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To msg a school Mum I don't know

415 replies

Hackedabove · 18/12/2015 06:27

Regarding her posting a video of the school carol service on FB?

She has tagged in one of my friends so it's come up on my news feed. I'm shocked as it shows loads of them. Probably can't see mine but only because they were hidden.

I was thinking a gentle do you know it's totally unacceptable?

Or email the class rep so a blanket email goes out to all classes via the class reps?

Or contact the school and let them deal with it?

OP posts:
TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:20

thelouise I'm neither. It depends on perspective. You think I'm naive, I think you lot are overly paranoid. Neither of us are right or wrong as such it depends on your view.

Mine is that today a lot of people are over protective.

PopcornFrenzy · 18/12/2015 21:21

Good grief Tali, I hope to god you never get to head teacher with an attitude like that

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:21

How nice popcorn Grin

MistressMerryWeather · 18/12/2015 21:22

It's not lazy though, it's practical.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:24

Mistress it is. Ideally you'd have more staff to ensure the kids can be looked after, so you wouldn't have to worry about reactions as much as there are people on hand. Whereas there aren't enough staff so instead no one can have it

GloriaSmellens · 18/12/2015 21:25

The thing is there is no fucking way anyone who has had any experience working in a school would be coming out with the stuff that you are Tali. No way.

Which leaves 2 options

  1. You are lying about your training.

  2. You are telling the truth about your training, and are just being a goady fucker because you know the whole 'photos at school' topic is a hot one.

It could go either way for me.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 21:25

I remember that poster MrsDv she was banned for being a goady fucker in the end.....

Sirzy · 18/12/2015 21:26

No amount of staff around would stop a child having a reaction because someone on the next table was eating a snickers though so it's not quite that simple.

With the allergy stuff it needs to be taken on a case by case basis. In most cases a complete ban probably won't be needed and would be over zealous, in some cases it is the best way to keep the child safe and that's the important bit surely?

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:27

Gloria you really can't grasp that some people have different opinions can you?

WHY is it goady to have a view that disagrees!

Timri · 18/12/2015 21:28

Louise I think I vaguely remember something like that

MistressMerryWeather · 18/12/2015 21:29

Yes ideally, but what is the likelihood of that happening anytime soon? So we have to go with the practical option.

Just like ideally there wouldn't be fuckwits who are a danger to children but that's not going to happen either.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:29

Sirzy they would be able to ensure there's a "allergy free" table though where nuts etc aren't allowed and would be able to administer the medication if it occurred.

It is important to keep the child safe but you have to strike the balance

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 21:29

I wonder goady hot potato the op will drag in next
It's almost like mumsnet bingo

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 21:30

Sorry not op tali

3point14159265359 · 18/12/2015 21:30

Tali, I said this.

'The 'civil liberty' argument drives me nuts.

Going into a school and taking photos is not anyone's fucking right. A school may occasionally grant you the privilege of entering the premises and taking photos, for events such as nativities and other plays. They could equally choose not to.

If you tried entering a school at any other time and photographing kids you'd find yourself being asked awkward questions fairly damn quickly.

A school is not the same as a park or the street or the beach where, yes, you do have a right to take photos.'

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:30

Mistress none. My point is just the current policies are a stupid and not ideal. I'm not saying the ideal will come any time soon as funding is not there!

thelouise · 18/12/2015 21:31

"Neither of us are right or wrong as such it depends on your view."

You have an interestingly arrogant attitude towards people who know more about safeguarding than you. We are not paranoid; we just know the law, polices and procedures. Wink

Sirzy · 18/12/2015 21:31

But that doesn't work for everyone some people react to things in the air. But it's fine they can give them the adrenaline when they react instead so another child doesn't need to go without a nut for one meal a day!

IguanaTail · 18/12/2015 21:31

It's unacceptable. I think I would message her politely asking her to remove it and then follow up with an email to the school asking them to raise awareness of the potential risks. There are a lot of reasons why people might not want their kids on the Internet.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 21:31

Dear god you don't understand allergies and how they work do you
Ah bless
Maybe you could look it up on the Internet
like your imaginary teaching- qualification--

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:32

It's not just photographing kids though it's photographing a play.

Why is a school not the same as another place?

GloriaSmellens · 18/12/2015 21:32

Because your 'opinion' isnt based on fact. And the fact is that CP issues are not 'rare and obscure' they are actually really quite common, and worrying that someone might come and harm a child because they are majorly pissed off isnt 'paranoia', it is a very real threat that hundreds of teachers deal with up and down the country every day.

You can't spout off your 'opinion' when you haven't considered the facts.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:33

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Out2pasture · 18/12/2015 21:35

just a quick question PLEASE and if necessary tell on which of the 13 pages this is covered.
i've skimmed both this post and the one from last week....
but for grandparents who live hundreds of miles away or father's who work offshore is there not some possible compromise?
could the school video their events (possibly editing) and allow e-mail distribution?
I really enjoy the collective forum of mumsnet, surely there is a middle ground not just a total ban.
it sure would be heartbreaking to think that potentially I would never get to see a sports day event or even recital either in person or via a photo.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 21:35

Gloria CP issues aren't rare, it would be very unlucky for someone to find the specific photo with the child in it in all the hundreds. It happens, but it's not exactly common.

thelouise it might be the policy doesn't mean it's correct does it

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