to ask what's the worst/silliest advice you've seen on here?

[Francoitalialan]

MN is such a tremendous source of info but sometimes it goes wonky. What's the worst/silliest advice you've seen?

Agree totally about the "invite the bully to your child's birthday party" comments. Why if a child makes your child miserable, should they be allowed to make your child's birthday party miserable.

A thread in Aibu right now, about an op H bathing with his 11 year old dd. I just had to chuckle at this reply from one mumsnetter. If you don't report this to SS, SS will be monitoring you, you will be held accountable. Wtf where do people get this information from!

"My instincts tell me..."

You're a stranger on the fucking internet.

Aeroflotgirl - That was me, and that is not what I said. I said if SS later find out that the OP did not report it, as they might if the daughter mentions it to teachers, then yes SS will monitor the situation. That is because the OP will be seen as incapable of protecting her daughter.

I hate when people misrepresent comments and threads like this. It is about much more than bathing, if you read the whole thread as I have. And a child protection officer on the thread has already commented that it should be reported to SS.

I have seen that thread. I wouldn't comment on it because I would have no clue what to advise, I am no child protection expert. I think it probably doesn't belong in AIBU either.

I don't think I have ever known anybody post quite so much about not posting as you, Sparkling!

Every other post I read by you is about not posting on AIBU/Relationships, having AIBU and Relationships hidden, and how awful Mumsnet is.

I know women who have been abused by their DP or ex DP and who do not report inappropriate behaviour towards their DCs, who end up being monitored themselves as incapable of protecting their DCs from people seeking to hurt them.
Whether SS do anything will be their decision. But the advice from many to encourage the daughter to say no to her father and nothing else, is fucking awful advice. It puts all the responsibility to protect herself onto the daughter.

Sparkling is the dog's testicles. You have not seen a representative sample.

I have never said Mumsnet is awful Unlikely. it just seems everyone is an expert and i am certainly not.

I agree with purple

I might namechange, unhide all my hidden topics and go around being an expert on absolutely everything.

I agree with sooty

cleaty unless you are certain that you know what SS will do, it's advisable not to comment. How do you know that they will monitor op? Unless you work in that field, you cannot say. Yes this is a CP issue, certainly op needs to seek advice from an organisation like NCPCC or SS to see what to do.

Come now, I've seen plenty of posts where you state how much you dislike AIBU. Usually on AIBU!

I did say every other post - and many of them are lovely, kind, supportive, but you do also post a lot about not posting

Every SS reacts differently. It depends frankly on how well they are resourced where you live. So nobody can say where the OP lives, SS will react in a certain way. We can say in some areas, ss would react a certain way.

And it is abusive.

I agree with magi for agreeing with me.

Garlick children services responsibility does not end at 16. That's a dangerous misunderstanding to propagate. If anyone is aware of any 16 or 17 year olds who are being abused in any way please pass it on.

I agree with sooty for agreeing with me & agreeing with herself.

Not sure what you want me to say TBH Unlikely. I seem to have upset you in some way.

Hey. I preferred it when it was me being agreed with.

~sulk~

People up to the day before they turn 18 are the responsibility of children's services unless they have a learning disability then that can be extended to 25 via a transitions service. 18+ is adults.

All abuse regardless of age should be reported if they are a vulnerable person

I still agree with you purple

So sorry purple

I agree with you too.

~slightly mollified~

From now only, I'll read implied agreement with me into all Mumsnet posts.

OP 'My new bloke has three kids that I hate. I think he should stop paying maintenance and stop spending so much time with them'

Response 'you should post on step parenting Hun. Lots of us deal with this and can give you support'

My gob was truly smacked by that one.