To decide i won't be friends with people based on their energy

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DP would say I am, but in the last yr or so i've become really aware of the energy that people give out.

Some people repel me like the same poles of a magnet. For example NDN from the day i met him I just felt a really bad buzz about him, and i'll be honest i havn't given him any time because i feel due to this we won't be friends (and other reasons)

There's a mum at school who we chat and she's nice all fine, but i know we could never be close friends because she has a different energy.

And then there's some people, in particular one of the dad's at school (before anyone starts this is not an attraction thing!) who has such a calming, positive energy i feel totally comfortable and can quite happily stand near him in comfortable happy silence.

sigh no that'snotmyrabbit if you rtft you'll see i don't believe or know anything about those things.

Claig - everyone I've ever met who had a really massive 'presence' was a psychopath!

Garlick, I am not talking bout someone like Tony Blair.

Did you not feel something simply watching Mandela on a TV screen? I felt something, he was remarkable and I bet if we were in a room with him, it would have had a powerful effect on us.

Nope. And I don't believe in purely wholesome people. Possible exception Dalai Lama. Haven't met him - I know people who have, and say his 'aura' is unassuming. Which reinforces my prejudice against people with huge egos 'presence'.

It can be faked, however. Good actors do it for a living.

Garlick agree with your experiences of 'massive presences'. Psychopaths have it in spades! It's why cult leaders & serial killers & dictators & Boris Johnson have such terrifying mass appeal.

I gather many lovely people (Mandela, MLK, etc) also have/had a certain magnetism.

On a separate note, wouldn't have pegged Tiger Woods as an astute interpreter of spiritual auras...

Garlick, good points. I am not surprised about the Dalai Lama to be honest.

'It can be faked'

Good actors can try to fake it, but this is where I think the judgement is intuitive and is beyond reason and is subconscious, I don't think however many acting lessons Blair took, he would ever be able to pull it off.

AgreedGarlick I've felt it from psychopaths/murderers too!

'AgreedGarlick I've felt it from psychopaths/murderers too!'

Pipes, what was the feeling? Was it a negative "energy" or something else? Did you feel this was someone you would want to spend time with or could be friends with or did you feel something was wrong? Basically, did you get good vibes or bad from these people?

politicians have it, especially Tory ones

You make a fair point about Blair, claig If he was good at it, he'd have covered his tracks better!

Guffawing at "well-quaffed" Vader.
But it's an hilarious picture - men in mustard cords and hacking jackets toting a stirrup cup. Lololol.

Claig, I felt scared, like I did'nt want to be near them, dead look behind the eyes too. Almost like they're not human
It really is horrible. I volunteer in victim support, so meeting such people is a regular occurrence for me.

'Claig, I felt scared, like I did'nt want to be near them, dead look behind the eyes too. Almost like they're not human'

Yes, I can imagine. Horrible.

' I volunteer in victim support, so meeting such people is a regular occurrence for me'

Well done. I don't know anything about that, good on you for helping victims and having to meet these horrible people.

Well some people are energy vampires. You chat to them and they suck the life out of you...

I think a big part of the 'presence' of well-known political leaders is very skilled oration, indestructible confidence (brash or quiet), and fame. Not to do down the Dalai Lama at all, but I think he's such a revered figure that anyone would be a bit overawed to be in a room with him - which doesn't necessarily mean it's he who is doing the overawing. It's as much your ideas about him, your perception of him as someone spitirually enlightened, with access to some higher mode of being. It's a co-constructed thing, I think.

Seriously, op, they are non-verbal cues and we process them subconsciously. That's the clue: SUBconsciously. That means you aren't aware of it, and don't know you're doing it and can't stop it. Most adults do manage to overcome these subconscious cues and withhold total judgement of the person until they know a bit more about them, but sometimes the nv cues can be stronger than others - so we feel more strongly drawn towards or repelled away from a person, and it takes more to overcome our initial feeling.

You do it, I do it, everybody does it. It all happens without our control or knowledge.

pipes When you met the murderers / psychopaths did you know beforehand that you were going to be at a meeting with a murderer / psychopath? And we're they brought in wearing prison clothing and handcuffs? With a guard standing there to make sure they didn't hurt anyone.

Because I'm not sure that that is aura / energy that you are reacting to!

As for "dead behind the eyes" - you should see my driving license photo - I look like a seriel killer in it and I don't even step on spiders!

You say that Jux but wait till The Donald becomes president. When you meet him you'll realise that some chosen people really do have magical auras.

I think I understand what you mean. I am hardly miss popular with hundreds of people queuing to be in my company, but I don't make an effort to spend energy on or time with negative people, or joy suckers. It's a fact that you pick up on the mood of people around you, so if I met Someone who repeatedly says how depressed they are, we wouldn't become friends. I think life is too short to complain. If a friend of mine become depressed then I would obviously try to help in anyway I could.

That's fascinating jux!