To be really quite fucked off about the fact that I am currently miscarrying an having to look after DSD

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I'm fuming, livid in fact.

I'm bleeding heavily, have thrown up twice this morning in front of DD and DSD and am having cramps.

DSD (7) hasn't let DP get close to me all weekend. She can't stand anyone else having his attention but herself, it usually doesn't bother me so much but at the moment I'm in need of that affection and struggling to bite my tongue.

They are both currently fighting as I'm writing on here, I'm trying to put my feet up, DP is out at work and I'm pretty mad that I've been left with both of them if I'm really honest. DSD has pushed DD (2) on to a table, she's caught her eye and bruised it so she's been crying hysterically an as a result DSD had a screaming fit because DD was getting attention off me.

I'm really struggling today, I just want to be on my own with DD. Is that understandable?

I usually look after DSD for most of the time he's here and she's usually always pretty demanding but my mood is low and I'm really hurting and struggling today.

I'm so sorry for you in this situation.
Call an ambulance. You will need to be checked over at the hospital anyway. They may not turn up "as a priority" but they will come.
Let DP know the ambulance is on it's way. If he fails to come home or get his DM to come over then the kids will have to come to hospital.

I'm not singling her out. She's not my child and i should not be expected to look after her whilst I'm
Bleeding heavily and feeling like this.

I do most of the childcare as DP doesn't get days off as such and I usually don't mind but this weekend has been a different matter.

I'm really sorry OP. Your partner's attitude is appalling; I can't believe he let you make him dinner when you'd got back from the hospital, and thought it fine to leave you alone with 2 young kids and nobody to look after you. He sounds like a complete cock. Can you call him back and demand he comes home? Don't take no for an answer.

YANBU. I don't have a solution that doesn't involve shoving holly up your DP's arse and calling your MiL something that would ruin the whole festive season.

Stay strong, if you can.

Where are you. love? If you give us even a town, may be one of us can get to you and help.

If your DP doesn't come home right away to light that fire and look after the kids so you can rest then you should absolutely concentrate on recovering over Christmas then leave the fucking selfish, lazy bastard the first chance you get in the new year. He's shown you what his priorities are, it isn't you and it never will be.

Good grief OP, your DP is awful. I think you might have to rethink your relationship with him, he is treating you very badly.

Oh op you port thing!
Your dp is being a selfish cunt of the highest order. Your mil is also a massive massive twat.

It's time for dsd to go to her mums and for you to go to a dr love. When you know your physically ok it's time to give your dp the bollocking of a life time. Don't cook the selfish knob his tea don't do anything for him because it doesn't sound like he deserves it. Concentrate on you and your dd and your dsd as she isn't at fault really. Let the selfish bastard deal with rhe bad behaviour of his child aswell.
I'm fuming for you!

If the children won't stop fighting put them in separate rooms.

Get him home. Now.

You are ill and need him to look after his children so you can rest.

Anything else from him is a complete cop out.

Is your dd his? I would seriously be rethinking the entire relationship :(

If you feel you need to, call an ambulance.

for you OP.

I went through v similar situation with my DSD when I was miscarrying my first pregnancy and TBH even four tears later it still negatively affects my relationship with both her and DH because I found it so traumatic and felt so unsupported.

I hope your DP steps up and stops being a twat.

I'm doubled over, feels like labour cramps,he's just come in and taken the kids out, said he didn't want to leave me but they are easing off now and at least he has taken them out for a little bit

Can you ask him to take the kids to his mother and come home?

I get what people are saying about it not being dsd's fault ( although it sounds like her behaviour is unacceptable) but this really is an exceptional circumstance. I really think you need to tell your dp that he either comes home, gets his mother to come round or contacts his dd's mother to get her to pick her up. Surely the most hardened woman would be able to sympathise and pick her Dd up early? I hope you're ok op x x

Good x can you see a Dr today to get some strong pain killers? X

OP, my DP isn't flawless, and can be very thoughtless when I'm ill/stressed, etc, but if I'd had a miscarriage he wouldn't have left my side.
He might be at work to distract himself, as he may be mourning your loss too. But that absolutely does not excuse him from being a lazy twat and he should have at least found some sort of help for you wrt childcare so you could both have some time to recover what must be a horrible shock
I'm so sorry for your loss

Give your dsd an iPad and put CBeebies on for your dd.

Oh my goodness, what a twunt your DP is! I can't believe your MIL won't help out either, she's happy for you to suffer a MC, with no support and having to look after 2 young kids?! Even if you had 4 kids of your own, you're after some support and relief because you're fucking miscarrying, not because you just don't fancy doing some childcare!! Have you got any local friends who can come round to help?

I'm so sorry you're in such a shitty situation. I hope your 'D'P comes grovelling and you don't have to lift a finger until 2016!

How heavy is the bleeding and how longs it been like that?

You said you have been sick

Oh thank God, he's come back. Don't you need to get to a hospital, though? Sorry, I'm clueless, I've no experience of this, but others seem to be saying you need medical attention.

jeez op you poor por thing. I'm so very sorry yiu are miscarry omg what a shit thing to happen.

you are being treated terribly. he should bloody dicipline the DSD so she doesn't act like a spoilt selfish brat towards any of you. why is he allowing her to do that to you.

if I were you I'd go get myself checked out at hospital. make sure everything has come away and that there's no risk of infection. it's important you look after yourself here sod the dp he's an adult he cab sort himself and kids out. you need to think.of you x with any luck they will admit you and you can have a few hours of peace.

so sorry op

Sorry hadn't finished, do you still feel like your pregnancy symptoms are the same despite the bleeding? Did you have bad sickness anyway?

I think you need to go to the epu and get scanned tbh.

I couldnt be bothered with my dd behaving like that if I were miscarrying, I locked myself in my bedroom away from the kids. I'm raging you don't have anyone helping you out.

It's not appropriate that you don't have contact details for your stepdaughter's mother. You need to be able to ring her in an emergency, and this counts as one. Tell your husband to text you her number if he's too chicken to ring her. She must come for her daughter.

I hope you feel better soon.