to think if my 4 year old wants me to take him to his classroom that shouldnt be a problem?

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he's 4 for goodness sake. he loves school and if he wants me to take him to his classroom door rather than go all the way in on his own i dont see why that's an issue. Teacher shouted over to him today saying "come on ds otherwise mummy will have to leave you at the gate". Its irrationally upset me. silly I know but i think they are still so little. Hes coped brilliantly with school, loves reading etc and we have just had a great report. he has an older sibling at school who runs in happily. Oh amd im most definitely not the only parent who does this. He ran in happily before half term cos they got a sticker but dont know so he doesn't see the point! i just think they are still little and i dont know why school tries to make them grow up so fast!!!

Jesus sometimes you have to get results by the fastest most stress free method possible.

I've pinned my kid down just to get pjs on. At the end of a long day I just need those fucking pyjamas on! I'm not going to negotiate half an hour over it!

Tali your child is a newborn. When he is older, you might have to adapt just a little.

right well asthma medication and many others need giving them and there no matter what.

and at a small child who would allow a dr near an open wound to glue it. stitches don't hurt once the area is numbed. it's the fear and the medication and the pain of looking at the wound to assess that's the part likely to cause problem. mot stitching or gluing already numb areas.

Oh and tablets aren't given to small children. meds are given in syrup form- takes a while to kick in and won't target the specific area you are after for say a stitch up- and good luck finding a dr or nurse willing to wait around.

injection- well two year olds are known for compliance with needles aren't they

or gas form- ever put a mask over a kids face? it just isn't going to happen. instantly the acceptance of a mask on the face cab take weeks or months.

cream- well if an are o's sore kids won't let you near it so how do yku plan to administer a cream without tears

Oh Tali I know you feel this way now, but come back in a few years and see if you feel the same. I think you have a very idealistic idea of how small children respond to things. All children need to have boundaries, and to sometimes 'conform'. Sometimes, despite all the explaining, children just have to do what they are told, otherwise life is stressful and chaotic, for both you and them.

In a couple of years, You'll either have changed your ideas , or you'll have a toddler who runs rings around you.

budgie again I'm not a fan on "sometimes they'll just have to do what they're told". It's not my style.

I'm not criticising those who choose to do it, it just isn't for me.

I've had these opinions for many years I don't think they'll change! Obviously some things do and act child is different but on the whole I'm into a relaxed style with many things, parenting is just one of those

hello! waves OP here. think we are getting a little bit heated!!

But you haven't answered what you plan to do when your child refused to.let a dr near them.

See I'm a relaxed parent. Uber relaxed.

But life is fucking busy sometimes and I'm not into negotiating with toddlers for hours on end when I've been at work all day and I need them in bed.

Just get your pjs on. Now. It's very relaxed. It just involves them having pjs on within 5 minutes, rather than the half hour it would take if I negotiated every step of the way.

Giles again I would tend to go with distraction.

I find it hilarious you're firing all these questions at me. I haven't claimed to know it all, yet because I disagree with strict parenting I'm being quizzed on all sorts of unlikely scenarios rather than you lot just accept all people parent differently.,

pretend if that works for you cool, it's not for me.

Well then tali good luck in the future and I am sure we will all be ready to advise of your "why won't my child listen" posts in a few years when you start to realise how unrealistic your approach is.

Fine Tali. I don't care how you parent your kid.

But distractions don't always work.

and it's hardly an unlikely senario when there are at least two of us on this bread who have had no choice but to pin down hysterical chikdren to administer asthma meds.

do you really think a child feeling grotty with a high temp is going to suddenly stop crying when you wave a peppa pig toy at them.

Tali you keep mentioning distraction like its some miracle approach, it isn't. It doesn't always work. Children are pretty clever and soon realise what your trying to do!

But you haven't just disagreed have you -you have referred to other forms of parenting as bullying and cold hearted

It took weeks for dd to accept her spacer.

weeks

I would not accept a parent in my room for the entire day, nor would my co teachers. Principal wouldn't have it either.

I can see the benefits in bringing your child in but tbh I think it's often more for the parents sake, in my experience.

Hi OP

So, you need to talk to your child and bribe your child, then use tough love to boot him into school. That's the summary I think.

yet because I disagree with strict parenting I'm being quizzed on all sorts of unlikely scenarios

I disagree that any of the previous poster have demonstrated strict parenting, just realistic! And the scenarios are not unlikely - most children will have to visit doctor, go to school, have medicine, and get in the car !!!

Oh and dd2 has also had to be restrimed/held in order to be able to put her on a drip and anti biotic and an LP and ultrasounds and x rays as a baby.

distractions my arse. how do you distract a baby.

Giles DS was in NICU having all sorts of things done to him. He stopped screaming when I put music on for him. The cannula needle was still in. He didn't even notice.

You can distract a baby. Maybe not every baby, I will concede I have a fairly easy one.

Nishky I referred to the "do it because I say so" method as cold hearted, you said I'm cold hearted because DS went is his own room young, it's just different things suit different people

Tali, in all fairness as horrible as a baby in NIcU is in the sense of needing to fight to get them to accept treatment it really isn't the same as an older child who is refusing.