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told to leave my 2 year son outside

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 20:40

My health visitor can out to see me after my 2 year old son have a temperature and rash had a A&E visit over it she was saying you have to put cold water in the bath 1st or he will be burned and drown my son is not left in the bathroom alone she was very ignorant and was basically telling me how to safeguard my son in the bathroom my son has 3 different types of eczema and have had this since birth has been to see a skin specialist about this she was Intent on making me see a different specialist she even made appointments for me to see my GP my GP said my son does not need any skin specialist she left a voicemail on my phone for me to call her when I called her she was telling me I have to safeguard the outside of the property that I'm living in in this she told me I had to get a cage that attaches to my front door so my 2 year old son can go outside and play I was told buy her to leave my son unattended outside in a cage I would never leave my child unattended at any point been outside and is watching when in the bath has anyone got any advice on this matter as I'm not a stupid person that would leave a 2 year old in a cage outside but there are young mums out there that could possibly take notice to what thishealth visitor has told me

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lexigrey · 09/11/2015 21:21

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WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 09/11/2015 21:23

My HV told me not to let me dog attack my baby. I was mildly put out that she thought I actually needed telling, but really they have to give safety advice to everyone so I wouldn't worry too much about the bath stuff. It may be obvious to you not to leave your child unattended but to some it may not be.

lorelei9 · 09/11/2015 21:24

I wonder if the OP needs to use the voice recognition software so things haven't come out right....perhaps cage is not the right word.

AyeAmarok · 09/11/2015 21:29

Gosh, they just don't teach 'em like they used to in the good old days.

LimboNovember · 09/11/2015 21:30

It must be the wrong word Lorelei but its confusing as op has used other erudite words...

itsmeohlord · 09/11/2015 21:31

I could have done with one of those cages from 1922 for my son!

However, I am sure the HV (if the OP is not a robot posting of course) meant a playpen.

Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 21:35

And of course my son gets out to play, myself and my partner always have our son out and in the parks and with his pup. Thanks to those who understood my writing at the top and for your kind help

OP posts:
hedgehogsdontbite · 09/11/2015 21:35

Are garden is completely unfenced. There is a retractable dog lead bolted to a tree trunk as the previous owner had a pooch. At times I'm very tempted to put DS (2 years) in reins and attach them to it. I wonder what my HV would say? Hmm

hedgehogsdontbite · 09/11/2015 21:35

*Our garden ...

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:41

Completely unrelated but at least three gilmore girls fans on one non gilmore girls thread? Grin (me, and assuming paulankathedog and lorelai too).

MrsDiesel · 09/11/2015 21:41

How bizarre, I think something has definitely got lost in translation with regards to the cage. I am thinking playpen?
Maybe you should call back and ask her to clarify.

Fivegomad · 09/11/2015 21:42

Just a quick bit of info re A&E visits and subsequent HV visits.
Every time a child is seen in A&E the relevant HV dept is notified( by means of a copy of the A&E admittance slip).
This is not because there are any safeguarding concerns, it's standard for each and every child and each and every admittance.
HV's review these forms, and follow up with visits or phone calls where appropriate. They are genuinely trying to offer help.
I can't comment on the advice offered by the OP's HV( and some of them do offer some very strange advice ) but just wanted to reassure anyone who has had an H V follow up after an A&E admittance- it's standard procedure and in no way means anybody has any concerns over your parenting.
( I know this because reviewing A&E slips used to be my job, always loved the pea up the nose ones ! Grin )

Hissy · 09/11/2015 21:42

I am appalled at the fact that MOST of the posts here are being utterly bitchy and out and out rude.

If you don't "get it" then do feel free to pootle off to another thread and leave this one alone. I can't recall seeing such a piss poor reaction to what is an apparently real person asking for help.

OP, if you are still about, please accept huge apologies on behalf of the utter idiots on this thread, I'm sure they would apologise themselves if they had half a brain and a fraction of class, but let's not hold our breaths eh?

Please don't give up on mumsnet, report this thread, get it deleted if you can, or let it just die a death. name change and try again if you still need the support.

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:43

Hedgehogs that's not a bad idea actually. Like an extra long reins lead that you don't have to hold? Assuming you supervise 100% of time (as obviously lead could get caught round neck). You could put music on and enjoy a cuppa while dc potters.

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YetAnotherHelenMumsnet · 09/11/2015 21:45

Hi there,
We've received quite a few reports about this thread, and while we're not going to make any deletions we do think that picking up on peoples' use of paragraph's or otherwise is a bit 'not in the spirit', and can only hope that the OP comes back.

lorelei9 · 09/11/2015 21:46

Wicked, nope, never seen it. Does it have a lot of voice recognition mangling then?

TinklyLittleLaugh · 09/11/2015 21:46

I'm with Hissy. Proper bitchy. Some people need to take a good look at themselves. It is very bad form to criticise someone's grammar and punctuation.

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:46

I actually found post to be readable? Maybe those bitching they couldn't read it and telling op off for not using punctuation aren't as literate as they imagine themselves to be. Or they know they struggle themselves so putting op down makes them feel better about their own failings...

FretYeNotAllIsShiny · 09/11/2015 21:47

I think you may have had a bit of a misunderstanding with the health visitor. It sounds like she's reeling off general advice, like put cold water in the bath before hot water - she probably says that to all mums.

Is it possible by cage, she meant a safety gate at the back door? But if not that, maybe she meant fencing or a playpen.

If your GP is treating the excema, and you are happy with that treatment, then ok. If you are not, then you can ask to see a specialist.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 09/11/2015 21:48

Yeo, the HV contacted us after DD broke her leg to check we were all ok. Standard procedure after an A&E visit.

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:48

No it has a main character two technically called lorelai. And a dog called Paul Anka Smile

hedgehogsdontbite · 09/11/2015 21:49

Unfortunately he doesn't potter. He'd be up a tree like a squirrel, laughing his head off when he falls out and ends up swinging upside down with the lead tied round his feet. I think I need a cage.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 21:49

Hiiiiiii wickedlazy Grin

nebulae · 09/11/2015 21:50

I'm assuming the op doesn't speak English as a first language which is why it's difficult to fully understand?

Is punctuation a peculiarly English concept then?

PacificDogwod · 09/11/2015 21:50

What does the cage have to do with the bath?
And the eczema? 3 kinds of which? Confused

Sorry, I am confused.

Feverish babies may benefit from being 'parked' outside in a pram for a sleep. Sun may help eczema. I suppose a baby pen could be seen as a 'cage'??

I have no idea from your post whether you or your HV ABU. Can you explain? With shorter sentences and some paragraphs please?