I feel awful. Really. Really awful.
My little girl has been complaining of a few mystery illness symptoms over the past almost week.
She tried to tell me she had a throat infection, and told me symptoms that added up to a urinary tract infection- both of these things we've had more than a few times, so I took her off to the drs, she had a a tummy ache before these symptoms and has complained since of a tummy ache.
So yesterday she was off of school, she said it felt like a punch before she needed to poo, so I thought that doesn't sound too far from normal, but she then complained of a tummy ache but looked quite sickly last night before bed.
She woke up this morning complaining of a tummy ache again, which seemed to disappear when she was told she didn't need to go to school.
I then thought, if she's that unwell she's not gonna want to do anything.
How about bowling today I say? Yes perfect idea she says, or will it hurt your tummy?
No mummy that's a perfect idea.
I then gave her e clothes off the radiator and told her to put them on cos they were really warm.
We then got in the car, she had completely perked up and was acting like a normal happy unwell excited child, until she realised that we were turning onto the school road.
I was t trying to be horrible to her, but what I was trying to do was see if she stayed quite content with the idea of doing more in the day, because In my view, if you are happy enough to go bowling and what else you are well enough for school. And this way I could rest assured that she is infact ok, and I've not sent an ill child to school.
I just feel it was so bad to be so deceptive to her, and I'm still worrying that maybe there is something wrong.
I explained this to the ladies in the office, who assured me that they'll look into the situation with the teachers and find out if there's any reason for her to not want to be at school.
AIBU?
Was it unreasonable to trick her to go to school?
Unreasonablebetty · 02/12/2015 09:56
Slapping her with their big scaley bodies then strawberry
OMG the mental images 
for you. Glad all went well.
I think you are doing a little bit too much making up tbh. She doesn't really need all that to know you are sorry….however
My dc see a child psychotherapist about various issues. I also go and see him from time to time. He always, always says that even if a situation/comment/thing happens to upset the dc, it is the way the grown ups deal with it afterwards that counts. They need to be able to see that you acknowledge your mistakes, apologise and talk about it.
Which you are going to do.
So good on you and have a great evening 
Well, obviously YWBU but you clearly know that now. I think an apology to your DD would be appropriate, as well as going bowling since you did promise to do that. But I think the rest of the plans sound OTT. No need to go to such lengths IMO. A sincere apology, followed by a low-key discussion about how everything is going at school would be the way I would approach it.
And why would your DD refuse to get in the car if you don't bring her a hot chocolate? 
It does sound like an epic make-up Lucky kid.
I think you made the wrong choice this morning, but I understand your reasons. Kids do need to trust us but it doesn't hurt them to learn that parents aren't perfect, either.
If she was bullied last year, she's likely still super-sensitive. Or she may be worried about schoolwork (you said she's barely caught up) or your change in circumstances (you didn't specify, but even good change can be unsettling).
Good luck getting to the bottom of it. Some of the reactions here were way over the top.
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