Screaming row because DH made my dinner... AIBU?

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I was out all day on a course. The course info was misleading so I told DH that I'd either finish at 5pm or 8pm but wasn't sure. I also told DH where it was, and he was fully aware that it was a 2.5 hour drive away.

So, I found out when I got there that the course wouldn't be ending until 8pm, but I didn't text DH. Fair cop, that was my fault. I forgot. We're both used to working away and it just slipped my mind. We have no DCs and we just get on with it.

DH texted me at 7:30, but I was away from my phone (he knew that the course I was on would mean some time doing a physical activity so there would be no phones). I replied at 8:10 saying I'd just finished and would be leaving soon.

At 9pm, he texted to ask how far away I was. I replied at 9:20 to say I had stopped at a service station and was having food there. I was with colleagues and wasn't driving, so I wasn't in control of where we stopped and for how long.

He replied "I'll put your dinner in the bin then". I sent lots of replies, but he never responded. Then when I got home we had a blazing row. He said I should have told him I was planning on 'going out for dinner'. I told him that stopping en route at a service station, and realising that everyone else was going to eat so I'd better eat a takeaway burger was NOT in any way pre meditated 'going out for dinner'.

So I think there are two faults here:

1. I was unreasonable not to tell him sooner that I would be finishing at 8. I should have told him when I found out, but I didn't.

1. When he found out I'd finished at 8:10, he was totally unreasonable to then assume I'd be home in less than an hour (he knew where I was, but he said he 'forgot' and conjured up a different location in his brain), make my dinner, then get in a huff when I wasn't there to eat it. Then get in a further huff that I'd 'gone out for dinner' when I'd eaten at a service station.

AIBU to totally lose my rag with him because I've had a long hard day, was looking forward to telling him all about it, but instead got a passive aggressive reaction to eating at Burger King?

It was a veggie burger Calleigh, the only acceptable thing there. It was a choice between that and a KFC (grim)

I bloody love Burger King.

How would you feel if you'd cooked dinner and he turned up home at the later expected time

I'd think 'that's a shame'. Then I'd think ... nothing actually. I don't understand the need for people to make so much drama out of a non event.

DH sometimes has to be here, there or god knows where with work and occasionally he'll forget to give me his exact second by second movement.

We try to be very considerate of each other and, for the most part, definitely are. However, we're both perfectly aware that, sometimes, life gets in the way.

I think you should both grow up .
I assume you don't have Dcs?

Haven't read the wft but don't see the big drama. So he saves the dinner he cooked for tomorrow night. The 'so I'll put it in the bin' chat is childish at best and cuntish at worst.

Glad it worked out

You'd told him you would be leaving soon, so hardly a great presumption to mean you would be home by the time (or not too long after) he'd cooked a whole dinner!

Since when is it reasonable to think it'll take two and a half hours to heat a quiche? Unless the DH, who apparently does 1% of the cooking (might not have been a quote from the OP, cba looking for it), made it from scratch? Hell, I do 99% of the cooking in my relationship and not even I've ever made a quiche from scratch...