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To think that there is a serious lack of perspective on mn now to the point it is not actually possible to have a decent discussion any more?

472 replies

wannaBe · 26/11/2015 14:29

Yes, thread inspired by lots of threads but provoked by the flaming I have just had on one in particular. But not a thread about that particular thread.

It seems lately that it is impossible to have an actual discussion on mn without someone either misinterpreting, misreading, twisting, or generally overreacting to everything

Example: poster starts a lighthearted thread about something which it should be obvious that it is lighthearted. A few posts in someone decides to take it very seriously and give the op a flaming. A few more posts in and someone suggests the thread title should be edited by mn hq to ensure people realise it's lighthearted, even though the subject was something like "ibu to burn the house down because I found a spider in the bathroom?"

Or: "ibu to think it's the end of the world because dh ate the chocolate?" response: "there are children dying in the world how dare you even post about chocolate," meant very seriously.

And yes, on the thread I was just on, recounting an incident 35 years ago where my cousin sent out fake invitations to a party unbeknowns to his parents and children turned up. Shock obviously mortifying at the time but 35 years on it's something that his friends remember and laugh at, something which was brought up in his best man's wedding speech, and yes, something which 35 years on is amusing in a "OMG his parents were mortified," way. And yet I have just been told I am sick in the head for finding children's utter devastation over a party they didn't attend 35 years ago amusing.

Mn has always been supportive but has also always had a reputation for being amusing, funny, lighthearted etc, but it is rapidly losing that reputation IMO.

OP posts:
ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/11/2015 19:46

Mintyy and Sparkling whilst I agree with you, I think it's up to the more normal (not looking for a bunfight) neutral posters who should pull up the aggressive ones. On the bj thread earlier a man dared venture his naive masculine viewpoint but one posters response to him was ott, even if he 'deserved' it. The same as the ops responses on the fake invitation by a child thread. It's not chatting, it's trying to totally destroy someone. It needs pulling up and stopping.

nancy75 · 26/11/2015 19:46

Moldies, God that was a fun year round here, I'm still waiting for my invite, think it got lost in the post

SoleBizzzz · 26/11/2015 19:47

I don't feel the need to be unfriendly to people here or in reality.

Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2015 19:47

Maryz Shock

ArmchairTraveller · 26/11/2015 19:48

I've been deleting sparkly Christmas Posts on FB with the fervour of a Born-Again Grinch. Grin

brittanyfairies · 26/11/2015 19:48

I hold Penis Beaker responsible - and it wasn't even a funny thread!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/11/2015 19:49

Blimey what are we expecting on NYE?

Ubik1 · 26/11/2015 19:49

I'd just like to ban the word 'trope'

If that's okay with everyone.

Thanks

Quiero · 26/11/2015 19:49

I have what DS describes as my "Mumsnet Face". I cannot believe to what extremes people will go to make themselves look like an absolute utter twat.

My favourite ever was when sparklingbrook got accused of having some agenda against the NHS Grin

originalmavis · 26/11/2015 19:50

Maryz was much funnier when she was triple posting every time.

The funniest thread was the poo in a sock one.

magimedi · 26/11/2015 19:50

28 days to go, Maryz

Floppityflop · 26/11/2015 19:50

What happened last year on NYE? I'm aware something did but wasn't on MN as I was making play-doh charades things.

southeastastra · 26/11/2015 19:51

i do wonder if lots of newbies are just too scared to start threads that may be a little too contentious now for fear of the angry pitchforks

Floppityflop · 26/11/2015 19:52

The funniest thread in the last year was the DH eating the fat ball meant for the birds. That was around this time of year, we should have more like that!

Mintyy · 26/11/2015 19:52

I'm not here much these days, but I certainly do mention it to posters when I think they have been excessively and unnecessarily rude, and I wish more would do the same.

Of course I then have to take accusations of being Mumsnet royalty, or "in with Olivia" or Thread Police on the chins Grin

Floppityflop · 26/11/2015 19:52

It was the way it was written too...

usual · 26/11/2015 19:52

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originalmavis · 26/11/2015 19:54

I think it's the young 'un's who have wasps wedged well and truly up their arses and start most of the fights. They don't understand the rules. I bet its far more genteel on gransnet.

southeastastra · 26/11/2015 19:55

is there still that off the beaten track topic?

nancy75 · 26/11/2015 19:56

Was it last nye that they just shut it down or was that the year before?

southeastastra · 26/11/2015 19:56

young people in real life seem quite chilled though, perhaps inwardly they are all middle age

Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2015 19:56

Quiero Grin

AuntieStella · 26/11/2015 19:56

"Thread Police on the chins"

Sounds like a useful gadget for the 'annoying signs of the menopause' chat Grin

Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2015 19:58

We do need a MN drama for Christmas.

Yes like in Eastenders. Justine could appear and tell everyone to 'get out of my pub website'. Grin

Gowgirl · 26/11/2015 19:58

I think it was the year before.....lots of Greggs and goats....