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Has anyone else had a weird facebook message from an unknown person?

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katemiddletonsothermum · 17/12/2015 23:02

Someone I don't believe even exists has sent me a message on facebook saying that DH is cheating on me. I think it's a spam, like those emails you get from Nigeria saying you've won twenty million quid if you would only give them your bank details.

I've googled her name, it doesn't exist. I'm convinced it's a fake account and I'll be hacked if I go anywhere near her facebook account.

Has anyone else received strange messages from unknown people? Please answer, before I attack DH with the carving knife.

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katemiddletonsothermum · 18/12/2015 17:52

Cos actually, he DID cheat on me - but I was leaving TB so I didn't care. And it could be pure coincidence that DH was out last night...

clutches at straws
puts lawyer on speed dial
drinks gin

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Paddingtonthebear · 18/12/2015 17:56

Hmm.

If it's the exH shit stirring then obviously you want to ignore the message so as not to give him/them the satisfaction.

But you don't know if it is the work of the exH.

I would wait for an opportunity tonight when your (current) husband is relaxed (off guard!) and then just ask him straight out if he has anything he wants to tell you and look very closely at his body language and initial reaction.

Poor you. Shit position to be in and very hard to ignore once the doubt / curiosity kicks in. Good luck!

Paddingtonthebear · 18/12/2015 17:59

In my experience, if you ask someone if they have something to tell you, a seasoned liar when confronted will react with indignation/outrage, a crap remorseful liar will fess up and an innocent party will look confused.

BadlyBehavedShoppingTrolley · 18/12/2015 18:07

I agree Paddington

BlissfullyUnknown · 18/12/2015 18:07

I know someone who has done it before. She didn't want to be at the centre of a shit storm but wanted the woman to know.

He was cheating, she found out for herself after looking at his phone off of the back of the message sent.

Hopefully not the same for you OP. Speak to him (before you get pissed)

Wheretheresawill1 · 18/12/2015 18:08

As a singleton it's amazing how many 'nice' 'happily' married men try it on in work. The whole work thing is a danger zone. You can bet there's always someone out there looking for an opportunity to soothe someone else's Hubble on a bad day. Seriously why 90% of them think I would even look at them ...

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katemiddletonsothermum · 18/12/2015 18:13

Jesus, what is it with people who want to ruin my Christmas? Exactly three years ago to the day, a friend of my mother's had a breakdown and left me a voicemail message to say that she was going to die "tomorrow" and that my mother shouldn't be worried if she didn't answer the phone. I'd have ignored it, but she phoned my cousin as well, so we did the only decent thing and called the police as we all thought she was going to top herself. (A friend is in the police and I played the message to her, she was the one who told me to call the police. )

But as I was dealing with the squad car people all night, and as my poor little DD was trying to put even littler DS to bath/bed, crying her eyes out, I felt SHIT. All I wanted to do that weekend was wrap the Christmas presents and make mince pies.

Do you know what? I've had a double gin and that stupid facebook woman can just fuck off. If DH is cheating then he knows he's got everything to lose, but I don't believe for one moment that he is, so seriously Shanaid Fucking stupid name Jones, fuck off. And fuck off again. And when you've finished fucking off, fuck off.

And on that note, I shall probably name change.

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BlissfullyUnknown · 18/12/2015 18:15

You've gone from being calm to not so much OP. Why not speak to your husband? If it's a load of bullocks it will put your mind at rest. Flowers

PrinceHansOfTheTescoAisles · 18/12/2015 18:56

I'm detecting as well. She's some kind of psychic - her friends have psychic connections and her last public status was about a psychic. I think it's fishing for your business. You're meant to respond asking how she knows and cher-ching you're now a client of hers.

lifesalongsong · 18/12/2015 18:59

How would your exh have access to a possibly fake facebook account set up several years ago? I don't think it's likely to be him tbh.

Prince has a good idea - maybe she is fishing for business but it must be the world's most low key business as she has no detectable online presence.

Maybe you have to be psychic to find her Grin

SquareRootOfPie · 18/12/2015 19:10

How would making you think your current oh is cheating make xh's life easier?

Wagglebees · 18/12/2015 20:12

I agree with PrinceHans

Ask her what the fuck she knows and who she is. If it's bollocks she'll slip up really quickly.

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katemiddletonsothermum · 18/12/2015 20:14

OK, I showed DH the facebook message and he seemed perplexed and saddened, I think that's the right word - he echoed me: "Why would anyone do that?"

I think Prince has hit the nail on the head - she's phishing for business. Although she didn't see the wrath of ME coming... cue sweary reply and a threatened lawsuit ok, that's the Baileys' talkign

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katemiddletonsothermum · 18/12/2015 20:16

OK, those who know me from the Downton threads will know that I'm partial to a drop of vino and do a bit of drunken typography. Stuff. So help me with the reply. My first draft is thus:

"Ok, bithc, what's my hsugbands's namem then, fucker? Go on then, cow slag from hell, tell m e the details and if you get his fing name right i meight believe you."

That sort of thing.

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RandomSocks · 18/12/2015 20:36

That is a perfect draft, under the circumstances. Just copy-paste it.

fidel1ne · 18/12/2015 20:37

Erm, maybe leave it until tomorrow?

GloriaHotcakes · 18/12/2015 21:04

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Mince314 · 18/12/2015 21:25

phishing for what business though?

PamDooveOrangeJoof · 18/12/2015 22:15

I wouldn't read anything into someone knowing he may be out tonight. Is Friday before Christmas! Party time central!

I would reply and see when they come back with...

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katemiddletonsothermum · 18/12/2015 22:17

Psychic business, Mince314 - ie she'll tell me if my DH is actually having an affair if she does a reading for me.

Oh dear. I think I might have accidentally created a fake facebook account and sent her a message that is a bit sweary. Sorry. I feel dirty now.

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TheHouseOnTheLane · 18/12/2015 22:30

I've had a look at her profile and sadly she seems to be a fantasist. Her facebook pic is lifted from the ad for a spa....and as others have said she never seems to post real things. She "got engaged" and then married a month later....says "Off on my next modelling job!" etc.

And yes, she seems to be labouring under the impression she's a phychic. OP block her and ignore..she's nuts.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 18/12/2015 22:58

What is the last post you lot can see on her profile?

The psychic stuff seems to stop in early 2012 for me.

PiperChapstick · 19/12/2015 01:46

OP I did a search and found her profile. If it's the right one (profile pic is close up of her face) it looks dodgy as fuck, her posts have no likes and she only has a dozen friends. She also appears to be a psychic. I think you're right about her

Minibelle · 19/12/2015 01:49

This is a new spammy thing happening in fb. Happened to a friend of mine recently. When you click on either the message or profile it hacks your account. Friend had porn posted from her account and friends tagged.

PrinceHansOfTheTescoAisles · 19/12/2015 08:16

Oh and her profile pic is def a stock image
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