Was it unreasonable to trick her to go to school?

[Unreasonablebetty]

I feel awful. Really. Really awful.
My little girl has been complaining of a few mystery illness symptoms over the past almost week.
She tried to tell me she had a throat infection, and told me symptoms that added up to a urinary tract infection- both of these things we've had more than a few times, so I took her off to the drs, she had a a tummy ache before these symptoms and has complained since of a tummy ache.

So yesterday she was off of school, she said it felt like a punch before she needed to poo, so I thought that doesn't sound too far from normal, but she then complained of a tummy ache but looked quite sickly last night before bed.

She woke up this morning complaining of a tummy ache again, which seemed to disappear when she was told she didn't need to go to school.
I then thought, if she's that unwell she's not gonna want to do anything.
How about bowling today I say? Yes perfect idea she says, or will it hurt your tummy?
No mummy that's a perfect idea.
I then gave her e clothes off the radiator and told her to put them on cos they were really warm.

We then got in the car, she had completely perked up and was acting like a normal happy unwell excited child, until she realised that we were turning onto the school road.

I was t trying to be horrible to her, but what I was trying to do was see if she stayed quite content with the idea of doing more in the day, because In my view, if you are happy enough to go bowling and what else you are well enough for school. And this way I could rest assured that she is infact ok, and I've not sent an ill child to school.

I just feel it was so bad to be so deceptive to her, and I'm still worrying that maybe there is something wrong.

I explained this to the ladies in the office, who assured me that they'll look into the situation with the teachers and find out if there's any reason for her to not want to be at school.

[SarahSavesTheDay]

Great result OP.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Fantastic result. I really hate it when a nest of vipers of oh so perfect parents, pounce on an op who clearly is struggling, without anything constructive to say. I liken it to op being kicked to the ground and people piling in and kinking her for good measure. I am glad yiu got to the bottom of it, and your dd is not permentently damaged by your one silly mistake.

[StrawberryTeaLeaf]

A nest of vipers kinking her?

[StrawberryTeaLeaf]

Glad it went so well OP

[Rachel0Greep]

Ah well done OP. for you. Glad all went well.

[RiverTam]

Just read the thread, sounds like you handled it really well in the end.

We all make mistakes, it's how we deal with them that matters.

Some people in this thread ought to be ashamed of themselves. But not the OP, now.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Slapping her with their big scaley bodies then strawberry

[G1veMeStrength]

Aw just read the 'after school' update and getting a warm fuzzy glow! Well done OP. She sounds a sweetheart.

[G1veMeStrength]

And I am lolling at the kinking.

[TowerRavenSeven]

My ds would be excited if he was sick and I told him he was going to a birthday party. More than unreasonable!

[ifgrandmahadawilly]

On the one hand, this is quite funny (in a mean sort of way) and has made me laugh.

On the other hand, I recall, as a child suffering stomach pains brought on by anxiety. I think it can be complicated, when emotions get to the point of stirring up actual physical feelings, for a child to differentiate between these feelings and pain. They may not be able to express this.Just something to bear in mind.

[StrawberryTeaLeaf]

Slapping her with their big scaley bodies then strawberry

OMG the mental images