AIBU to think there are few worse crimes on here than to be the OW

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I think there are criminals who have been convicted of horrific offences who would get a better reception on here than OW do.

Personal attacks might be throwned upon but OW seem fair game. Cunt is a common insult to call OW and hardly anyone objects.

Yeah it is shitty to fuck another woman's bloke but no insult is off limits.

I do not believe some hardened criminals would be in receipt of the level of abuse OW get. Nor do the DH/DP's get anywhere near as much condemnation as the OW do.

City, for it to work, I think both partners have to want the same thing. I would view a couple as fundamentally incompatible if one wanted a poly relationship and the other was opposed to it. That being the case imo they should split and find other people, who share their views.

Anyway, poly isn't the same as cheating. Poly relationships are based on honesty about desires and agreement amongst all concerned. Infidelity is about deceit and dishonesty and having no respect for the person they are married to.

What if one is polyamorous and the other is monogamous (but doesn't mind the polyamory)? As long as there is complete honesty on both sides then its ok?

If both sides are fine then that's fine too.

You need disclosure before marriage however. If someoenn is probably gay but trying the wife thing with a woman and never tells her that's pretty awful deception.

I think it is up to each couple to decide what works for them. A poly relationship wouldn't be what I want, but if there was honesty and respect and agreed ground rules, that both partnets were happy with then it wouldn't he cheating.

Cheating is when one partner thinks they are in a monogamous relationship but the other one is upto all sorts behind their back and is lying about it!

Right. Just getting my head around what constitutes cheating.

Still no sign of the OP but love the way this thread has gone off at a tangent!

City not getting why you say 'still no sign of the OP' as I have posted a number of times on this thread!!!

On the poly subject having multiple partners does not constitute cheating IMO. It cannot be cheating if it has been agreed either party can have other partners. Alternatively a couple having a casual fling perhaps don't have expectations of being exclusive.

Making vows or agreeing you will be exclusive and then deceiving your partner by seeing other people behind their back tis a different story.