to be annoyed with DP for saying I love you too much?

[hotlinesling]

Every single time I catch DPs eye he tells me he loves me and/or kisses me. Every single text message he declares his love. In person, if I don't reciprocate he says 'I do...I do...' repeatedly until I say it or - more usually - change the subject. The most annoying one is in the morning. He leaves for work an hour before the dc and I need to get up. He can't help himself and always has to whisper I love you before leaving. This 9/10 times wakes the baby. Am I being a heartless cow for wishing he'd stop or am I right to be annoyed?

I believe it's true.

It's not an excuse for shite behaviour though.

Most of them care about 3 things, two of them are sex and food and one other.

They do not want to chew the fat of a relationship, gossip, worry about meals and school pick ups while also working.

They cannot do it.

The thing is, I don't think anyone should tolerate either abusive or dickhead behaviour

This man is trampling all over OP's wishes, boundaries, personal space and (reading between the well signposted lines) is a lazy twat too

I refuse to make even the smallest excuses for that

like some else said, this isn't "love"

Really Af

Well op, having read your recent thread it sounds like he's trying his best, in his own cack handed way to support/reassure you at this time ( you are waiting for a child to be diagnosed with Sn/speech delay etc) a very worrying time for you both

So if he asks if you are ok constantly then he probably cares!! Poor bloke

I think most men satisfy the basic two levels of human needs for themselves (if we look at Maslow's theory).

weather could you explain how "men" (as a homogenous group, since you insist) manage to "multi task" at work (for example) then ?

although I appreciate you say this inability to do so because of what they have between their legs is no excuse for crappiness

How do they "multitask" at work?

MumOnTheRunAgain, I am responding to what she wrote on this thread

it appears you are responding to another thread

• and I did not mention "what is between their legs".

Yeah, maybe I am? But hey, maybe there's more to this than your man hating theory?

strangely enough, many men manage to hold down highly responsible jobs

I am just wondering how you would explain that, since you think they have only (three, you say?) synapses

The mistake we make is we expect to be treated like we are the same as men without appreciating the genetic differences.

That's not being equal.

Highly responsible jobs while thinking about what everyone is going to eat and keeping an eye on the time to make sure they collect the kids while also dealing with a client?

Mum I'm with you all the way there

there is lots more to this than saying "I love you" a bit too much < high five >

You do write in a man-hating manner, AF. I think that's why I can't make my mind up on these types of threads

concious yes he could be on the spectrum. His own child and other child from a previous relationship seem to be both SN

Let's not let that get in the way of a good bashing though, AF has declared him a 'wrong un' and the MN sheep will follow that

Mum, thank you for the illumination there, I think it was needed.

I would want to kill him. Especially during the morning round of "I Love You" that wakes the baby. Honestly I couldn't tolerate it.

I believe you have it the wrong way round, Weather

You assume men cannot do what women do (as expected by society)

I believe they can

That's not man-hating

Op, have you tried talking to him about all this? Is he insecure generally.

I haven't accused you of man hating.

I don't believe that men and women are capable of the same things all the time.

We were built to compliment each other.

Could we let OP make her own mind up whether her husband has additional needs ?

Not anywhere has she raised it as a possibility or even that she suspects it. I get accused of making shit up, but that's quite a stretch, ain't it ?

Weathergames
Most of them care about 3 things, two of them are sex and food and one other.

Stfu.
I could easily make some sexist BS up about women.

"They only ever think about 3 things, shoes, bags and spending a mans money"

Here I thought the world had moved on and those attitudes had fallen by the wayside. Seems i was wrong. Just tonight I've read this sexist claptrap and in another thread it was obvious that DIY is a man's domain.
Come on? Really? In 2015?
I despair.

Oh also. Whilst typing this ive managed to remember to breath in and out and blink, give me a man of the year award.

Let the op make up her own mind? You mean, stop distracting from what's really going on and go back to everyone agreeing with you! Because they were..... For a while

The mistake we make is we expect to be treated like we are the same as men without appreciating the genetic differences.

I don't believe that men and women are capable of the same things all the time.

We were built to compliment each other.

Do the world a favour and read Delusions of Gender. Or just something other than the Bible (???) and bollocks on the internet.

seeyou shoes?? No, swap that for boots.... It's Autumn now