fucking play station

[FlatOnTheHill]

DS glued to the poxy thing. He is 15 a good boy. Does go out and see mates so sociable. Does not bring me amy trouble. Studies hard at school. Somim very lucky. But when he is on that thing, I call it 'the machine'. He plays GTA with mates and all you can hear is him shouting out ya mother fucker" or fucking get ouuut my way or oi you ya silly prick etc etc.

I have spoken to my friends about this and work colleagues and they say their sons are the same
Would point out does not act like this when not on play station.
AIBU in wanting to launch the fucking thing out the window or accidentally on purpose cut the wires. He has been on GTA for about a year. Drives me nuts. And when I go flying in his bedroom to tell him off he goes mad shouting at me. As I said only behaves like this when on that poxy 'machine'

This sort of thread is irritating though as there are so often 'computer games are to blame for x,y and z' discussions by the same people that happily ignore age ratings. It's always someone else's fault.

It really irritates me when people blame technology for others not being able to control their behaviours.

5th reply nails it IMO. I play games, know many people who play games and we're all normal functioning adults. The problem is between the controller and the chair.

Those calling us control freaks and such like for doing such basic parenting as not letting children pretend to kill hookers online/with their friends while shouting die motherfucker into their headpieces....its obvious you're just defensive because you know you've made a dick move. Pretending we've got it wrong instead of you might make you feel a bit better but we all know you cocked up.
GTA etc, not designed for or suitable for children. Pretty fucking obvious to anyone with a spare brain cell, but it tells you right there on the box as well. Still, your choice. But why come whining here about the effects?

I am an avid gamer, the ratings are there for a reason.

Hyperbole and sophistry, the last refuge of the rumbled. TheSecondViola, I mean you.

Me and DH are gamers, don't play as much since DC came along sometimes after they go to bed we will play. I'm an avid assassins creed player, DH is a call of duty fan. He played GTA the new one for a while but didn't like it, there is definitely rape and lap dancing then killing the lap dancers in the game. I don't think the is appropriate for a 15 year old.

My oldest DD is 7 and plays Disney infinity but at the moment isn't really interested in gaming outside her Nintendo. My other 2 are just little yet but me and DH have agreed that games consoles will be in the living room so we can supervise what is happening and what is being played and will be much easier to cap playing times as others will want the tv too. I believe the games ratings are for a reason and I would not stand for language like that in my house.

As with everything with parenting though it's a totally individual thing

Well, duh. But you don't actually mean sophistry. Or, for that matter, hyperbole. Nice words, but it helps if you understand them.

TaliZorah, you can see them a mile off. It's about asserting themselves and their perceived power, nothing more. They think people will believe it's all coming from a place of concern for their children.

But this is not a thread where the OP is saying, my ds plays GTA, he's fine, his behaviour is unaffected, it's not a problem. The OP is fed up with her son's behaviour during and after playing the game.
It is certainly not acceptable for a 15 yo to be screaming at his Mum or shouting motherfucker and prick. Not in my house, and I have a 15yo.

The gaming IS affecting his behaviour. The OP says it is, it's the reason she posted.

And I am not an authoritarian parent. My daughter has choice in almost every area of her life. Very few non negotiables, because she is sensible, mature, trustworthy and has NO BEHAVIOUR ISSUES.

English is my first language. I meant every word.

You can't be a control freak with teenagers who are nearly adults. They will resent you for it and look forward to the day that they can get away from you.

Hmm. I seem to have survived to have a good relationship with my adult (in their 30s) children.

The guy is not screaming at his mum. He's getting a bit carried away shouting at the computer games in his bedroom.

A quiet word to tone it down is all that's required and seems to have worked.

TaliZorah, you can see them a mile off. It's about asserting themselves and their perceived power, nothing more. They think people will believe it's all coming from a place of concern for their children.

Bollocks.

That may be the case but If you were a control freak with them when they were teens and young adults I'm sure they don't appreciate it. They might just choose to get past the resentment.

You might have meant them, but they were the wrong words and did not pertain to my comments at all, which contained neither hyperbole nor sophistry. Unless you find "don't be a dick" to be sophistry, which would be worrying for you.

A lot of parents let their own egos drive their parenting. I'm going to try very hard to avoid that pitfall and put my child first as he grows up.

"And when I go flying in his bedroom to tell him off he goes mad shouting at me"

We'll have to agree to disagree Viola. I think your comment contained a lot of hyperbole and sophistry. That's that.

You are putting your child first by allowing an 18 cert game at 14?
Can you explain how that works?

Yes, and this now seems to be resolved.

So you have one young child LordBright, and therefore know very little about parenting, especially teens?
It's not about ego. Sometimes its about stopping them doing things that are bad for them even though they will hate you doing it. Like teenage drinking, drugs, and mindless violence in video games.

Sure op said he shouts at her If she goes in his room, that is unacceptable. There are millions of people around the world who have more than likely survived the boundaries their parents put in place and still have good relationships with them

The OP appeared to want validation her son shouting out words like " mother fucker" when playing games is normal teenage behaviour.

In my experience of teenage boys it isn't but some posters seem to think it is. If my son, or any one else, was using language like that in my house, whether or not caused by a game, they would be asked to stop it. If the game was in fact the cause the game would be removed.

Its totally normal, they get competitive when they play it. And they dont play if for the pretend hookers.
Imagine running on to the football pitch to tell them to tone it down. Thats the state of mind they are in.

My son has been gaming since he was a kid, he is now in his mid 20's. He swears when he's online competing, and he does my shopping and things as I am too disabled to push a trolley.

I dont think you have a problem as you two can talk calmly about it without him throwing a tantrum.

It's the fact he's shouting at her when she goes in to tell him to tone it down, it's not acceptable, if he can't accept that he is being to loud/using inappropriate words them he is not adult enough to be playing an 18 game

It's not totally normal. It might be common, but thats not the same thing.