Star Wars vs c-section

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Have nc for this, as dh will want to see results!

Mumsnet jury is needed....

Just got the letter through for my c-section - 17th December. DH wants to see the midnight showing of the new Star Wars movie at midnight, 16th/17th December. I have to go in at 7.30am on the 17th.

AIBU to not really want him to go? I think I'm going to be nervous and want him at home, and we're going to be pretty busy after baby gets here/in hospital all day etc; I think he needs his rest. (we already have young ds1) He is a massive Star Wars fan and is excited about the movie. He's very good at home, massive support and brilliant dad/dh. I (and ds) will, hopefully, be in bed, asleep.

AIBU?

Better he goes before baby arrives than when you're coping with a newborn.

Better to go before than after

If he's tired on the day his baby is born he will just have to shut up and suck it up!!

Probably an idea he doesn't include booze in the cinema trip.

Umm if you're counting votes to make your decision then yanbu, it's a film ffs. I thought the other posters on here were joking.

What do you want to do the night before your baby arrives. Do you want him there for company/support? If I was going into hospital for any operation i'd like a nice relaxed evening in with my partner the night before. Would definitely do the same for him if the situation were reversed. I also think it would be better for him not to pull an unnecessary all-nighter just before your baby arrives.

It'll be in the cinema for ages anyway.

you do realise that things could not go according to plan and your husband might need to make decisions for you or the baby. he surely should consider rest to ensure he's alert and can speak up in the hospital more important?

films come out on dvd.

"I'm a traitor"

Take her away!

I'm in 2 minds also having a massive SW fan as a partner.

I understand your chap's wanting to see it & in his mind its OK because its before the baby arrives so it won't impact on anything or anyone other than himself. He can do without sleep, he did it loads of time when he was 20 & he knows how to deal with it etc etc Plus the midnight showing will be special & atmospheric & only for 'true' (dressing-up & bringing plastic lightsabers) fans & it gets to confirm how special he is & everyone else there will know that he's a proper hardcore fanboy & it will make him feel all involved in something bigger than himself & it won't ever happen again, its a one off experience.

Yet the other half of me says he needs to grow the fuck up, its only a film & he needs to be properly prepared the day after, not slinking away for a kip when the baby is here or fucking about in the morning having another 5 minutes when you need to leave. Good points are made above about his potential driving ability after so little sleep & of course his phone needs to be on in case you go into labour that night as a planned c section is not a guarantee of no labour.

I'd let him go. In fact I'd probably waddle along with him to see it

And if he's rough in the morning hand him a redbull and tell him to suck it up, he got to see Star Wars.

I say GO! I'm not sure he needs to drive the next day - pregnant women can drive as far as I am aware

He can sleep all morning while you are waiting for all the emergency sections to bump you back to 4pm anyway

and yes I'd go with him!

but I'd be surprised if he can get a ticket

No. Just no. It's a film. The next day is going to be really tough for you and you need him to bring his A game. I can't believe others are suggesting otherwise. This should be your call and if you're not 100% happy he shouldn't go.

I'd go with him because I never got any sleep the night before my ELCS anyway as I was so excited - might as well distract myself!

What do you want to do the night before your baby arrives.

From her OP, she is hoping to be in bed asleep!

I'm in the no camp! You may well not get taken down until much later in the day depending on scheduling, emergencies by which point if he's been up all night watching star wars he'll be tired and possibly a bit useless/falling asleep in the chair etc. Plus even if you're totally calm just now you might be really nervous or anxious the night before and want support.

I'm in the "it's a film ffs" camp

Of course he should go.

Better before the baby arrives than after.

Anyway, he needs to get used to being sleep deprived.

Let him go! It's only a couple of hours and he will always tell people what a great wife/mum you are for not stopping him going! He won't have then energy to go after the baby is born!!

you need him to bring his A game.

Are men who have been with their partners for a long labour that ends in CS no good then? The OP's DH is not going to be any less on the ball than a father who has been up all night with a labouring woman. He's likely to be far better in fact.

If he goes to the first showing in a DV costume, let him keep it on so he can tell the baby "I am.... Your father!" .
I'd let him go and ask a close friend or your mum to spend the night so you're not alone.

Why do people think he's incapbable of making a decision or driving?

I generally sleep 4hrs a night and do perfectly fine.

Wtf? Is he a grown man or a 10 year old? It's a film. You are having HIS baby. What if your ds is ill or wakes in the night? You need a good night's sleep and to feel relaxed and supported. My DH and most guys i know wouldn't even ask the question.

Marking place to show DP later, he would definitely be on your Dps side as a hugeeee fan, but I completely would be feeling the same as you. It makes a lot of sense to let him go before baby comes so he won't have to go when you need him most with new baby, but also so he doesn't miss the cinema showing and resent missing it. Either way I hope you're CS goes well and you have a happy healthy little baby to cuddle soon

Id let him go, but as others have said, if he doesn't have a ticket already booked he's got no chance.

On reading the thread title I thought BUT ITS JUST A FILM STAY AT HOME. But really when you think about it, he might not get much sleep anyway for whatever reason (like baby excitement!) so might as well see the film instead of tossing and turning for two hours.

I assume he already has a ticket. I say go. But then have been waiting to see this film since my dad took me to see Return of the Jedi for my 9th birthday. Its been a loooong time.

Yes, it is a film. But its not just a film. I've got tickets for the 22nd. This is going to be the best Christmas ever.

Congratulations .

Finn if baby is a boy?

My DH said he won't get a ticket for the midnight showing anyway, so it may be a redundant argument.

Having put the dilemma to our household we all agreed that he should be ok to go but must agree to be ok to support you the next day. No moaning about tiredness at all.

Good luck with baby.