To think this is really rude? [Xmas card-related]

[BatteryHenPecked]

Me and DH have been together 10 years, married just over 2 years.

DH's aunty every year sends us a card addressed thus;

Steven and wife

We laugh about what a twat she is but seriously, this is really rude, right? I have multiple issues with various members of DH's family seeing me as not a 'proper' family member and this is just totally indicative.

We don't send her a Christmas card and we obviously don't expect one.

I just don't get (a) why you'd send a card to someone whose name you don't know and (b) why the fuck you wouldn't just ask PILs what my name is.

Funnily enough my friend told me today, that a card has been sent to her house she shares with her boyfriend and other male housemate, the card was sent by a female mutual friend of all of them, but was only addressed to the two males. My friend has been with her boyfriend for over a year and has met and hosted this other female to stay many times. So rude and passive aggressive imo!