to expect a text after we slept together?

[BigOCupOfTea]

So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

Sorry - missed out Jemima

Total now

TEXT 13 DON'T TEXT 6

Once you move to the next stage of sleeping together we all know if a pattern was formed before and it goes quiet that he is of the "conquer then quit brigade"

NO do not text him OP.

Put it down to experience "again"

Ive got fucking iron drawers on now being single and out there

Whatdidhesay???

"Ooh oh, bad day Scarlett ?
It fucking well is like Nam. There ARE no rules. That's my point.
For the record I have a seemingly very nice boyfriend at present, and have never knowingly repelled men.
Well, not until they really get to know me anyway.
My boyfriend generally rings me though. He knows I like him I just let him pursue me a bit. He likes it.

If I knew this bloke I'd be telling him to run a mile.

On what basis?

Because I got hurt previously and may be more guarded with my feelings?

Heyyyyyyyy....

What did he say?!?!???

What did the text say???? B

Good.

I'd not text but would want to and would expect some kind of contact soon.
It might be 2015, but I still think women expect or want a man to do a bit more of the running when they have had sex for the first time, and the OP seems to have some emotional investment in this even though it's just a month in.

OP- the point is, some women wouldn't want a text, but you do. You presumably want some confirmation that you were 'ok' last night, that he still cares about you and that the sex hasn't changed things for the worse.

That's all understandable. But bide your time. If you want more emotionally than he offers then maybe this guy's not for you anyway and his reaction to last night may give you some insight into how he treats people - ie emotional empathy.

What did he say?!

They treated the girls who chased them like fuck-buddies

These are not decent men.

BigOCupOfTea Sun 25-Oct-15 18:26:13
Hes just text now

What did he say?

I think it's DON'T TEXT 10 taking it too seriously

trashcan and the way it was with her DP makes perfect sense to me. (It was so long ago for me and my DH that I can't remember, besides which mobiles weren't even invented then!)

I'd be a bit naffed off if he hadn't texted (that's textED, everone) too OP.

Thing is, either he's a cockwomble, or he's not, and you sleeping with him, or not sleeping with him, or texting him, or not texting him, or any combination of those things isn't going to change that.

So, if you want to hear how he is, then text him and ask.

Probably he's just been in some kind of accident where all his fingers have been cut off.

The one thing that you definitely must do though is update us here!

Send him a whatsapp

Oh thank God for that! What did he say? Please tell us OP, you have to, we're all so invested, we've been voting and everything.

No actually I've had a lovely day. It just really pisses me off when women play games. It 's ridiculous. And, for the record up until 12 months ago I was dating. I loved it, but then again I didn't play games and couldn't be arsed with people who did.

The UN says hurrah to you OP and is dismantling the election apparatus.

Phew! Glad he has, and well done on your resolve NOT texting!

Omg x post, thank god, a text !

Ugh, this thread makes for grim reading re. the state of the dating world.

Blokes know they're "supposed" to make contact first after sex. It's pathetic, but it's the case that the onus tends to fall on them. Unfortunately in this case, I would say his lack of contact today does not bode well. I would send a jokey "er... awkward tumbleweed kind of moment" text and if he can't laugh about the fact that actually YES it is awkward and a bit weird not to have been in touch (if you are used to regular contact and directly after shagging for the first time) then as I said before, bin him off right now and stop thinking about him.

Gah, there have been so many threads recently where all has seemed fine and dandy right up to the moment they shag, and then they disappear with immediate effect. Fucksake. It's pathetic OP and I hope this hasn't happened to you. But IMO whether you text or not is irrelevant here, it is NOT weak to make first contact, I would view it as finding out sooner rather than later whether you need to forget him.

Ha, terrible cross post moment!

Weelllll?????

why on earth is it called "playing games"?

yes of course if you go further and become intimate you would expect the same pattern or more from the person.

WHAT DID THE TEXT SAY?!

Sorry, didn't mean to shout, but we need to know. Was it a-worth-waiting for text?

Oh god I didn't RTFT. I'm such a twat. What did the text say OP?