Is it reallly wrong to plan to have more children than bedrooms?

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i've seen this a lot on Mn recently and people seem to be really cross when children sharing rooms is mentioned. I would love another but all our rooms are taken....more concerned about my age, time and money tbh.

So does the available space form part of other people's decisions? How important is that aspect?

I guess that explains why so many kids have TVs in their bedroom, it must be the only way to keep them still. It sounds horrific, my kids are so much happier running around at home and outside.

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Mine loll about on the sofa playing Call of duty while swigging fruit shoots and studying greggs sausage rolls into their pasty little faces with their chubby little hands.

Three beds here and three young boys. They are sharing one room so their Granny can sleep over one night a week. I imagine as they get older they will rotate between two sharing a room and one having a single room e.g. if they are doing exams in a particular year or having a sleepover etc.

We live in a 4 bedroom house, with a 5 year old and a 2 year old, for the last few months my 2 year old hasn't slept at night, nightmare to get to sleep, waking crying constantly in the night awake between 4-5am so upset.Tried every trick in the book nothing worked....nightmare. 2 weeks ago last resort I moved her into her brother room, he loves it, she loves it...2 weeks of no tears and everyone is finally getting sleep!

Son age 12 needs bedroom door closed time ( ahem. Blushes) Daughter 11 likes to mince about in very little if anything. Not fair to make them share now. Onecroom = notvenough powerpoints abd daily battles over territory and perceived possesions. Really love my two but one sleeps well in the dark, other cries withoutva night light..it just doesnt work. Overnight hotel stays ( ah..the high life..how I miss it) and a weeks camping pod sharing are ok( crashes back to reality) but there will come a time, whatever and however you raise em that they just want a little time or space on their own.

All the houses on my street are 3 beds and there are a lot of families with 3, 4, 5 kids living in them

I guess that explains why so many kids have TVs in their bedroom, it must be the only way to keep them still. It sounds horrific, my kids are so much happier running around at home and outside

I can't work out if that was tongue in cheek? If not, what a ridiculous comment.

How is the number of kids in a home at all related to having TV's in their bedrooms?!?

And why would 3 dc in a 3 bed house (for instance) not be running around outside?

Surely siblings are not always in at the same time though dansmum? There is plenty of opportunity for space. I agree it is impossible in your situation but that is not true to close same sex siblings.

Five children- five bedrooms.

DH has his own room though.

I honestly have never heard of this on mn before. It really is a case of 'needs must' imo, no one regardless of age needs their own room, they may want one but that's different. I've never heard anyone say 'I wish I'd never been born because I had to share a room'. Lots more important things to worry about in life.

I grew up in a 5-bedroom house and only had one brother. For most of the time we shared a bedroom, as we just liked it that way!

Its fine. I have 5 and have a 3 bed terrace. Although two rooms are huge. We have the small room (a lot bigger than boxroom) and the girls shared one and boys shared the other. If they need quiet time they are allowed in my room. So its never a problem. Both girls got top grades at GCSE so don't think it impacts on work. As long as you make sure they have an escape if they need peace (parent room, dining room etc). Mine actually enjoy sharing.

I shared a bedroom with two sisters until I left home. I was aware we didn't have the space and was quite happy with the set up until I got to about 14. They were messy, never cleaned up, took my stuff and I really didn't get any time/space to myself. I wouldn't mind our dc sharing as long as they were more respectful than my sisters were and they could have some time to theirselves if needed.

Mine actually enjoy sharing.

Yeah, until one wants to watch a movie up there & the other one wants to shag her boyfriend.

Unless you'll let them use your room for that too!!

We actually moved from a three bed to a two bed when I was pregnant with DD2. Best decision we ever made, our old house wasn't nice, and it wasn't in a nice area. For us moving to a nicer house in a nicer area, with a bigger garden and more downstairs space outweighed having a third bedroom. Unlike our old place this one actually feels like a home now.

DD2 will be moving into DD1's room shortly, there's 2.5 years between them. Their room isn't massive, but it's big enough for a bed and a cot, 2 wardrobes, bookshelf all with drawers for storage, a children's chair and some of DD1's toys. We could easily fit two single beds in there, but the plan is to get them a bunk bed when DD2 is ready to come out of her cot so they have more space to play.

