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Original poster

Has anyone's dh done less than mine today?? surely not

305 replies

Candleabras · 08/11/2015 19:45

Today he has, dug potatoes and carrots for 5 people out of the garden, washed peeled and chopped them (for tomorrows tea), been to visit his mother, cooked tonight's tea and washed up (I prepared it) and will walk the dog at 9 tonight

Actually, writing it down it looks ok, but he will have spent about 7 hours watching tv by the time he goes to bed tonight, that's what pisses me off

AIBU?

OP posts:
Fairenuff · 08/11/2015 22:20

So neither of you can do the electrics and neither of you can afford to pay an electrician.

Nope. Still don't understand what it was that you wanted him to do today.

AlwaysHope1 · 08/11/2015 22:22

You sound like a nag. 6 pages in and you can't explain the problem.

FluffyPingPong · 08/11/2015 22:23

OP there are clearly so many underlying problems in your relationship... Your DH watching tv for the majority of today is a complete non-issue here. Sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk with him about the things that are really bothering you.
My husband has been sprawled on the sofa watching tv for the majority of the day and it hasn't bothered me in the slightest as I've been pottering around doing the things I needed and / wanted to do!

shutupanddance · 08/11/2015 22:24

We need more info. Amount and age of dcs? Do you work? How many hours? Why can't you do the diy? Does dh have the skills?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 22:24

Good grief woman! Get a grip and Reader's Digest! Why would he be more equipped to deal with electrics than you?

waiting on the next dripfeed

shutupanddance · 08/11/2015 22:25

Is he a qualified electrican and accountant?Confused

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 08/11/2015 22:26

Dh has spent the entire day on black op 3

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/11/2015 22:27

Why does your dog require about 3 hours of walking per day?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 22:29

InSpace because that way op can bitch about her husband without actually doing anything herself.

Gruntfuttock · 08/11/2015 22:30

Do you regard your DH as an equal or a servant?

miaowmix · 08/11/2015 22:30
Confused
InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/11/2015 22:31

Grin paul

imwithspud · 08/11/2015 22:35

My dp has actually been really productive today. He's cleaned the oven, cleaned the kitchen inc the floor, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher, done laundry and put dd1's garden toys away for winter.

I folded and put away the laundry, entertained the dd's and cooked a Sunday roast.

Sounds like your dh has done quite a bit today but the amount of to he's watched has annoyed you?

Seeyounearertime · 08/11/2015 22:42

My DP has:
Got up, sat down, occasionally gone to the toilet, played with her tablet.
I insist she do this because its her day off and she needs to recharge.

lorelei9 · 08/11/2015 22:45

Good grief
He is an accountant, he's no more qualified to deal with electrics than you are
What's the real issue here or do you just like moaning about nothing? There are no mind readers around.

arethereanyleftatall · 08/11/2015 22:47

Op:

  1. How many hours do you and he work out if the house each week?
  2. How is general housework split?
  3. How is any childcare, if required, spilt??
amazingtracy · 08/11/2015 22:50

What exactly qualifies him to plaster and rewire? It's not like people spend time training to do this or anything? Confused

Are you expecting him to bang up an extension during the next bank holiday?

TBH- I think you need to take responsibility for your part of this OP- there's two of you in it! Do you work?

Bettercallsaul1 · 08/11/2015 22:55

This is a very odd thread! But strangely compelling... Grin

Murdock · 08/11/2015 22:57

Why is he expected to know electrics (despite not being an electrician) but you are not? Is this just man's work?

Zucker · 08/11/2015 22:59

Should he be able to rewire and plaster because he's the man then?

StylishDuck · 08/11/2015 22:59

Today I got up with 9 mo DD at 7 while DH had a lie in (he was out last night and I had a lie in yesterday). DD and I had breakfast then watched TV/played until 10 when DH got up. I then had a shower while he had breakfast and dressed DD. After he showered (I stripped and washed the bedding and folded some towels while he did this) we did a food shop. When we came home I unpacked and made lunch while he gave DD lunch. After lunch he cleaned the kitchen and I played with DD then we went round to my DPs for dinner. Both of us have done less than your DH and I consider that a pretty productive Sunday! YABU Grin

Seeyounearertime · 08/11/2015 23:00

Why is he expected to know electrics (despite not being an electrician) but you are not?

OPs too busy walking the dog for half the day whilst moaning that OH isn doig the wiring.

FluffyPingPong · 08/11/2015 23:06

seeyou that made me snort Grin

Original poster
Candleabras · 08/11/2015 23:07

My dog doesn't require 3 hours, but he enjoys it and so do I. He's had about 3 and a half hours today anyway.

I do all of the housework, and we have2 teens. Dh is very talented, and did lots more when he was younger. He can make curtains, bake bread, fix a car, cook a fantastic paella, make a table, fix and build a computer, do anything really.

OP posts:
arethereanyleftatall · 08/11/2015 23:12

As long as you have equal amounts of downtime, you shouldn't be getting upset with how he uses his.

Some people play sports, some watch TV, some walk dogs, some shag, some like pottering round the house cleaning, some read, etc etc

Unless he gets way more down time than you, yabu to get upset with how he spends it.