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To think that there is a serious lack of perspective on mn now to the point it is not actually possible to have a decent discussion any more?

472 replies

wannaBe · 26/11/2015 14:29

Yes, thread inspired by lots of threads but provoked by the flaming I have just had on one in particular. But not a thread about that particular thread.

It seems lately that it is impossible to have an actual discussion on mn without someone either misinterpreting, misreading, twisting, or generally overreacting to everything

Example: poster starts a lighthearted thread about something which it should be obvious that it is lighthearted. A few posts in someone decides to take it very seriously and give the op a flaming. A few more posts in and someone suggests the thread title should be edited by mn hq to ensure people realise it's lighthearted, even though the subject was something like "ibu to burn the house down because I found a spider in the bathroom?"

Or: "ibu to think it's the end of the world because dh ate the chocolate?" response: "there are children dying in the world how dare you even post about chocolate," meant very seriously.

And yes, on the thread I was just on, recounting an incident 35 years ago where my cousin sent out fake invitations to a party unbeknowns to his parents and children turned up. Shock obviously mortifying at the time but 35 years on it's something that his friends remember and laugh at, something which was brought up in his best man's wedding speech, and yes, something which 35 years on is amusing in a "OMG his parents were mortified," way. And yet I have just been told I am sick in the head for finding children's utter devastation over a party they didn't attend 35 years ago amusing.

Mn has always been supportive but has also always had a reputation for being amusing, funny, lighthearted etc, but it is rapidly losing that reputation IMO.

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confusedbumbo · 27/11/2015 18:45

I agree. I don't like the insinuation on this thread that the lefties are the humourless ones though! I'm as lefty as they come and I too am bemused at all the offended/aggressive posters.

I joined MN for the first time a couple of years ago and posted for advice on my relationship with my half sister. Cue six million posters jumping in saying I was a bitch and mustn't ever say anything bad about her ever as my father had had the nerve to have a second family and therefore every piece of bonkers behaviour she ever exhibited was entirely justified.

It terrified me and I left the site. Then rejoined later, older and wiser. Lots of projection on MN. There always has been.

I do NC regularly as I post quite identifiable things on here and don't want to be outed.

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 18:45

Typically controversial subject? Give me a clue, so many to choose from, and to quote you 20 times-must have been very controversial bumbley.

Owllady · 27/11/2015 18:52

I reckon it involves a dog....

bumbleymummy · 27/11/2015 18:52

sparkling No, what I said wasn't particularly controversial in the context it was written. She only took part of it though and gleefully posted it throughout the thread to show how unreasonable I was Hmm.

I think that's the point that BrandNewAndImproved was making though - one sentence can be taken out of context and that point gets argued throughout the thread, taking it completely off-topic and often changing it into a bunfight.

Not sure why the poster was allowed to stay tbh. I've seen people suspended for less.

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 18:53

But what was it about bumbley? I am intrigued.

bumbleymummy · 27/11/2015 18:54

No, not dog related Grin.

IrisVillarca · 27/11/2015 19:01

It was probably about abortion.

BrandNewAndImproved · 27/11/2015 19:04

I reckon it was about parking in baby spaces Grin

IrisVillarca · 27/11/2015 19:11

We haven't had an Eating Food Before It's Paid For thread for an absolute age.
I blame the current demographic Sad

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 19:15

There was a 'TVs in bedroom at what age' thread yesterday Iris.

M4blues · 27/11/2015 19:17

Ah, grapes in the trolley threads...

There used to be regular threads about taking a term time holiday and daring to bring back sweets to share with the class. Lots of people thought it was fine, lots more thought not. I suppose fines for term time holidays mean those threads are long gone.

BrandNewAndImproved · 27/11/2015 19:18

I love those thread!

Pyjama wearing in tesco..

nancy75 · 27/11/2015 19:19

Yes, the puritans were out for the tv in bedroom thread. Competition to be the most sanctimonious was present but not as fierce as the tight Arse Christmas thread or whatever it was called

IrisVillarca · 27/11/2015 19:19

Was there, Sparkling? Dang it. Dang working to actual hell Sad

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 19:20

Term time holidays have now been renamed 'educational travelling experiences' I think.
Week in Majorca far more educational than a week at school. Grin

IrisVillarca · 27/11/2015 19:21

Isn't the fruit all tightly packed in plastic at the budget end of the supermarkets? That could be it.

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 19:22

Everyone knows that TVs in bedrooms mess up your sleep hygiene. Bedrooms are for sleeping or reading only. Wink

I was posting on the thread sat in bed with the cat eating biscuits and watching the TV listening to the occasional distant yell of the teen DSs who were both gaming online in their bedrooms. Terrible.

M4blues · 27/11/2015 19:22

And I remember the uproar over the poster who lived literally next door to school and wanted to nip 30 seconds away to the playground to collect her ds1 at 2pm whilst her DS was still mid nap. It was sept reception first couple of weeks when they finish early and I remember her saying she'd watch until the door opened and nip across.

But no. Apparently it was neglect and she could be run over (even though she didn't need to cross the road) or the house could burn down with ds2 inside. She even said it was so close that her baby monitor would still work. But alas, no. MN collectively got its knickers in a twist and she was flamed big time. Poor woman. Madness!

nancy75 · 27/11/2015 19:25

Sparkling, having read your disgusting tv update I feel that the only thing to do is call the police, after all they are there to deal with every mumsnet problem.

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 19:27

Maybe the non emergency number nancy? I would not have a leg to stand on in my defence. Sad The case could be heard by Judge Rinder. Grin

nancy75 · 27/11/2015 19:28

I will make sure not to watch your trial on my bedroom tv

Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2015 19:29
Grin
M4blues · 27/11/2015 19:35

I saw a Judge Judy the other day. It was hilarious. One couple were claiming for dental treatment for their 10yrold after his friend shot him in the mouth with a pellet gun. The parents of the child who shot his friend were saying 'well it wasn't us who shot the boy, it wasour 10yr old.' JJ said 'you bought your child a gun. Doesn't matter it was a pellet gun. Any man who buys his child a gun is an idiot. Nothing more to be said. Petition granted.' And that was it! Brilliant!

nancy75 · 27/11/2015 19:38

I don't get judge just, why does nobody say
Hang on a minute, you're not actually a judge, ive got better things to do with my time, now bugger off?

M4blues · 27/11/2015 19:40

Judge Judy? She is a judge and it's a legally binding courtroom. Same with Judge Rinder.

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