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to expect a text after we slept together?

606 replies

BigOCupOfTea · 25/10/2015 13:43

So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

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Helmetbymidnight · 25/10/2015 18:17

I suspect the independant adjudicators are feeding their kids. Or watching contraband dynasty or something.

CheersMedea · 25/10/2015 18:17

Op the vote is official. There's someone from the UN and everything. You're going to have to abide by it.

This is rubbish. There is evidence of Moldovian bribery. It's like a FIFA vote round here. I'm expecting Sepp Blatter to release a statement shortly.

Do what you want OP. Internet advice is just that - advice. You can take it or leave it. Although Sepp may not be best pleased

EponasWildDaughter · 25/10/2015 18:17

It's quarter past 6 now. What time did he finish work?

Damn right i'd expect a text by now.

Would i text him? Nope.

Why? I like the bloke to do the chasing.

Morsecode · 25/10/2015 18:18

He might be feeling as insecure as you are. How would you know? TEXT him OP!!

ScarletRuby2 · 25/10/2015 18:19

Fucking hell! Dating is not "like Nam", it's fucking simple. If you like them, tell them. If you want to speak to them, speak to them. If you want to text them, text them. Or sit reading your copy of 'The Rules', repelling perfectly decent people because you test them at games at you made up and then act like a stroppy teenager when they fail. Or whinge and moan when the partner you've captured by acting like something out of the 1950's turns out to be a misogynist.

pinotblush · 25/10/2015 18:19

OP, I only read a couple of earlier pages.

I know "exactly" where you are coming from.

There was a "text" pattern going on that became used to, now he hasn't.

I wouldn't text him either.

He's one of the "quested and conquered" brigade in my book.

Absolutely nothing to do with you being needy.

Helmetbymidnight · 25/10/2015 18:20

Oh I'm so glad someone came along to be insulting again.

'Slike a proper election.

pinotblush · 25/10/2015 18:22

Hope you arent referring to me Helmet. I totally understand the OP.

Notoedike · 25/10/2015 18:22

This is bullshit, who wants a partner who plays these kind of games....be honest and upfront, if he doesn't like it you're better off without him.

Helmetbymidnight · 25/10/2015 18:23

You were v kind Pinot Flowers

trashcanjunkie · 25/10/2015 18:24

I definitely wouldn't text him! He should text you, and if not, then he's failed a test imo.

I want to be with someone who really minds if I'm feeling ok, and would appreciate what a huge deal sex is, and so therefore would fucking text me.

My dp when we got together text me the day after we did the deed, even though he'd been on night shift and hadn't eaten or slept. He wanted me to know how great it was, how delighted he felt, was I delighted, and if we were going to do it all again very soon!

I mean, if he doesn't text, I'd want to know what the arse he was thinking, and depending on what he said I'd decide from there whether to move on.

Life's too short to be with someone who doesn't worship the ground you walk on. And then you can happily do the same back.

ScarletRuby2 · 25/10/2015 18:24

I think she meant me.

BrendaandEddie · 25/10/2015 18:24

sorry, was watching son cook me noodles

TEXT 13 DON'T TEXT 3

to expect a text after we slept together?
IfNotNowThenWhenever · 25/10/2015 18:24

My Don't text was not counted! Vote rigging!

MatildaTheCat · 25/10/2015 18:25

I would be wanting a text from him. However, does he get any of this? Probably not so all this will be floating gently over his head.

and after last night's shagathon he's probably fast asleep Grin

ScarletRuby2 · 25/10/2015 18:25

What test has he failed trashcan? Does he even know the rules of the test? Does he know he's being tested at all? Seems a bit unfair.

JemimaHighway · 25/10/2015 18:25

DON'T TEXT

Text 13 don't text 5

(But sill don't text OP!!!)

BrendaandEddie · 25/10/2015 18:25

YOU DIDNT ADD IT ON AND REPOST

its quite simple this democracy thing

CheersMedea · 25/10/2015 18:25

IfNotNowThenWhenever Sun 25-Oct-15 18:01:39
Someone add me to the numbers please, I can't be trusted.

IfNotNowThenWhenever has voted DON'T TEXT

TEXT 13 DON'T TEXT 4

It's so close. I'm biting my nails. How is the Moldovian bribery vote coming along?

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BigOCupOfTea · 25/10/2015 18:26

Hes just text now.

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 25/10/2015 18:26

For all the people who are saying don't text - just out of interest - is that because you generally don't text people that you've seen that day?

Or do you think that the OP shouldn't text, even though they do seem to talk throughout the day regardless of if they've seen each other?

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 25/10/2015 18:26

Yay, glad to hear it :) Was it a good text?

hairbrushbedhair · 25/10/2015 18:27

I don't think letting men do the chasing attracts 1950s mysogenists. I have several close male friends and Iv seen how their relationships play out - they dated in even relationships for years, they treated girls who chased them like fuck buddies and they fall madly for those who've made them work and feel ready to marry (well in 2 cases, out of 3) after just a few months whereas they said they weren't ready for years and years in previous relationships

And they're all pretty decent men despite this

ScarletRuby2 · 25/10/2015 18:27

If I knew this bloke I'd be telling him to run a mile.

x2boys · 25/10/2015 18:27

oh phew happy daysWine cheers!