Downstairs neighbour complaining about my breastpump, AIBU not to change rooms at night?

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Just bought a new powerful pump as I'm exclusively expressing. We live in a flat that's split over 2 levels so our bedroom is on 1st floor, our lounge upstairs on 2nd floor. Our neighbour (on ground floor) caught me in hall to ask what the 'mechanical noise' is that wakes her up I explained its my breastpump and that I need to express at 11pm, 3am and 7am to maintain supply. She said it makes ceiling vibrate and is very loud (even though it's not on the floor it's on a cushion on my bedside table!) She asked me to do it upstairs. I explained this isn't practical as my DH wears earplugs so I need to be able to hear baby if he wakes. She suggested I take baby upstairs with me!! Why should I have to move my sleeping baby upstairs (and risk waking him) every time I express milk? He's just started sleeping through and got used to his cot. And there's no way I'm going to move cot upstairs and sleep on sofa for the next 8months

AIBU to think it's rude to tell someone not to express milk in their own bedroom? It's not like I'm playing loud music! I don't see why neighbour can't just get some earplugs!

I needed DD on the bed with me to get the greatest output, as it were. Nothing to do with breathing.......

or OP stop being so precious and use a baby monitor.

Why do you have to take the baby upstairs?
Use a monitor or get dh to remove his ear plugs for 15 minutes, why on earth would you wake up the baby when you have other more sensible options

anti-vibration mat

Some of these replies are a bit heavy.

It's good will season

Maybe OP should show goodwill to the neighbours!

round yeah but she's insisting she's in the right when we've all told her she's being silly

Yabu. She is not complaining about a breath pump. She is complaining about a mechanical noise waking her up. It being a breast pump is totally irrelevant.

YABVU

And selfish

You are only bothered about your DH sleep and not your poor neighbours

Taking baby upstairs with you is not your only option.

Taking a baby monitor upstairs with you is another valid option.

OP, feel free to message me. I get what you're going through.

How often does your baby wake at night? How likely is it that he will wake while you are out of the room for 15 mins? Surely you will hear him anyway, won't you?

It seems to me that it would be far better for your DH to get rid of the ear plugs and listen out for his own child, rather than inflict the noise on your neighbour. Why does his need for sleep in order to work trump your neighbour's need for sleep?

Is it just me who thinks this reads like a reverse?

I find it weird that you would rather wake a neighbor or your baby before considering waking DH.

As you say, it's only for 15 minutes.

What was wrong with the option of a baby monitor to hear if he was crying? Sounds a better idea than moving him around at 3am. Let sleeping babes lie

The noise is exacerbated by travelling through the floor and you would be suprised by how loud it is. Go upstairs stop disturbing everyone and if you really feel you have to take a baby monitor. I would also double check with the health visitor about overnight pumping as well. I did it 12 and 6 overnight as it was insane only having such a short time between pumping sessions and it was taking me too long to pump so it reduced the time even further so I was a bit bonkers through lack of sleep which is where I think you probably are - I got sensible around 10 weeks and stopped.

Go upstairs and take a monitor, surely your dh breathing will do for the time you're gone! Taking baby up with you is ridiculous as is disturbing your neighbour every night

It is awful not being able to sleep. As a new mum you should know that OP!!

Earplugs don't work for everyone. My selfish git upstairs neighbours put their washing machine on at 2am and the noise goes right through mine.

Oh and thank you for the explanation about exclusively expressing DisappointedOne

You neighbour 'dislikes' the noise of the breast pump?

Could you minimise this any more?

I'm pretty sure baby can manage for 15 minutes at 3am while you nip out (pardon the pun) failing that a hand pump would suffice for the once in the night? My lil medela made a racket so goodness knows what an industrial strength sucker sounds like!!

If your DH is allowed to sleep through as he has to get for work why does the same courtesy not apply to your neighbour? Your logic doesn't work. Your DH's need for sleep is not more important than your neighbour's so he will have to listen for the baby.

Your baby and how you feed him is important you and your DH but none of that is important to your neighbour so stop making it her issue. You and your DH need to find a solution.

I think the problem is that your DH is being a bit inflexible and you are too tired to see a solution.

take it off the bedside table and put it on something else that is not wooden.

I must have missed where she has been rude to the posters on this thread.

I don't think we're going to agree so I'm hoping the op will take some of the practical advice on board so her neighbour gets sleep.