To ask about Thursday weddings

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DP and I are trying to find and book a venue for our wedding. We've found our perfect venue but it's an hour away from where we live so we've decided not to have a separate evening do as we don't think it's fair to ask people to travel that far for an evening do and scared no one would come

Anyway this option is obviously more expensive so we're looking to cut some costs if we can and one way to do that would be to have a Thursday wedding. I'm a teacher as are a lot of our friends and it'll be in the summer holidays so no problem for them but how do people feel in general about having to take two days off work? We looked at Friday but there's a definite price jump!

So would you be happy to go to a Thursday wedding if you were invited to the whole thing?

Here's another way (very generalised!) of looking at it, annual leave has a value. The value is typically a day's pay. Say the average guest earns £25k a year, that's £100 day before tax.

So for s couple attending and taking two days off, suddenly that's £400. For 60 people, that's then £12,000 of leave that they are collectively using for your wedding. Suddenly it's not quite so cheap

I echo the views of those who say that your dream wedding is not one where your family and friends feel put out before you've even started. They will all want you to have the wedding you dream of, but to make that happen you need to make it as easy as possible for everyone to be with you. You've been really considerate inviting opinions already which is great, hope you find a day that works for you all

Headof thats what made me laugh, total zoo here too! Kennels would be cheaper than childcare!

Brilliant post tellme

glad you spotted it bogey It made me laugh too!

I love Thursday weddings because it makes me take a couple of days off and have a really nice long weekend

Sorry OP, but I wouldn't go to a wedding on a Thursday. Well, if it was my immediate family or best friend I would, but I would still be pretty annoyed about it. It's just plain inconsiderate to your guests. You can hope people will take annual leave, but I imagine that most wouldn't.

On the flip side, an hour isn't THAT far for people to travel, so if you are happy with people travelling up the morning of the wedding (and a few people being potentially late due to traffic or whatever), and then lots not drinking at all so they can drive/be okay for work the next day, and leaving directly after the meal in order to get home by a reasonable time (so not much of a party in the evening), then go for it.

If you actually want people to stay and hang around in the evening and have much more of a party atmosphere, then re-think the sort of venue you have and go for a saturday.

Obviously your favourite memories/stuff you are looking forward to will be totally different to mine, since we are different people. However, aside from the actual important "getting married" bit, the favourite part of my wedding (on a saturday) by far was seeing everyone have so much fun after the meal in the evening. I would have been pretty disappointed if loads of people had sloped off at 2100, sober, in order to get up for work the next day.