...to wish that 3 particular words would vanish from mumsnet forever.

[BertrandRussell]

They only ever seem to be used to diminish and try to shut down discussion. To deflect from somebody's argument without addressing it, and to try to make the other person look irrational and/or mean spirited, or to characterise their point as an overreaction, however moderately it's been been put. They are the polemical equivalent of playing the player not the ball.

The words are froth/frothing/frothers, sneer/sneery/sneering and hate/haters.

Will Nyone join me in. Moratorium?

I find this face unbearable even if I agree with the poster. I don't know why but it upsets me

So what is acceptable then?

nothin

tempting

You can however say "Your behaviour makes me want to tell you to fuck off, but I won't", Egosumquisum.

Why, Exit? Do tell.

This'll show me up as a total newbie but I do find all this DD, DH, DSD business a bit weird.

I know its pretty much embedded into Mumsnet's DNA but why does everyone feel the need to remind people how 'dear' their family members are to them.

Several of them seem to stand for different things depending on context. So DF can be dear father, fiance or friend. BF might be best friend of boyfriend.

And in these days of predictive text, how necessary is it? DS really isn't any quicker to type than "son". Ok, I'll allow that STBXH and MIL save a bit of time.

Never heard or seen 'virtue signaller' but love and use 'meh' all the time

Nothing beats a short passive aggressive 'meh' in my experience

"Gluezilla" or "are you on glue" are awful phrases. Nowhere in real life would someone accuse a person to be on glue, or for it to be accepable to say it out loud. Dare I say it, it was a rubbish attention seeking thread that started the phrase.

Is he still the poor women's Darryl Dixon, bless his greasy little head?

Just 'boils my puss ' and 'couldn't give a shiny shit'

Both such ugly things to say, make me feel a bit queazy every time.

DH etc aren't exclusive to MN and do save quite a bit of typing, not all of us use predictive text.

People who say "Just that really" in their OP.

Annoys me.

Also, any time someone types "ewwwwwww" to indicate their disgust at something.

I hate 'mansplain'
Such a clumsy, irritating non-word.

And 'Wow. Just wow.'

Plus most of the others, bar pearl-clutching which I find oddly cute.

Nobody actually means 'dear husband', 'dear daughter', 'dear son', etc! It's just greater-than-the-sum-of-its-parts short-hand.

Yes, 'son' doesn't take any time to write, but the other terms arguably do, and it's just so quick and easy to write DS, and is instantly recognisable.

It's not an MN thing; it's a forum thing - you communicate via the written word, and it's simply a way to do things more quickly/easily. Nothing more, nothing less.

I hate 'mansplain. 'Such a clumsy, irritating non-word.

Yet such a concise way to describe a very common phenomenon!

Thanks to the pp who pointed out who the OP was earlier on.

So glad I posted about the use of *hysterical^ on this thread anf how people should lose the argument if they use it.

Playing the player, did you say?

Just realised this morning that as a boob would have made sense in the context of a totally different thread I had just been reading, not this one. Must go to bed earlier.

Re handing a grip, I like it when the OP has asked people to help them get a grip so they kindly offer one. If they haven't, it can be done gently but have seen it used downright brutally sometimes. For example someone suffering from pathological anxiety; if they could get a grip they would have done so, and being all jolly is not only unhelpful but counter-productive, unless making the OP feel even more shit is in fact the intention. I suspect it might be.

I thought HTH was "happy to help" especially when used passive-aggressively, but "hope that helps" makes equal sense. Probably doesn't matter all that much, does it?

I think, but am not absolutely sure, that I may have been the first person to use "STBXH", when I first joined MN around 8 years ago. It was a happy day when it changed to XH, and not just because it was quicker to type. Am also of the opinion that I may have introduced the phrase "the hills are that way >>>>", although I didn't invent it, and am surprised no-one has yet objected to it. (They will now.)

I totally loved the Gluezilla thread and thought "Are you on glue?" was hilarious under the circumstances. It just goes to show, each to their own 'n' all that. I do agree it is a very rude thing to say to someone directly, but to think about saying it to someone who is taking the major urine is fair enough IMO.

At least I don't usually see people agreeing (or disagreeing) more than 100% on MN. Something to be grateful for.