Hopefully by the time they get to teenage years we will have been able to buy (currently renting) our own 3 bed house, as I do think that as they get older they will probably want their own space and they probably won't want bunk beds any more. How ever you can't predict the future and if they still have to share, then so be it. Plenty of people manage.

after reading these comments ive just reliesed that i lived/slept in for 15yrs .5 of a bed room-was the box room and had single bed and chest of drawers in it - feel deprived now

tho at 15 ma and pa did an extension and bed 4 appeared and huge room and sink for just me :) 1 was parents 2 brother 3 .5 my room and then 4 was then mine and .5 was/is a study

i get what the poster who said that if in council and have another child that they expect to be rehoused, yet if private/own you dont have that choice and either kids share or you dont have more children then rooms

There's no one size fits all answer, is there? It depends on the kids. My sister and I shared happily as children but would have killed each other as teens. I mean literally drawn blood. We still would if we were forced to share a room!

My 2 boys currently share a room, aged 3 & 1 so right now it isn't that big of a deal, maybe a different story when they get older haha. The only thing I hate is if my youngest decides to drag out bedtime leaving my oldest without a bed for a little longer than expected (queue grumpy face from him!)
I didn't plan to have my second child he just kind of happened & then we made do with the space we had, right now it's a bit of a squeeze but thank god for bunk beds!!! I so cannot wait until I can get some of these bad boys & they can have so much more room to play!
I shared a room with my brother until we got a bigger house (then along came brother no2) & this definitely wasn't a problem for me growing up so I don't see why it should be a problem now. I was happy sharing & my boys are happy sharing so until the dreaded day of the 'I don't want to share with him anymore' & 'I need my own space' comes we are staying put.

This insistence that all children have their own bedroom from birth is ridiculous, my parents owned a 3 bedroom house, I shared a bedroom with my older sister until she left home, my two younger brothers shared a room they got their own room after my sister and I had left home. My two oldest daughters always shared a bed room mainly because they wanted to my son had his own room...until his younger sister was born, they shared a bedroom until he started school then my oldest had her own room the two middle girls shared a room, until one became an adult, at one stage my youngest daughter had to share My room because I could not afford to rent a 5 bedroom house.From my own experiences it is good for them to share a room, it teaches them how to get along, to Share & have consideration for others, very few of the kids I went to school with had their own bedrooms even the rich kids , there was no self entitlement in my peers or my kids , they will get their own bedroom when they move out and pay their own rent.
My granma had TWELVE brothers and sisters, they had rooms with blankets thrown over ropes as dividers, 3 or 4 to a room, no one thought anything of it as it was common with very large families.

It's not about squeezing as many people as possible in a small space. I think I could accommodate at least 15 more children in my home, with bunk beds, loosing the study etc.

2 kids might be very happy to share, but they might not. It's unfair to impose cramped conditions on kids. Little ones don't really mind, I could put all my young ones on a mattress together, they'd be happy. It's not right when they grow up however.

According to the World Health Organization, overcrowding refers to the situation in which more people are living within a single dwelling than there is space for, so that movement is restricted, privacy secluded, hygiene impossible, rest and sleep difficult.

I know people used to live in crowded conditions in this country, 4 families sharing a bathroom even, but that is not right. (and not allowed nowadays).

I honestly think that to have a peaceful house, you do need at least one room per occupant. I don't mean a bedroom, but a space to be in peace (even if dad is in the kitchen, mum in the study, one child in playroom, one is his room etc...). If someone is ill, need to study, sleep or wants to be alone, they have the space to do so in their own home.

That is just you though Janedoe. We have 5 of us in 2 bed right now and none of us are making a sound. Modern life!

I don't think it's just me. My home is not exactly silent, but seems to be a favorite place for teen gatherings, and I am always happy when my kids are at home when they are not doing specific activities.

No-one is forcing them to be here with their friends, so I take it as a positive thing that they chose to come here. We wouldn't have so many people around if we had no space.

That's good for me. Send the groups elsewhere to make a mess.

Janedoe well lucky you being able to afford a nice big house

Christ Janedoe, you need a slice of real life!!

that's the point, it's not about being lucky at all, it is planning our children based on what we could afford (and what size house we could buy), which is the point of this.

I didn't have as many children as I would have loved, because couldn't afford to give them a nice childhood.

you need a slice of real life!! what the hell does that even mean? Do you think I am a ghost or something, my life is not real?