...to wish that 3 particular words would vanish from mumsnet forever.

[BertrandRussell]

They only ever seem to be used to diminish and try to shut down discussion. To deflect from somebody's argument without addressing it, and to try to make the other person look irrational and/or mean spirited, or to characterise their point as an overreaction, however moderately it's been been put. They are the polemical equivalent of playing the player not the ball.

The words are froth/frothing/frothers, sneer/sneery/sneering and hate/haters.

Will Nyone join me in. Moratorium?

On the "first ever" I particularly hate the first ever LTB.
Everyone is saying LTB, but because it's your first, is the OP supposed to pay more attention to it?
It just means you're a nube.

Same with .

If I never see the word "entitled" again it will be too soon. It's just used to dismiss anyone who has an expectation of being treated decently.

Most of the above don't bother me too much. They are a way of expressing how you feel and some of the new made-up ones make me laugh (still don't know what ODFOD means though, among a couple of others. Perhaps MNHQ could helpfully provide a list)?

The one phrase that does annoy me, is when someone disagrees with some posters on a subject, they say "Only on Mumsnet". Well, surely not, 'only on Mumsnet' as this is clearly a view held by those posters. They would hold the same view in real life, and on whatever forum they chose to post on. Wouldn't they?

What would be called goadyfuckery on MN is called trolling elsewhere, ie deliberate posting of OTT or offensive views purely in order to get people wound up.

But because MN is so overrun with the other sort of trolls, (the sort with seventeen kids, a MIL who's a serial killer and a DP who's shagging the cat) it helps to have a specific terminology to distinguish the "I saw a Muslim refugee benefit claimant kicking a wheelchair" sort.

I have to admit that I don't really get these distinctions. (However, I haven't posted on MN for very long.) Nevertheless, I stand by the view that the idiotic (and made up) word 'goady' should be banned because, as a pp has said, it is so often used in a way that it is designed to immediately invalidate an opposing point of view.

^On the "first ever" I particularly hate the first ever LTB.
Everyone is saying LTB, but because it's your first, is the OP supposed to pay more attention to it?^

It's like "I usually think women should stay in miserable relationships, but to you I grant special permission to leave!"

And I do hate how the biscuit emoticon has become an insult. I'd like to offer it with the tea/coffee as a form of comfort for someone in need of it. Since when has offering a biscuit been insulting? It's awful. Perhaps there should be a pile of shit emoticon, or something equally offensive. Biscuits are nice.

If I had a special filter to hide threads containing certain words from me, I would be very happy.

Those words would be:

Muslim - would never have to read anymore rubbish by Daily Mail readers, people who believe that Muslims are some kind of borg and people who believe Mr Khan down the road can magically influence ISIS into disbanding.

Sky fairy - Because it's said to purposely wind people up and I can't see how that helps the whole talking to people on a forum thing.

Russell Group - Speaks for itself.

'Naice' has to go. So twee and annoying. Every time I see the word it gives me the rage.

Oh and "no one I know in real life has a loo brush" (for example) which makes me want to say "really? have you asked every single person you know whether they have a loo brush?".

I often think to myself that I have never had a conversation where someone claims to not own a loo brush, but that's because it's a topic that never, ever comes up in conversation for me. Like so many on MN. Conversely I love the fact that nothing is too trivial for MN and you can discuss stuff you never, ever bother with in real life. But it gets so heated, then you think, hang on, it's only a loo brush we're talking about here.

I really don't see the problem with 'goady' everyone on here knows exactly what it means.

Pfb. It's almost like you're wrong for thinking your child is the most gorgeous thing on the planet
Not a word but thoses. It's almost like saying to someone. Go away you're not welcome on this site. Aka clique and exclusive behaviour.
Thats all I can think of for now.

I'm not the poo troll BTW. Or the bleach one.

There is an acronym list somewhere on the site. AFAIK it does not contain ODFOD (Oh Do Fuck Off Dear) though because MNHQ deprecates its use.

It's good to call them out

I don't like 'call them out' at all.

I like vacuous - it's meant to be sneery so that's ok.

Hate that "fuck to the far side of fuck..." thing. It was never funny the first time it was used but people still seem to think they're original or funny when they use it now.

PFB is a handy phrase as long as it's not used aggressively though. I think a lot of us would admit to having had the occasional PFB moment when we treble check whether every ingredient is organic or ring NHS Direct for sniffles or hover over the sandpit in case any of the enormous hulking 3 year olds look at our baby a bit funny.

I think most people are PFB first time around. I know I was. When DC2 arrived i saw parenthood in a different light.

I agree that no good can ever come of using the phrase "sky fairy". Ditto "imaginary friend" in the context of organised religion is pointlessly aggressive.

I have never seen 'sky fairy'. What's that about?

HTH is 'hope that helps.' Used after a short pithy reply to a very long and complicated opening post.

I really don't see the problem with 'goady' everyone on here knows exactly what it means

People know exactly what 'vile' or 'sneery' or ''entitled' mean. Your comment could apply to all the words nominated in this thread.

I don't know what you are getting at catford.

None of the words in the OP raise my eyebrows.

The one phrase I hate hate hate is "get a grip" or even worse "hands OP a grip".

Ridiculous, childish comment. If you disagree with the OP say that. Apart from which, I always visualise a hair grip which makes no sense at all.

Can't say I'm a huge fan of any phrase used inappropriately either. "Entitled" is fine if the OP is being stupidly entitled, as is "special snowflake" if OP is being a special snowflake. Both do sometimes get thrown around as nothing more than a way of being unduly mean.

As in 'your religion means nothing to me, your unwavering belief in a sky fairy makes no sense' etc