...to wish that 3 particular words would vanish from mumsnet forever.

[BertrandRussell]

They only ever seem to be used to diminish and try to shut down discussion. To deflect from somebody's argument without addressing it, and to try to make the other person look irrational and/or mean spirited, or to characterise their point as an overreaction, however moderately it's been been put. They are the polemical equivalent of playing the player not the ball.

The words are froth/frothing/frothers, sneer/sneery/sneering and hate/haters.

Will Nyone join me in. Moratorium?

I think there is definitely a thing as a 'goady thread' posted by a GF.

You want to ban rhetoric
Fat chance

Someone who deliberately posts an offensive thread
= troll
deliberately setting out to upset
= troll

Yes goady people can also be trolls. Not always though.

I recently saw someone use the term "bad guys" as a defence for carrying a handgun. That made me twitch.

Also ending a question with "no" winds me up no end.

What would be called goadyfuckery on MN is called trolling elsewhere, ie deliberate posting of OTT or offensive views purely in order to get people wound up.

But because MN is so overrun with the other sort of trolls, (the sort with seventeen kids, a MIL who's a serial killer and a DP who's shagging the cat) it helps to have a specific terminology to distinguish the "I saw a Muslim refugee benefit claimant kicking a wheelchair" sort.

ODFOD

HTH

I hate 'menz' and 'mansplaining'. Very sexist and dismissive, and I'm not even a bloke.
I do quite like ODFOD and HTH though. Sometimes the word entitled is overused but for some people it's very apt.

Bitchplop I have a new favourite word!

I hate 'entitled', as a previous poster said its used to the point it has virtually no meaning anymore.
I also have a special hate for the use of 'mental health' when the poster means 'mental illness/ill health'.

Don't ban vile, I was called vile on here once and I took it as a MN compliment up there with having a post deleted. What I really want is a , no-one has ever given me one. I'll even make do with some rancid .

Re: insults - we could say it with flowers and herbs, like the Victorians did.

I can only remember Dahlia is Death, though

Maybe biscuits should be rationed. Every poster gets three, to be used wisely.

[santa]

No real point to make.

What is hth?

Did someone explain up thread?

For me it's hysterical. If you use that word, IMO, you automatically lose the argument. In the same way as if you mention the nazis (running here the risk of losing this argument :) ).

[santa] looks like a troll in that, MNHQ.

HTH
Hope to help
Usually meaning the opposite.

I though it was hope that helps - Similar. I spend ages looking at these acronyms trying to work them out. It becomes a challenge.

'Entitled', as others have said, upthread, is one that I think is overused, and often thrown at someone just asking a reasonable question. Followed by 'you sound like hard work, OP'. Especially when they don't sound anything of the sort.

I quite like 'give your head a wobble' but I suppose it would annoy me if I saw it too often.

If we're talking about phrases we'd love to see banned from mumsnet can I add my choice, which is 'lazy parenting'. It's just a sneering way of belittling someone who does things differently to you. I've seen it thrown at posters in a sneery fashion for all manner of 'offences' eg leaving a child in the car whilst paying for petrol, allowing a child to play outside with friends, allowing a child to amuse themselves with colouring in whilst waiting for food in a restaurant. Hardly crimes of the century. If there is such a thing as lazy parenting I would reserve the description for people who can't be bothered feeding their children properly, or can't be arsed talking to them.

Thanks I've wondered for a while.