To be really taken aback by this

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I have namechanged as I know the details will out me/the teacher.

DS was playing an instrument in assembly today so I went to watch. All was fine and at the end I went to leave. I completely by accident stepped in front of a teacher (not DS's teacher) and apologised for getting in her way. The response was 'you will be sorry when you have a broken nose.'

I must have looked horrified as she then started talking very fast, saying her dad always said it and that 'hello - it's a JOKE.' I just walked away.

When I went to pick DS up she came to find me and apologised properly this time, and I said it was fine as I couldn't think what else to say.

But I'm not being unreasonable to be wtf - am I?!

If it was a family in-joke, she probably just said it without thinking.

Of course it was inappropriate, but she recognised that and came and apologised to you.

Everyone makes mistakes.

Since when does 'being human' equate to threatening strangers?

No matter how funny it was 'meant' to be it wasn't. Jokes are only jokes if they are funny

It was not a threat!! And who made you the joke police? In her family its obviously considered funny, even if to you it wasn't. It just slipped out. A mistake. She apologised. Shes a person not a robot. You sound very hard work. Dread to think how you would handle a real school based issue.

What outcome do you actually want from this?

Thank you Snoss.

No, I'm not hard work hollie, I just prefer jokes not to centre around breaking my nose for accidentally stepping in someone's path.

The teacher was completely unreasonable. That comment in not remotely appropriate in that context.

I don't Mother.

I wondered what others thought, if they'd feel the same as I did. As I've said once or twice now I don't intend to report it or take it further, but on a personal level I am a bit pissed off.

Report it? Jesus ...

sorry, I would laugh & mark her down as an interesting person to know in future.

OP - it is so clear from what you describe that it was a very badly misplaced joke. I wouldn't give it another thought.

Ah ok, you see I know plenty of interesting people, none of whom have ever mentioned breaking noses in jest or otherwise.

OK, then in the nicest possible way, I do honestly think you need to let it go (let it goooo) and stop trying to be upset about it. :)

YANBU and it wasn't funny if I'd said that to anyone within the school area of any of the schools I worked at I'd expect to have been removed from the school straight away and I'd of either lost my job or at the least I would have received a disciplinary.

Have not RTFT
BUT

Utterly inappropriate comment from a teacher in a school

all else is icing

up to you whether to mortify her about it or report her

either way, that fact that those words came out on the school grounds is a bad sign

It was a joke, obviously not taken well, so she apologised. Not sure what all the pearl-clutching is about, tbh.

I think everyone here appreciates what you have been through in the past and I certainly have the upmost empathy. However, if you let every throw away remark, joke, call it whatever, affect you like this, you will never move on. And I mean that kindly, but you do need to get some perspective.

YANBU to be taken aback by this. It is quite an odd thing she said. Surely as a teacher she would have realised by now that it was not something she should be saying, ever?!

You are right not to report it but I can quite understand why you would find it discombobulating!

One person has said it should be reported.

One.

I and a minority are in the 'it was totally inappropriate but happy to leave it other than moaning on here' camp.

Plenty, plenty more have said I've overreacted, so not sure what you think is 'bizarre' to be honest.

Oh for gods sake. It was a joke, obviously inappropriate because you have gone into pretty much hysterics. She has apologised twice to you and you are still in a tizz about it. You know she didn't mean it as a threat. Try and get over it.

"It's an amusing, tension-lightening saying - and even though you might not have heard it before it is clearly one of those things designed to turn what could be difficult into something light."

No, it turned something normal and everyday into something awkward. Stepping in someone's way and apologising is normal. Making a threat of physical violence as a joke is something you only do if you know your audience really well.

OP, I get where you're coming from. Even if you realise straight away it's a joke, it's still inappropriate. It does seem she knows that and hopefully will rethink it. But it would have annoyed me, especially when accompanied by fist waving and "hello, it's a joke". To which my inner response would be "I know, and it's not fucking funny you dimwit".

Yes, I'm trying, but despite myself, am mildly aggrieved. Mildly.

Gablian, thank you. I really appreciate you understanding where I am coming from.

The only person I can see who has said to report is Atrocious, and I have just read it again.

A couple of others have agreed it wasn't appropriate but Atrocious is the only one who has said to report, as far as I can see.

She said it was a joke, why you need to go over and over it I don't know.

Flambola the OP has already said she was recently the victim of domestic violence that's why she feels the need to "go over and over it". Maybe if you took the time to RTFT then you wouldn't be so baffled.