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told to leave my 2 year son outside

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 20:40

My health visitor can out to see me after my 2 year old son have a temperature and rash had a A&E visit over it she was saying you have to put cold water in the bath 1st or he will be burned and drown my son is not left in the bathroom alone she was very ignorant and was basically telling me how to safeguard my son in the bathroom my son has 3 different types of eczema and have had this since birth has been to see a skin specialist about this she was Intent on making me see a different specialist she even made appointments for me to see my GP my GP said my son does not need any skin specialist she left a voicemail on my phone for me to call her when I called her she was telling me I have to safeguard the outside of the property that I'm living in in this she told me I had to get a cage that attaches to my front door so my 2 year old son can go outside and play I was told buy her to leave my son unattended outside in a cage I would never leave my child unattended at any point been outside and is watching when in the bath has anyone got any advice on this matter as I'm not a stupid person that would leave a 2 year old in a cage outside but there are young mums out there that could possibly take notice to what thishealth visitor has told me

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G1veMeStrength · 09/11/2015 21:05

A relative of mine died because they fell into a scalding bath. Cold water first is the safest way.

Does your 2 year old play outside in a dangerous place? They do need to be safe.

Senpai · 09/11/2015 21:06

OP's Post translated. Honestly, it's not that hard to figure out.

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My health visitor can out to see me after my 2 year old son had a temperature and rash. I had a A&E visit over.

She was saying you have to put cold water in the bath 1st or he will be burned and drown. My son is not left in the bathroom alone. She was very ignorant and was basically telling me how to safeguard my son in the bathroom.

My son has 3 different types of eczema and has had this since birth. He has been to see a skin specialist about this. She was intent on making me see a different specialist. She even made appointments for me to see my GP. My GP said my son does not need any skin specialist.

She left a voicemail on my phone for me to call her. When I called her she was telling me I have to safeguard the outside of the property that I'm living in. She told me I had to get a cage [playpen?] that attaches to my front door so my 2 year old son can go outside and play. I was told by her to leave my son unattended outside in a cage. I would never leave my child unattended at any point outside and watch him in the bath.

Has anyone got any advice on this matter? I'm not a stupid person that would leave a 2 year old in a cage outside, but there are young mums out there that could possibly take notice to what this health visitor has told me.

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You're welcome MN.

cdtaylornats · 09/11/2015 21:07

You mean this sort of thing from 1922 in the US

told to leave my 2 year son outside
musicinspring1 · 09/11/2015 21:08

Was he scalded? If he was, then the health visitor visit and advice makes sense. The cage makes no sense at all. Maybe a misunderstanding?!?

BrendaFlange · 09/11/2015 21:09

OMG! That picture of the outside cage! Shock

fastdaytears · 09/11/2015 21:09

cdtaylor wowsers. Do Mothercare have them or do I have to go to Amazon.

musicinspring1 · 09/11/2015 21:09

Wtaf?! It's a real thing?!?

BlueJug · 09/11/2015 21:10

Listen to what she said. It is all sound advice as detailed by Maid of Stars

You seem to have the communication problem. Your son is the priority not whether the HV was patronising.

Gileswithachainsaw · 09/11/2015 21:13

with regards to the cage I was wondering if there were native predators that were a danger and maybe an extra layer of protection was needed a stronger fence or a completely fenced off area for the children.

or maybe the cage was for a dog for when.the.kid goes out?

it seems very odd advice and hard to understand what the HV would have meant without knowing the set up.

I wouldn't worry about the bath tbing ir the eczema if you already act on the advice if professionals and have it dealt with.

but the cage. ..

does your garden not hage a fence did she mean set up a travel cot/play pen fir when you open the door to stop him running out?

violetsarentblue · 09/11/2015 21:13

I wonder if the OP is from another country and by cage she actually means put him outside in a playpen?

BathshebaDarkstone · 09/11/2015 21:13

What. The. Actual. Fuck? Confused

treaclesoda · 09/11/2015 21:13

The OP says in her first post that it was something about putting a cage in front of her front door, which is frankly a lot more odd than a cage at the back door so that you could supervise whilst you were in the kitchen. Although a cage of any type frankly sounds very strange.

Is it possible that there is a misunderstanding about the cage?

LimboNovember · 09/11/2015 21:16

The issue is, op is obv struggling in English So I strongly suspect she has mis interpreted what this HV is trying to say to her.

There is clearly a communication issue here.

Op I have had a few a and e visits and had a call up from doctor afterwards and nothing more.

I suspect some thing has worried a and e and I would advise you to have a friend with you - or talk to the HV who speaks English and YOUR language so you can fully understand what she is trying to tell you.

On MUmsnet - its not uncommon to see posts about silly HV who can talk non sense....

However the idea the HV wants you to put your child in a cage a la cdtaylornats Mon 09-Nov-15 21:07:36 is clearly a huge mis understanding.

I would call back the HV department of get a friend too, and say you have no idea what the last lady was talking about can they please help you to understand or come back when you can get a translater with you because your worried.

LagunaBubbles · 09/11/2015 21:16

I don't think people are ridiculing OP, just staying the obvious that the post is difficult to follow.

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:17

Did she mean a playpen? So he can't run off but still gets fresh air? Do you have a front garden or does your front door lead straight onto street? If so a playpen makes sense. Also makes sense if you're garden has a lot of pluck laying in it/long unkempt grass that could be harbouring all sorts.

But a cage?!

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 09/11/2015 21:18

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LimboNovember · 09/11/2015 21:18

Op you need to find out exaclty what they want you to do, if they think you are not listening you will start on a slippery slope.

NO HV can be this bad, you have mis understood her.

rudolphistheboss · 09/11/2015 21:19

Just wanted to say that when my dd's eczema flares up it can look like a really bad, inflamed rash. We were told to avoid very warm baths as they can make it worse so when she's in the middle of a flare up she has cool baths and that helps... Could that be what your HV was aiming at?

LimboNovember · 09/11/2015 21:19

** naughty Grin

drinkyourmilk · 09/11/2015 21:19

Oh my god! That cage! There's a pathè short clip online about it too.I'm practically clutching pearls!!

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:20

*assumimg you don't have a back garden, just a tiny yard that maybe couldn't fit a playpen. Otherwise back garden/yard makes more sense obviously.

Fairenuff · 09/11/2015 21:20

Well one thing is clear, no one can help OP if he/she doesn't clarify one or two things Confused

CuntryLiving · 09/11/2015 21:20

She's a health visitor. She's trying to give you advice to help you. If you don't like the advice, you don't have to take it (although surely any safety advice is a good thing?!)

wickedlazy · 09/11/2015 21:21

Has she described it as like a cage maybe and you have misunderstood?

Iwantakitchen · 09/11/2015 21:21

There is no way that a HV in the UK would recommend to put a baby in a cage. I think the OP is either fake, or there has been a huge misunderstanding.

If the child in question gets no fresh air because, say, the parents have a garden which is not fenced or dangerous, then yes put a playpen in the garden, put a playpen on a balcony. Toddlers need fresh air.

I think the OP misunderstood or misinterpreted the HV.

And yes, you should put cold water first in the bath.