and my widowed aunt to stay with us for three days...no lie ins here, a fair bit of extra work, a bit of bunking down in different areas of the house, and I didn't give a fuck)

shazzarooney99 · 30/12/2015 23:28

So janethegirl2 your obviously are the person that made the first post up, how sad :o( ..............................

StayWithMe · 30/12/2015 23:29

Thank you Bunny and New.

Buxtonstill · 30/12/2015 23:30

What a sad thread. This poor man is turning to you for comfort and what he doesn't know is all the while you are resenting him being there because you will miss out on a couple of hours sleep. If he knew the truth....it doesn't bear thinking about.
I hope you're never at the end of such unkind thoughts and behaviour. Shame on you.

averylongtimeago · 30/12/2015 23:30

Words fail me.
I dread getting old, being berieved, lonely, and an inconvenient nucience for my children.
God help you when you get old OP.

janethegirl2 · 30/12/2015 23:31

shazz sorry, don't understand your post.

Supermanspants · 30/12/2015 23:32

lady

Spot on

HappyGirlNow · 30/12/2015 23:33

Freaks and weirdos on this thread... Not mentioning names jane Janet whatever

Oddball.

Oh and YABVVVVU OP - what the fuck is wrong with you?

ssd · 30/12/2015 23:34

I remember you Jane, you were the sock puppet on another unfeasible thread, weren't you Grin

jesus my life is pretty boring but if I got my kicks winding up strangers on the internet I'd put my head in the oven

janethegirl2 · 30/12/2015 23:35

Ssd _ head in oven?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 30/12/2015 23:35

This has made me so sad. He just wants one night with his family. One night where he would feel desperately alone. You're worried about being woken up with a cup of tea. I feel like crying for the guy. Sad

ssd · 30/12/2015 23:37

yeah jane, much better than coming on here to wind folk up deliberately

shazzarooney99 · 30/12/2015 23:38

ladymariner ,what a wonderful lady you are xxxxxxxxx well done you.

FlatOnTheHill · 30/12/2015 23:39

Im confused...is Jane/Janet the Op in disguise.
Its all gone weirdy.
Im new on MN. Must say its very interesting. Yet this thread has upset me a lot.

janethegirl2 · 30/12/2015 23:39

I am not aiming to wind up ppl on internet, but there is no way I'd have a pil staying with a smelly dog at New year that will wake up the family,just no way, particularly if they live 10 minutes away.

Toughasoldboots · 30/12/2015 23:39

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MySordidCakeSecret · 30/12/2015 23:39

YABU

FlatOnTheHill · 30/12/2015 23:40

Whats a sock puppet please

Supermanspants · 30/12/2015 23:43

Jane
You ARE winding people up by repeatedly posting the same thing
Blah blah blah......... yes, you have made it clear that you wouldn't allow a grieving man who lost his wife of 48 years to stay over for one night and see the new year in with his son and family nearby because you want a lie in.

Now please, just fuck off

Katarzyna79 · 30/12/2015 23:43

narcissist and psychopath....

Alisvolatpropiis · 30/12/2015 23:43

Flat

When the op name changes and comes back as a new poster supporting the original op's point of view.

ssd · 30/12/2015 23:43

a sock puppet is a really sad git who starts a thread looking for opinions to something a bit off, shall we say, then when they get opinions they didnt want they name change and post a message agreeing with the original poster...if that makes sense Grin

a sad git, as I said

user7755 · 30/12/2015 23:44

Flat - I believe that sock puppetry is where an original poster changes their name in order to come back onto the thread and support themselves under the guise of someone else.

I suspect often done by people who's lives are lacking in some way and gain some weird loserish pleasure from upsetting people on the internet. Perhaps the sort of people who have no friends in real life so do this instead of talking to people, perhaps that is why they have no friends? Who knows?!

user7755 · 30/12/2015 23:45

X-posted (at least I understood it right. H'ray!)

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