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To msg a school Mum I don't know

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Hackedabove · 18/12/2015 06:27

Regarding her posting a video of the school carol service on FB?

She has tagged in one of my friends so it's come up on my news feed. I'm shocked as it shows loads of them. Probably can't see mine but only because they were hidden.

I was thinking a gentle do you know it's totally unacceptable?

Or email the class rep so a blanket email goes out to all classes via the class reps?

Or contact the school and let them deal with it?

OP posts:

Sirzy · 18/12/2015 19:53

Nobody should share photos of someone else's children without permission to do so. Surely that's basic manners?

My son had a birthday party a few weeks back, I took lots of photos but only shared ones with him or people I knew were happy to have them shared in.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 19:54

lizzy doesn't answer the question of how people with nut allergies survive in the big outside nut filled world. Ridiculous rule.

alltheworld · 18/12/2015 19:56

I msged a school mum who did this. At our school the rule was take pictures but don't upload to social media which she ignored. She basically said she did put think she was doing anything wrong. She was on the pta

DisappointedOne · 18/12/2015 20:01

lizzy doesn't answer the question of how people with nut allergies survive in the big outside nut filled world. Ridiculous rule.

They are EXTREMELY CAREFUL, you know, in a way a 5 year old can't be?!

Have you some disease that's eating your IQ? It's dropping rapidly!

DisappointedOne · 18/12/2015 20:03

She basically said she did put think she was doing anything wrong. She was on the pta

What's being on the PTA got to do with it? I'm the chair of ours and The rules still apply to me as much as anyone else!

Crabbitface · 18/12/2015 20:04

Tali Again you didn't answer my question . Even removing the safety issue, why do your rights trump someone else's. Saying it's not my issue is not an answer.

thelouise · 18/12/2015 20:06

Just to reassure you, when I was a child protection social worker, I worked with lots of teachers and none of them were as pig ignorant about safeguarding as TaliZorah on this thread.

MistressMerryWeather · 18/12/2015 20:07

Tali, you can call it mollycoddling or moan about civil liberties but at the end of the day it's about keeping children safe.

Yes, the risk of harm being cause by peanuts or filming plays maybe small but we shouldn't take chances with children.

When you send your child to school you will want to feel safe in the knowledge that they would never put your child in harms way, every parent wants that.

It's just that 'harms way' can be very different for every child.

I really can't see why you would have a problem with that.

Lizzylou · 18/12/2015 20:08

Thankyou Disappointed, Tali you scare me.
How the actual jeff have you got onto a PGCE course?

Really?

We can all have our personal nirvana vision of life. And then there is real life. And then, if you are a teacher, is everyone else's real life. And you have to deal with it. Not just shake your head and pretend it's not happening.

Apologies for bad grammar.

jellycake · 18/12/2015 20:31

Word of advice Tali if, by some miscalculation, you ended up teaching at my school and posted photos of children in your class on the school's Twitter feed without checking the children's photo permission and a vulnerable child appeared in the picture, you would have a serious reprimand. If, as is quite likely, something happened to the child or their family due to your negligence, then you would be sacked and would be unable to work due to the lack of reference that I or anyone else in the school would give you.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 20:31

You can insult me all you want, doesn't change the fact that I think you're all overly paranoid. Dont expect everyone else to sort your issues out.

mistress because I don't believe teaching kids to crap themselves at every tiny risks helpful

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 20:32

Jelly I wouldn't post one or go against the schools policy. Doesn't mean I agree with the policy

Timri · 18/12/2015 20:33

What's being on the PTA got to do with it? I'm the chair of ours and The rules still apply to me as much as anyone else!

I think it was meant in a 'she's on the PTA so she should know better' way?

Cotto · 18/12/2015 20:35

Tali you are minimising risks you have no idea about.
You also don't think BF has any health or protective effects .
You are ignorant and that's being kind

thelouise · 18/12/2015 20:36

Jesus, how can anyone be so ignorant? Tali, you are being told by trained and experienced professionals that your attitude to safeguarding is very poor. I hope this is flagged up somewhere down the line.

DisappointedOne · 18/12/2015 20:36

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DisappointedOne · 18/12/2015 20:37

I think it was meant in a 'she's on the PTA so she should know better' way?

But this is far outside of the PTAs remit.

missymayhemsmum · 18/12/2015 20:38

The only way forward is for schools to require every parent to leave their mobile outside the hall and ban any parent taking photos from the premises. If adults can't be trusted, treat them like kids

DisappointedOne · 18/12/2015 20:39

How old is your kid, Tali?

MistressMerryWeather · 18/12/2015 20:40

Jesus Christ.

Can't you see that for the one child with the peanut allergy it is not a tiny risk? It's life threatening.

It's the same thing for the children who are effectively hiding from people who wish to harm them.

What you are saying is that schools should put those types of children at risk because they are the minority.

Timri · 18/12/2015 20:40

Well I don't know, I'm not an expert on the PTA!!!
Just I think that's what was meant, not about which rules applied to who, just that being on the PTA you'd assume that they would be more aware of the school policies than someone who wasn't really involved with the school.

jellycake · 18/12/2015 20:42

If you don't agree or can't understand why schools need to have these policies, then I'm sorry, you shouldn't be a teacher. It is not just about educating children by giving them skills and information, a huge part of the job is about safeguarding - trips, visits, photo permission, dealing with parents - it's a massive part of the job. You, clearly, do not have the right mindset to do this and, I fear, only something bad happening will send this message.
If you think this doesn't happen often, you are wrong. My school has 450 pupils, it's in a leafy suburb seems idyllic. The last 4 weeks have been a relentless slog of child protection issues and meetings relating to them. It has been unending. This is NOT unusual. At any given time, we have at least three children in each year group with some form of CP issues, other schools have it much worse.

DisappointedOne · 18/12/2015 20:42

The PTA is there to raise money for the school.

The school's policies apply to anyone sending their children there. So everyone's awareness should be equal.

Sirzy · 18/12/2015 20:44

My sister has a peanut allergy, someone in her class at a snickers in class. She ended up in hospital.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 20:44

Cotto no I don't think that, I said in the long run aside from immunity benefits there isn't much difference between bf and ff

disappointed have I ever said that? No but feel free to take it out of context.

There is a line between taking obvious risks and not being overly precious you know.

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