to expect a text after we slept together?

[BigOCupOfTea]

So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

People only want you to text because they want some instant gratification!

Do not text! Agree that it will be obvious you are seeking reassurance. Yes, men and women are insecure about sex, so when he does text you be complimentary and warm, but for the love of God don't text him first.
And purleeese can people stop saying " thanks be to Jeebus I don't have to date anymore". Yes we get it, you have a husband, that's lovely but some of us are out here in the trenches, living it. It's like 'Nam man.

I am a bit surprised you haven't texted now just friendly like... Seeing as you've had 5 dates and presumably mutually like each other enough.

What will you do now if he texts late or tomorrow? I wouldn't make anything of it.

Someone add me to the numbers please, I can't be trusted.

Just text him. God, dating is shite. I still remember the nerves after sleeping with DP for the first time, I'd wasted so much time on losers that I had myself convinced that I'd never hear from him again. It has been years now and I can't bloody get rid of him

I vote that he's a fucking arsehole. Go and find someone better, young lady.

helena

There's far too many silly "rules" in this dating lark.

CurlyhairedAssassin That was funny!
It's less than 24 hours I should fucking hope so! What generation are you from that 24 hours is nothing. I'm on social media several times a day, or at least once a day, unless something unusual/important is going on - which you'd have told a dp about. I don't check my phone much no friends but I probably look at it once a day. If I'd had sex with a new person that morning, you bet your arse I'd be checking if they'd texted/facebooked me before a whole 24 hours had passed! Although I'd have texted them already tbh.

For the pointless vote: TEXT (or ring him up or whatever you usually do).

OP, glad you like my username. Not sure of the relevance you think it has though, I didn't really consider all storylines when picking it (I'm a regular poster on a temp name change).

Anyway, I'm sure you will feel all slighted and used if he doesn't text you. If that's better than you texting him then go right ahead and behave like that. I'm personally not into game playing.

Sympathies ifnotnow - I remember my online tour of duty well.
One thing was very clear - Nothing to do with rules - but if a guy didn't get in contact promptly post first shag it was never ever a good sign.

Just text!
In this book I was reading a little while ago the woman didn't call the bloke & the bloke thought the woman wasn't interested in him, so end of budding relationship as far as he was concerned.
Woman didn't ring because she'd been in a car crash & her phone got smashed & she couldn't remember his number.
Though (as in most romantic novels) they did eventually meet up together a few months later.

Not that I'm saying he's got runover or anything like that.

TEXT 13 DON'T TEXT 3

The reason I say this BigOCupOfTea, is that if he is fickle and has changed his mind and so is not worth your time anyway, then the reason why he will be changing his mind will not be because you texted him first:* so therefore, what have you got to lose? So, it's now 6pm, drop him a quick one asking how his day has been and does he fancy meeting up again later in the the week....

*PS And if he is the kind of numpty who changes his mind because the woman texted first, well who the hell wants to go out with someone like that anyway?

I'm saying text.

I emailed DH from the airport the day after. Now we are married. Just saying...

I think he may have got paralysed on the way to the Empire State Building and he doesn't want to be a burden to you.

OMG (you made me use the OMG which has made me doubly cross) text him already!

Hoped he would have texted you by now op. Am all furious in your behalf.

Maybe he is on mansnet with a similar thread going. 'Slept with my new gf last night and she hasn't text me yet. Is it because I was crap/got bo/a wonky knob/not big enough for her. Shall I text her now?'.

And loads of blokes are giving him advice.

I personally would just text him something casual. 'Hope you weren't too tired at work, I am knackered' or something similar. If he replies all good. He might have been feeling shy too. If he doesn't so what. You have nothing to lose now. When you look back it won't be that you text him you were upset over.

Do you have gin or wine?

Please just text i hated all the games that went with dating my dh was a one night stand ten years and two kids later hes still here i remember the angst well from the ages 19 -31 i was dating and forever thinking is this the one!

Hmmmm. I don't think it's a good sign that he hasn't been in touch. I'm on the fence re texting him. Depends how much you like him I guess. If you really like him and your gut feeling is that he's into you, just text him already. But if you only like him a bit and/or you're not sure he's into you, I would leave it and let him do the running.

I was firmly in the camp of letting men do the chasing but when I first met DH he was very shy and awkward, and needed quite a bit of encouragement! So I think as long as one person isn't doing all the chasing all the time, it's all good.

Just send a bloody text!!!

"How's your day been?" Short, non-committal, he can take it or leave it.

PS There's no way I would have let DH get away with it if I hadn't had a feeling he was pretty special (and an inkling he was into me)

Dating can be shitloads of fun, but it's also an absolute minefield

I hope you have a nice night OP.

I think there's some vote rigging on here! It was 3 for DON'T TEXT, then I voted DON'T TEXT and the last count was still 3. I demand a recount! How many more DON'T TEXTS have been ignored?!

bimandbam

Roussette I think there are some "TEXT" votes that haven't been counted either, so it's not personal! It's hard to keep up..