To msg a school Mum I don't know

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Regarding her posting a video of the school carol service on FB?

She has tagged in one of my friends so it's come up on my news feed. I'm shocked as it shows loads of them. Probably can't see mine but only because they were hidden.

I was thinking a gentle do you know it's totally unacceptable?

Or email the class rep so a blanket email goes out to all classes via the class reps?

Or contact the school and let them deal with it?

It should be clear, but seems in this particular case it's not, it's just an 'unspoken rule'

Well we can safely conclude that it's all bollocks
Which is a relief in some ways

So Tali if you were the head teacher of a school and there were 3 or 4 children there who whose safety could be compromised by them being identified and tracked down, what would your photograph policy be?

Precious - Not allowing my child to be near a peanut in case they are allergic.

Sensible - Not allowing peanuts in school because the children who are allergic may come in contact with them.

Precious - Never taking pictures of my children on my phone because peados are everywhere and could steal it.

Sensible - Don't film other peoples children and stick it on social media.

Gloria Id speak to the parents and kindly request that if photos are shared on social media you set the settings on private. I don't think that's unreasonable?

Mistress so what do these children with allergies do out of school? Not being sarcastic

MrsDeVere you think the reason FB didn't remove it is because I was 17? Really?

Id speak to the parents and kindly request that if photos are shared on social media you set the settings on private. I don't think that's unreasonable?

When you are talking about a child's safety, I don't think simply 'trusting' hundreds of parents to ensure their FB settings are in a certain configuration is going to cut the mustard is it? Especially when many of them will be as ignorant of CP issues as you appear to be, and so will just think 'oh of doesn't matter' anyway?

There will be lots of parents who share photos of kids at nativities, lots of parents who don't /won't. Lots of children will (thankfully) never be put at risk by shared photos etc. But, if even one child or family is put in danger because of it, there has to be a rule in place no matter how extreme or "precious" it sounds. I guess that's the reason even if to some people it seems disproportionate.

Gloria no more risky than saying "you can film it bit don't share it" is it?

But private settings doesn't mean safe when it's a strangers private settings your relying on. Some people have 1000s of friends on Facebook, unless you know that non of them know a person who could pose a risk to a certain child it doesn't help does it.

Picture the conversation "hey I saw a picture of your daughter in a play on Facebook last week she is growing up isn't she"
"I don't know I haven't seen her for ages, what school was the play at?" I am sure you can imagine the rest!

MrsDeVere if you're implying I'm lying about my course, I'm not, I'm currently training (although off for a year). Just because I don't share your opinion doesn't mean I'm talking bollocks

No Tali, you're right. Trusting them to make sure it's private is not okay. That's why you need ban on photos/videos. Because many people are arses.

You didn't respond to my civil liberty point up there. ^^ May I ask why? Is it because you have to admit you were very wrong about that?

Sirzy I can see that to be fair. I still think it's unlikely but I can see that that could happen

No, which is why schools.with real CP issues are increasingly banning any photography by parents. Because you can't trust some parents not to be total fuckwits.

What point? I've responded to a lot I'm sorry if I missed it

Tali, they have parents looking after them who are able to take the necessary precautions.

That's not possible in a school situation so the safest thing to do is take the danger out of the equation all together.

Oh x post with 3point there!

Gloria if you're completely against photos fine, at least it's consistent

I don't think you're lying that you are training about a teacher which is all the more terrifying. You sound incredibly young, naive and inexperienced. I've come across an a lot of young teachers who are incredibly mature and insightful, so it's not your age.

Mistress I think the real issue is schools don't employ enough people to safely look after kids and so employ lazy blanket rules like these.

Does anyone remember the nurse who turned out to an HCA? Not that there's anything wrong with being an HCA, of course, but she gave flammin' medical advice on the basis of her extensive nursing experience.