To think the notion of a "Birthday BJ" shouldn't exist.

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just that really.. does anyone else have to deal with this bright idea?

It doesn't exist in my house/life that's for sure.

it's DP's birthday and he's mentioned it a lot.. safe to say i'm not too keen!

I think my dh mentions this every year , I think it's happened once

Never heard of it.

DH is lucky to get a card and his breakfast made for him.

So it's such a rare occasion for your dh that it's seen as a treat on his birthday

Dh would never say this to me. He knows there'd be more chance of hell freezing over

Never heard of it

I've never heard of it.

We either have oral sex or we don't.

It has nothing to do with the date on the calender.

So it's such a rare occasion for your dh that it's seen as a treat on his birthday

Pretty much! it happens very rarely i suppose his tactic is to try it on and for some reason thinks that on his birthday his chances will be higher... i feel a bit bad though?!

Do you get a birthday BJ/other indulgent sex treat from him? I used to joke about it with H, he would suggest something and I'd say "what, is it your birthday again already?" but I don't recall that he ever seriously expected any particular sexual favours on his birthday.

hell no! wouldn't want anything!

oh this is very serious.. in his mind

Is this the same concept as "I'll do the washing up if you give me a blow job" ?

Fuck that. If I feel like doing something and it is greeted enthusiastically then away we go.

If I have to force myself, then it is off the table for both of us.

Grim.

How revolting.

I love giving oral sex. As part of a mutual intimate experience.

I would never do it as a 'favour'.

i guess.. i think when we were younger a good few yrs ago i kind of went along with it for a bit of a joke.. a few yrs and 2 kids down the line and now i want to leave it behind.. in the past.. where it belongs.

DP has never suggested a sexual treat for his birthday. But then he gets them - and returns them - regularly anyway. It's just part of life isn't it?

What a revolting attitude - your P not you OP.

Treating your partner to what they really like on their birthday? Hell yes!

Talking about it as if it's a thing? Umm, no thanks.

If he is pressuring you and dropping hints despite you not wanting to then he is a prize arse, birthday or not. Do not 'feel bad' or be guilt-tripped into it.

of course not

neither should Steak and BJ day

just nasty

do it because you want to not because you feel you should do or as a treat

Put some frosting on it and stick a lit candle in?

I didn't know the notion existed, and I would never have to deal with it because I would end any relationship where the guy thinks he is entitled to any sexual act at all.

The only response to crap like this is "piss off"

I've never heard of it either.

Though I feel sorry for your dh that he feels that this is only a yearly treat!

Why do you want to put it in the past?

Hmm, I'm a bit torn. Of course he shouldn't expect it as a given but I love oral and I think if my DH had deprived me of it all year I'd be bloody well trying my luck on my birthday as well!