CurrerBellend
How very weird of you. I'm wondering if you knew that there are many cultures where not all family members have the same surname. Do you think they're not as bound as a family because of this? If so, bleurrrrgh at the racism.
That particular weirdo poster said she thinks all having the same name binds you as a family. Now, there are a great many cultures in the world, possibly the majority of humanity actually, where family units don't all have the same surname. This is a fact. If she, you or anyone else thinks that having the same surname is part of what binds you as a family, that means she thinks not having the surname means you're missing part of what binds you as a family. She is basically saying that her cultural and ethnic traditions are superior, for no other reason than that she's pulled it out of her arse. That is pretty much the dictionary definition of racism, actually. If you don't understand that, the problem is with you rather than the explanation. You're allowed to think your own naming traditions are nice, and to like it when people practice them. When you start suggesting that they bind families more than other people's, that's some vomit worthy prejudiced shit I'm afraid
......
Ultimately, the problem with angelsparks remarks isn't the fact that she likes family all having the same names. It's fine to enjoy one particular cultural practice. It's the fact that she said doing is part of what binds you as a family. Because that means one of two things must be true. One, she doesn't know that huge numbers of families across the globe don't do it. In which case, she should probably do a bit of research before making sweeping pronouncements. Or two, she does know that but thinks they're not bound as families because they're following a different cultural tradition to hers. Which is where the racism comes in. Either way, her ignorance is problematic.
end
No - not racist, just in 'my culture' (English) a family unit tends to have the same name - with modern day changes where people dont stay married to the same partner (or even get married at all) things change and evolve.
if you would bother to read what I actually put " To me, thats part of what binds you as a family" - see the key part here "PART" Classic example of someone trying too hard to find a problem where it doesnt exist
"vomit worthy prejudiced shit" really? is that what you are reading in to my comment? says more about you than me really. To read racism in to a comment about family names grouping/binding a unit is a leap further that most (pa crossthrough linethough "normal") people would take. Thanks for your helpful insight (attack) on my personality
My friend got married and she took his first name as her middle name - (eg she was Jane Michael Smith) that their tradition.
I was reading up on surnames, and most places have some kind of family name (these ones i thought were interesting and worth sharing)
Interestingly In France, until 1 January 2005, children were required by law to take the surname of their father. Parents can give their children the family name of either their father, mother, or a hyphenation of both – although no more than two names can be hyphenated. In cases of disagreement, the father's name applies
In Germany today, upon marriage, both partners can choose to keep their birth name or choose either partner's name as the common name. In the latter case the partner whose name wasn't chosen can keep his birth name hyphenated to the new name (e.g. Schmidt and Meyer choose to marry under the name Meyer. The former Schmidt can choose to be called Meyer, Schmidt-Meyer or Meyer-Schmidt), but any children will only get the single common name. In the case that both partners keep their birth name they must decide on one of the two family names for all their future children